Issac's Rants

[Lord Isscarus]

Hey guys, Issac\Darwin here, and I have something to ask you.


A couple years ago I had long hair, it reached slightly last my shoulders and it was very healthy, looked pretty good for the most part, but recently I got it cut about a month ago, and I want to grow it long again.


Any tips for growing hair as fast as possible? I'm 14, so I might not have access to some of the options you guys will give me, so try to make it easy and doable, or at least in a teens reach.


Also, I had these massive cowlicks that always stuck up on the side of my hair, and they made it look stupid, any tips to avoid cowlicks? It was one of the reasons why I cut my hair in the first place.


Try to respond ASAP, I seriously want to have my long hair back.

[Albie]

Make sure you keep it clean and cut off split ends to help it grow.  For cowlicks I would recommend some sort of moose or gel.

[Skall]

The rate of hair growth is primarily affected by how often it gets washed and trimmed, it's texture or thickness, and genetics. For some people, they can grown their hair down to their knees with no problem, but it still takes a while for everyone.


Just take care to trim the ends at least once a month regularly, especially if it's thick.


To avoid cowlicks, I usually avoid going to bed with wet hair, because my hair gets frizzy and wavy. With shorter hair, it might not do you as much harm if it's damp, but never go to bed dripping wet. Some light spray might do you good, but apply that stuff from a distance.

[Lord Isscarus]

Hey guys, Darwin\Issac here, this post is about being social as a quiet guy, as I am one.


I have a good friend named Christopher, he's a quiet person as well, and be influenced me as being quiet, due to the fact that I hang out with him the most than my other friends, his silence eventually rubbed off on me, making me be quiet as well.


Being quiet is great, it allows people to think, it allows YOU to think as well, it makes you more mature, it makes you have common sense, it makes you more respectable and kind, your more approachable, you never annoy anybody since you actually can't annoy people due to the fact that you rarely speak, and so on.


I'm a quiet person, I never reveal my emotions at school or at home unless I'm around people who I'm personally comfortable with such as Christopher, I only speak when someone asks me a question or if I feel the need to speak.


I have a deep voice as well, so when I do actually talk, people pay attention since I have a deeper voice than most people.




And while this may all seem great, it's hard to be social as a quiet guy, people may find you weird since you seem so blank or emotionless all the time, or may not talk to you since they are afraid of your judgement due to the fact that they know you are quiet and judge people in your thoughts. People may also find you boring at times since you rarely even talk to them, they could also find you mean as they might not think you want to talk to them, hurting their feelings.


I have a decent amount of friends, about 5-10 to be exact, but I may want a bigger friend circle, or may try to look for a girlfriend to love and hang out with.


Do you guys have any tips? I tried using body language ,but I don't know how, am I supposed to be like a mime if someone asks questions? I don't get it.


But anyway, do you guys have any advice for being more social as a quiet person? And don't say "well just start to talk" because I prefer being quiet and locking my emotions away, as I prefer not to show my true self, and I hope you guys can respect that.

[Josh]

I am pretty much the same

I find however, to be more social, using conversations as an example, stand there an listen and if you have an option on what someone has said, don't make a big deal out of it, just say what you think, keep it short if that's how you like it and then just listen to the response. That's probably exactly what you said not to say but it kind worked for me. I have a solid 8 friends
So I guess just smile a lot. I try and smile and I get smiles back. Everyone wins!

I don't know if any of this helps, I don't really know how to help people. But I try

If you want to talk with someone, I'm more than happy to.

Sincerely
-Me

[Jibz]

Being quiet and social can be both hard and simple.

In terms of using body language, use it more when you're listening. Show the people around you that you are engaged in the conversation. It can be just following whoever is talking with your eyes or nodding or something like that if you agree. Body language is really powerful if you know how to use it and people know how to read it. So I'd just play around with it and see what feels natural to do in the situation that you're in.

You have to be careful though. If I were in a group with a quiet person, and they looked bored/not interested/left out, then I'd try and include them. And if you'd rather not talk and keep your opinions and what not to yourself, then you've got to show that you are in fact included and interested and engaged.

Body language can be difficult if you don't really know how to read it. I'd start by reading other peoples body language in your friend group and try to think about how they're actually feeling. Are they bored? Upset? Happy? Interested? Distracted?

Once you've got the hang of that, then try it out yourself and think, "If I were watching me right now, what would I think I'd be feeling?"

I hope that's helped you out a bit

[Albie]

I used to be really shy and quiet and didn't like it, so I worked at it by just talking to people.  Many of the things that you say about being quiet are just incorrect.  Being more mature and having common sense has nothing to do with being quiet.  I yak to people all the time now and I am still kind.  In fact being quiet makes you more unapproachable as people tend to think you are ornery.

Body language is okay, but you need facial language to work.  Smile, and not one of those fake smiles.  If you are listening, make sure you seem like you are interested as it is easy to look bored.  If I talk to someone quiet and they only give me one word answers like yes and no and not actually trying to engage in conversation, would make me believe that person sees themselves as better than me.  You can be quiet, but don't be completely shut out.  There is a huge difference that many people don't seem to realize.

But some things you will find out are not good if you want to be social.  Like hiding your true self.  Most people catch wind of that eventually and if I am honest to someone about my feelings and they are not honest back, that is disrespect in my eyes.  I won't say "talk more", but you can't expect a huge social life if you close the social part out.

[Vortex Cynbel]

Hey there!


WHOAH 5-10 friends is for me a huge amount! (considering that all these friends are close). You see I am a close guy as well. I don't really talk with people unless it's necessary. I really agree with you when you say being quite is great. For me it really helps me get my things in order. Personally I like being quiet.


Now about you. I wanted to ask.. why would you want to have more than 10 friends? (nothing wrong with that I am just trying to understand since we differ a bit it seems). I personally am happy if I have 3 but very very great friends. I wouldn't like to have more than that ^^; so I am wondering why do you want more friends while the ones you have already (assuming) are great?


Ok since most of the things you said about being quiet and whatnot apply to me as well here's my tip. I started becoming more social about a year ago. What happened to me was something similar to you. A feeling to communicate more with people and be open minded. One thing I hated was spending my time and effort to speak with people that are not worthy my time (in a way that people that I don't usually like) so I still didn't talk to thiese people. Although the people I found an internet in I started asking questions about them. I usually just sit back and observe what they are saying so I can answer myself to these questions. Although I found out if you ask these questions out to them they will most likely reply! and before you know you'll get to be more open!


Hope I was a help ^^ if you need me anything you can always PM I would be happy to talk with you!

[Lord Isscarus]

Albie, I'm saying that being quiet changed me that way, not that it changes everyone that way.


Read before you make assumptions please


And thank you for the advice you guys are giving me, I'll try to make it work.

Post Merge: April 25, 2017, 07:11:50 AMOh my bad, I forgot that I said "you" in every sentence when I meant myself. *slaps self in the face*


Sorry about that.

[Vortex Cynbel]

Glad we could help Let is know how things go

[Skall]

Well, quietness and introversion aren't necessarily the same thing.


I suggest going out into the community, doing volunteer work where you'll have to communicate often. Animal shelters are a good example. Or maybe find a job in retail or food service--that helped me a lot with communication skills.


Another good way to exercise your interpersonal skills is to ask questions. Most people love talking about themselves, and you're still engaged with them, but the conversation isn't focused on you. Especially if the other person likes to ramble.

[Lord Isscarus]

I don't have any split ends, do I still have to trim?

[Albie]

I suggest doing a trim once every few weeks.

[Lord Isscarus]

I know but do I HAVE to for it to grow decently?

[Albie]

You probably don't have to, but it would grow slower.