Jackass Dad

[guest22811]

Gonna get straight into this.


My dad's 'grudge' against my dog.

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This started last month. My dad would take Clyde (Maltese dog) to the park daily and play with the other dogs, etc. and after that, when we got home, he would put Clyde in a shallow tub of warm water just to clean his paws since the park was usually muddy (fair enough). However, on one particular day my dad forgot to wash him and Clyde went to bed from exhaustion. He kicked Clyde out of the bed to the bathroom (literally **censor** kick).


Since that happened, Clyde had started beginning to fear my dad and would now sleep in our room and hang around with us (sister and I). I dunno if my dad took it personally or something, because he started to begin being a bitch to Clyde. Some of the things that he said that really hurt my feelings were


"We should trade Clyde for another dog"


"Should we sell Clyde and get a westie"


"Malteses are arrogant"
Me: "are you saying that clyde is arrogant"
"No im saying malteses are arrogant"


And he would always say this in a passive aggressive sarcastic tone, as if he were making fun of me. He also makes exaggerated smiles to flip my shit off.


He also started to focus all his attention to my cat. Sometimes, when Clyde wanted his attention, my dad completely ignored Clyde and focused on 'Look at how cute and smart Alex(cat) is!!' This pissed the **censor** out of me; my dog really likes my dad, but my dad is being a whiny asshole just because Clyde wanted to sleep and not take a bath one day.


One thing that happened last night was that my dad and I were in the study and the cat walked in, jumped onto the table and started to walk carefully around the stuff on the table to the window. He immediately said 'Look how careful alex is, so smart and intelligent'.


He also completely stopped walking Clyde, so I started to do it instead (not too concerned about this)


Now, I thought this entire thing was just him having a small mood swing, but no. He's really being a c**t.


My dad usually feeds my dog in the morning and night, and it's kinda like a common routine now. Only thing is, since the day of the dog-kicking incident, he stopped feeding him without letting us know; I only found out until yesterday when Clyde began to beg profusely, something he never did. I gave him a small handful of dog food, and he ate it all without hesitation and began begging for more. Since then, he's okay now, but to completely cut off a **censor** NECESSITY FOR LIVING and NOT TELLING ANYONE is just-

His cheap attitude

The fridge is full of the same shit. I hate pizza. I late lasagna. I hate noodles.
We eat it so often that I've gotten completely sick of them (its been two years).
This is because my dad is obsessed with discounts, especially the ones at Aldi (Small supermarket chain in Australia). He would not touch anything that isn't on discount. Most of these discounts are on the same products.


Now this is understandable, but it's hardcore; he focuses too much on saving money. He bought dog waste bags for Clyde last year, and we're not allowed to use them since it's a 'waste of money' (he makes us use **censor** newspaper). The entire roll is literally untouched.


We're not allowed to use straws, even though he have like, an entire arsenal of them.

We're also not allowed to buy treats for Clyde since they're never on discount.


Either our household is broke, or my dad's using all the money on himself.
He has a 4k monitor in his room, the newest Surface laptop, a shit load of high quality speakers and a phone.


The only reason why he bought the phone was to lowkey brag to me on how he could afford this shit but I couldn't. He doesn't even use his phone since he has no friends to call.


Slightly unrelated, but he borrowed $850 from my mom and still has not paid it back. I wonder where that went.

[Malach1te -- Marauder]

Honestly, just ... wow. I can understand being frustrated at an animal and perhaps avoiding them for a day or two till your nerves return, but the length and way he's doing it is just wrong. He can't replace an animal, let alone a dog, with another animal. He's hurting himself by constantly being upset and Clyde by being rude and physically hurtful to him. I would talk to him about it, but only if it's safe to talk to him about his problems. Feed Clyde in his place and give him love, I can only hope that your dad will grow up.


We have an Aldi's over here in Ohio, and we serve a lot more than what you have there. I'm not sure if what's on discount there is what's over there but we have meats, fruits and all sorts of goodies on discount constantly. Next time, maybe go shopping with your dad ((if you don't already)) and try to point out other discounted products. If coupons are an issue, the local newspaper generally prints coupons for local stores and most stores have a 'newspaper' that has coupons/deals in it. Try talking with your dad about food, try explaining to him that you can get a lot more for a lot less if you are a smart shopper.


My best answer is that he is one of those people that sacrifice everything for new gear, but your dad needs to realize he's not alone and you and your sister and suffering due to it.

