Issac's Rants

[Michen_S]

It's funny. Though my voice has changed over the years, there were times where I wish it hadn't changed as much as it did.

Back on topic. As said, everyone's voice changes at a different rate. There's nothing wrong with yours. And remember, somehow, when you're talking other hear your voice differently than you do. Try recording your voice and then listen to it, then you can hear your voice like others hear it. And regarding temporal voice changes, that's normal. It's a problem a lot of boys have during puberty, though far from all. It's different for everyone. Eventually your voice will stay on the same frequency, a lower one than your voice had before.
Give it time. Your body will take years to fully adjust. If you have nothing to do in that time, can I suggest finding a hobby? It's not worth just sitting down waiting for your voice to change.

[Lord Isscarus]

Okay, I'm usually intact with my emotions, but ever since I turned 14 I knew something was been going on.


I'm in tech theatre for middle school, and we went on a school trip to the Texas Renaissance Faire and the school bus was a 2 hour long trip, so I decided to listen to some music and take a nap to pass the time. And I was about to fall asleep, but then I could feel the whole bus nearly tipping over, and I heard everyone scream as loud as they could, and I was aware of what just happened, but I felt no fear, in fact I was laughing at how everybody was so scared, people thought I was a phsycopath and stayed away from me afterwards.


There was also a time were my friends dog died and he felt very sad about it, of course I tried to cheer him up and distract him from it, but I felt no sad feeling at all, not even a frown.


There was another time where me and my friend read this news article about some man kidnapping and murdering tons of children and my friend said "this is horrible! Don't you feel bad for those kids?" And I stared at him for a moment with a blank expression saying "I never knew those kids, so no." And then he called me an emotionless freak.


The fact that I'm unable to feel sympathy and am not afraid of death makes me scared of myself. Is there something wrong with me? Everyone thinks I'm a freak......

[John Red Beard]

There might not be anything wrong with you. It sounds like you used to feel more sympathy and fear, but that's changed recently. Is that accurate to say? During our teenage years, our brains and neuro chemistry change a lot. These changes can cause strange and scary emotional effects. Usually that means that emotions get amplified and confused, but other things can happen too. I myself went through a brief period in my teens where I wasn't feeling much sympathy for others, and it scared me too. But it passed. Hopefully it will pass for you too. If nothing else, the fact that you're upset about the lack of these emotions is a good sign. A dangerous sociopath wouldn't care.


Of course, if you're worried you might hurt yourself or someone else, talk to an adult you trust and try to get help.

[Josh]

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[Ventus Fall]

To be honest, a lot of people overreact. I understand why people would be scared of a bus tipping over or feel extremely sad for hurt/murdered people/kids, but there is nothing wrong with you for laughing at the situation or not feeling emotion.
Indeed, you haven't met or had any contact with those kids, so why would you feel bad?
Usually people react like that because it's socially-acceptable behaviour. They have be taught/learned how to do that and follow everyone else's example.

Of course others would find you odd for reacting differently.
Look, it's another story if you want to harm someone else, but having a different response than most people, nothing has to be wrong.

I get sad when my own pets passed away, but I don't get sad when human beings/people I've interacted with (sometimes for many years) pass away. I don't shed a tear or feel sad.
I'm not going around openly either about saying I don't feel anything, but I do understand why people feel sad, and that is what I play on.
Now if I would laugh at someone's funeral that's not only rude but disturbing. I'd not do that. So if such things happen, you might want to get that looked at.

I noticed I am able to help others when they feel sad, as I don't feel sad about the things they do. Often saying: "Look, I don't feel sad, but I understand you feel sad/upset. Or I try to. So while I'm not crying or anything, if you need me to do anything or you want to talk to me, please talk to me about it. I'm here."
That more often than not cheers people up somewhat. They sometimes need someone to be rational, someone who can lay it out for them it's not as bad as they might perceive it, that they can feel happy again.

[Brigand]

Staying calm is way better than mindless screaming and panic. This attitude can help you in many situations. Plus you won't annoy other people by screaming like an ape. Nothing wrong with that, that's actually pretty **censor** good.

