My brother wrecked my car

[Calun the Bat]

I CAN'T F*****G BELIEVE THIS.


This car. Our family friend/mechanic bought ME this car. Bought it FOR ME. With ME in mind.


And because our family has bad car situation, my dad tells my brother to use mine. (not in my name yet, since it was bought FOR me)


AND MY BROTHER TAKES IT TO KARAOKE WITH HIS F*****G FRIENDS, AND THEN GETS IT TRASHED ON THE WAY HOME.


I had some.... serious SERIOUS trauma in my past that kept me from driving for YEARS. MANY YEARS.


And this new car got me driving again.




Ask Nori. She was there when I got behind the wheel in this car for the first time in over 5 to 8 years.




AND NOW IT'S WRECKED BY MY IRRESPONSIBLE, SELFISH MAN CHILD OF A BROTHER.




If the car can't be saved.... him and I are DONE.


I might have to can my convention now. AAAAAAGGGHHHHHH

[Ventus Fall]

I'm sorry to hear, Calun. To put it lightly, that was not very nice of your brother to do so

Was it an accident? Did he get hit by someone else or something?
What I mean is, can any money be claimed back to reduce the costs you have to pay for the car damage?

I think you should make sure your family talks about how your car situation is going to be solved, because you shouldn't have to pay for damage caused by someone else.
If your brother drove it, he should pay up for it. If he can't now, then in terms. That needs to be a written contract too.
This situation needs to be directly approached. I know you don't like confrontation, but in order to solve this as best and as quickly a possible, try to get these things solved immeditately.

[Calun the Bat]

The car apparently cost too much to repair compared to the buy price. So they're scrapping it. I think I managed to convince our guy to pull the back window out and transfer it over, that way I at least have a piece of the original, the stickers (which are for sentiment. a fantastic con experience with the best friend, and remembering my first time back behind the wheel after all my problems with it).


He said for 100-200 more, depending on labor cost. So I tacked that on, and my brother is allegedly going to be paying for it all. Replacement vehicle and everything. Allegedly.

[Armalite_]

First, I think it was wrong of your dad to offer YOUR car to your brother without asking you first if it was ok. Your brother sounds like a wasteman with little regard for other people's property, no offense, but I'd take him out back and beat him with a stick if I was your dad.


Although it's good to hear your brother will be covering the cost of a new car, I hope it's the same one if not better. If he doesn't I'd tell your dad to replace it since he offered up your car in the first place.

If I knew my kid was going out to party, I'd tell him to take a cab, regardless of how many cars were available. Allowing someone to go out drinking in their own car is just plain stupid. He's lucky he didn't kill anyone or get arrested given how trashed your car is.

[Calun the Bat]

Ugh. Agreed.


I love my dad, and I appreciate how kind and tolerant he is. But the problem is that because he never (apparently) saw a need to enforce any actual discipline in him, he's now a grown man taking full advantage of this family, and nothing will ever come of it.


In the meantime, while I've not been perfect, I've always done my best to listen to my parents' requests or "house rules". Now that I'm grown, we have a good relationship built on mutual respect and familial kinship. - And my brother is still basically a spoiled elementary school kid who thinks everyone owes him the world. He always plays the victim, and I hate it.


Our mechanic/family-friend said that he found a couple he has his eyes on that are the same everything, just different color. I also asked him to transfer my window out, because it has stickers on it from Califur. Which is not for the simple sake of it. I was in a crash years ago (not driving, a van T-boned us by running a red), and the officer I spoke to told me that I literally should've been smashed from my ribs down, and they had no clue why it didn't cave in and crush half of my body. That ruined me for driving, even though I wasn't even driving when it happened.


When Nori and I drove to and from Califur, I just... got in and went. She said she could drive us back to my place if I needed, but I said no. I was a little nervous, but comfortable and willing. Just ask her. And I was not only comfortable to do it, but happy to do it. I drove well. Better than I did when I first drove. That car and the memories of spending the con with my best friend because of it. All of that trashed because my stupid, selfish, uncaring brother decided it was more important to take MY car to go party.


Mechanic said that we'd have to pay another 100-200 for labor to remove and transfer the glass to the new car. I said to do it.


My brother can pay the extra money for ruining the one thing that fixed a problem inside me that I didn't even really know I had.

[Nori]

*snugs* I know I've spoken to you privately (obviously lol) but ugh. The whole mess with him is just nuts. The little bit I saw him when I was over with you guys he was a bit extreme, just the vibe he gave off and how he talked to you and your dad. (And when he drove us back down the last day of Califur I was a bit worried how much he yelled).

I'm glad he's at least mentioned spending some of 'his' money on getting the new car for you. I hope you get one close to what you had, I know you really liked it (and heck I did too, minus no A/C )
You seemed comfortable, didn't dart around, turned smooth, and accelerated and braked nice and easy, once you took your 10 minutes or so of getting used to it.

I hope he actually steps up and does SOMETHING akin to what he 'promised', I have my doubts, but we'll see.

[Ventus Fall]

He said for 100-200 more, depending on labor cost. So I tacked that on, and my brother is allegedly going to be paying for it all. Replacement vehicle and everything. Allegedly.

Sorry to hear about the car...
As for him saying it... Please try to get it on paper with his signature. No joke. If he won't pay up after a while, you can easily take further measures. In the worst case, a judge will highly value that sort of thing and will make sure you get that money your brother promised you.

[Calun the Bat]

Thanks guys. I'd give a longer reply, but again, it's late and I want to get into bed.


Our mechanic came by to drop off one of the cars he was working on. He ended up finding a way to Frankenstein it. In short, he's going to be buying one of the (identical) cars he was considering as a replacement for me, because they have BEAUTIFUL condition bodies and such, but a couple problem parts. So we're taking the good, and moving it to my wrecked car.


Downside is that instead of being the dark green it was when she was alive and rolling, she'll be green in the back with white parts up front. - The upside is that we'll be able to save MY car, instead of replacing it and worrying about transferring the window.


It also means that my brother will have less to pay off. Which, is probably good. While he DESERVES to pay twice the cost of the wreck, at least, I also know that it would mean it wouldn't be paid off until we're both in our 90's.


Anyhoo. It's good to hear that he's going to save my actual car, even if it is going to be a bit ugly in color until we can have it painted.