[Malina]

That's pretty messed up treating Clyde like that over such a small thing, does your dad have any other experiences with animals ? Maybe from childhood ?
And honestly to me, if this is sudden, sounds like some form of reactive disorder, where he's acting up because of some other event in life. Has anything else happened in his /your lives recently which may have sparked it ? You can PM me if it's a bit personal

I know my dad used to be a super cheap person as well, albeit nowhere near that stingy. It started after we were nearly evicted and couldn't really afford anything (inc. food), but we've recovered from that with some counselling and (forceful) guidance from my mum.
In the past did you guys find yourself struggling with money or during his childhood ? Often this behaviour is triggered by a past event, which is why I ask. The buying things just to brag is a bit strange, seems like he's trying to feel superior in this way because he can't in any other way. How's his work life going, maybe he's facing discrimination or some form of suppression there ?

I know Aldi is a super cheap place, and usually nearly everything is on discount. Like Wastings said you might want to go with him and point out some other (healthier ??) deals which are there.

Good luck anyways, you know where to find me if you need help with anything

[Ventus Fall]

So it seems to me your dad has been having issues for a while, only 'recently' with Clyde.
Has anything happened in his life recently, though, to make him so mad at Clyde? Has anyone spoken to him about his behaviour? Not only with regards to Clyde, but other things too?

I would suggest you write down whenever your father says means stuff about you, your dog, etc. When he does stuff. Write it down, also when it happens (time, date).
If anything horrible happens in the future, which I hope doesn't, but then you'd have a documented record of it and can hand it over (a copy, of course) to the correct people.

Because if someone is violent with an animal, they can be violent or turn violent to other human beings. It's already horrible Clyde is getting the hits, but for your own safety... Keep these things written down somewhere, but make sure it's a place your father can't find out.

[Captain Degenerate]

Wow your dad is a grade A arsehole atleast my dad tries even if he never taught me a thing especially about being a man yours is just totally hopeless.


Lmao I reckon he is either hoarding that cash he should be using to feed his family or blowing it on stupid trash he dont hardly use like that phone.

[guest22811]

About my dad's behaviour and 'life routine'

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My dad would frequently make immature jokes/responses. Some of these go like this.


Me: "What's making you angry?"
Dad: "I'm on my periooooood" (Imagine a very sarcastic tone)


Me: *question about something he has done wrong in the past*
Dad: (Don't know why he says this but it's **censor** annoying) "Good for me!!!"


I have no idea if he truly has a disorder or not; most of the time I feel like this is so, but I hate to say this because it sounds so offensive.


One of his hobbies is to play violin. Only problem is, he always opens the doors as if he were trying to make us hear it; it's rather horrible playing. I am of a higher grade than him, and when I offer critique he ignores me and acts salty towards me for the rest of the day.


We barely talk to him since he always locks himself in his room and doesn't let us in.
He says he doesn't believe in having friends; he always disses my mates and friends by saying that they are 'passing clouds' and that they all blow away, but in an extremely negative tone.


My dad does not work. He takes the money from *our* child support and my grandparent's elderly support.
Bitch.



He does have experience with animals, and absolutely nothing recent has happened. He just gets into mood swings a lot, but this dog situation is taking it a bit too far. I tried but couldn't find anything that might have sparked a reaction.


We have never had financial issues in the past. However, I don't know if we even have these issues since he wont tell me.

About the shopping part:

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I used to occassionally go shopping with him, only thing is that he always dismisses what I want and searches for a cheaper alternative.


This also started happening a few days ago.


HE HAS COMPLETELY STOPPED BOTHERING TO SHOP FOR US


The fridge is completely full of frozen junk like pizza and lasagne, but the bottom part of the fridge with basic shit like milk, yoghurt, fruit etc is completely barren.
My dad hates spending money for us.
He often buys junk food then hides it away from us (what even).
However, now he's completely stopped.


Yesterday I realised that I had an immense craving for sugar and we didn't have any, I went and grabbed raw sugar to eat.


He also stopped washing the dishes properly, he just pours dishwasher over everything then dips them in water and lets them dry, usually leaving obnoxious residue on the cutlery.

I have already been doing that Ventus, thanks a lot fr your input though. He has indeed gotten more aggressive and stubborn throughout the years and I don't know what to do about it. After all, I'm rather hopeless.






If you guys want I can in fact, record a conversation with him to show that this is all legit since some of this sounds very fake/may sound like me in the "I hate my parents phase" but I don't think it's a good idea since it's violating his rights

[Vosur Aekira]

Depending on what he is doing and how he is treating you, this might be something to take to the authorities (child-services most likely) since this could be either a case of negligence, though you would need to get it on record somehow.