I don't see why you should care about death of people that you didn't know. It's just normal human reaction. Someone is being violently murdered, beaten or tortured while you are reading this.

In situations like that I just pretend that I care, I'll give a short response like "yeah, that's horrible/sorry to hear that" and change the subject. You're more of a rationalist while your friends are like "wow I didn't know that people can kill and die. Wow. **censor**".

So no, there's nothing wrong with you. I don't know if you're a psychopath, but not every psychopath is a chainsaw wielding maniac.

[Lord Isscarus]

Hey guys, Issac here, I used to be a quiet person and was very mature, wise and respectful, however I've been conversating and I'm starting to lose it, I'm getting more arrogant and naive, and hardly think of my choices anymore.


And yes, I WANT to be a quiet person, regardless if it's good or bad.


Any advice to get me go my mute self again? I miss that version of me.........

[Willow the Jerboa]

Well I am new here and so I understand if you just look past this...


But one thing I can say that might help is to try Meditation. Calm you inner self and become charged with the person you want to be.

[Lord Isscarus]

Why would I look past what a new person says? Even new people can have significant and helpful thoughts and opinions.


I'm an intellectual, or at least I call myself one, so I try to respond in the most logical ways. And thank you for your advice, I will try meditation, sounds calming.

[anoni]

It shouldn't be about going back, it should be about adapting. Find your faults specifically, what parts do you not like about your new self specifically, what parts should you work on trying to solve?

I'm sure you're looking at your past self with nostalgic eyes, there were probably many shortcomings of your past self too.

[Willow the Jerboa]

 And thank you for your advice, I will try meditation, sounds calming.

If you need any advice on Meditation just let me know

[Michen_S]

We constantly change. You don't necessarily need to go back to your quiet self.  Take your time to learn about your new self. Try to improve your new flaws, or use your new strong side to your advantage. Or, maybe it's temporally anyways. Maybe you're frustrated because of something that happened recently. I don't know, I can't tell.
If you want to calm down, many things can help. Listen to music, take a walk, watch an episode of your favourite show, take a shower, get something warm to drink, hug a friend... Whatever helps you relax. Just take your time.

[Lord Isscarus]

Hey guys, Issac here, I need help with one of my friends.


Now you guys have probably seen more than a few posts of me needing help, and you might call me lazy or dependant, well I'm not, I actually need help


I realized that I was treating my friends like crap and decided to respect him more and treat him better like I should have, he has multiple disabilities but I do not care because that does not hinder his personality, honestly I think he's a creative and fun guy to hang out with, his name is Aaron.


While I'm being much nicer and respectful towards Aaron he tends to not no what he's doing, in other words he doesn't have self awareness.


He could do something weird and dismiss it as completely normal or forgot what he was doing, I'm not making fun of him for this, he has autism and ADHD, so of course he will act different, and I am aware that his disabilities might be the cause of this, but I'm afraid it might hinder his future.


I don't want him doing something weird or unacceptable and have people making fun of him for it, I want him to be more conscious of his actions that way he can be more approachable in the future.


He's also very snitchy, he always tells embarrassing things I've done and tells things that we do regardless if he knows I don't like it.


I know what your thinking "get a new friend" NO I will NOT, he is funny, creative, caring and makes me happy when I see him happy, he's a great guy, I'm just trying to help him out by him being aware of his actions, and he's, I've told him that it bothers me, be usually forgets though.


Any advice?

Post Merge: May 21, 2017, 08:10:11 PMSorry if I misspell things or have bad grammar, I have large hands which makes it difficult to type correctly on my phone.

[anoni]

Hey there!

  You've been making a lot of different R&A threads so you've been causing a bit of clutter. So I've gone ahead and merged all your R&A threads together into one thread, anymore R&A questions you have you should post in this thread (unless it's been long enough that this thread gets auto-locked).

  I've also gone ahead and changed the title to "Issac's Rants" as the title defaulted to "Questions about hair" and I thought this mightn't be the best title. However, feel free to change the subject title to whatever you like (just edit the first post in the thread).

  If you get confused about which posts were belonging to which thread, the subject of the post is still the same. So a post with the subject "Questions about hair" is concerning that thread specifically.

  Hope there is no serious inconvenience.