I have a two friends who won't leave me alone.
This is my third year marching and I've for three years dealt with her. She started talking to me the first day of band camp my first year and she's stuck to me, even though I only had a brief but polite conversation with her maybe three or four times.
She always wants me to sit next to her on the bus, because she has no one else to sit with (she refuses to make friends for some reason, though she is completely capable of functioning in society like any other human being). Normally I wouldn't mind but she complains almost the entire ride and I do my best not telling her to be quiet. She also hangs around my friends but rarely talks to them and doesn't try to make conversation except to say 'it's hot', 'it's cold' or 'I'm thirsty'. Complaining is one of my biggest pet peeves, especially since most complainers don't do anything to make their situation better. It drains me emotionally to hang out with her since I have to listen to her crap. She always wants me to come with her to get a drink of water or to the bathroom even when I'm clearly busy shining my mellophone or helping the freshies with something. She's constantly hugging me or jumping on my back (she's fairly petite) or leaning her head on my shoulder. And I only like physical contact if I'm your extremely close friend or if I just need a hug.
Her dad forces her to be in marching band, and she hates it, so she doesn't even try to stay in step, roll her feet, practice the music, or keep her flute up (it's a **censor** FLUTE, I can keep my seven-pound melly up perfectly) and it's annoying; one person can bring an entire group down in a competition if they don't do their best like the rest of us.
I don't want to be rude and tell her to just leave me alone but she's not getting the hints I'm dropping. She whines if I want to sit next to my other friends and I'm tired of making lame excuses. She's sensitive and we're a small band so it makes things extremely awkward if there's drama or tension, you can't just move away.
I just have to keep going for two more years, but it's getting hard, since she just broke up with her boyfriend. I need to figure out a way to tell her I need my space, without coming off as 'you're annoying and clingy'. But it hurts me when I see someone just sitting alone because I used to be that person. Even though I'm shy, I still try to include everyone who I can, especially newbies who are still in middle school since it sucks and there's a lot of social pressure and it doesn't get better until college.
The second friend is someone I've known since seventh grade.
She used to be really cool and nice, but she's tried to embrace kind of a mix between hipster and emo. She listens to BVB and Pierce The Veil but acts like everything retro is so awesome and that all new music sucks because it's about sex or drugs or money, which isn't true and not all songs that are about those things are bad. Singing about a certain topic is just that artist's way of expressing their experiences/opinions on it.
She writes disturbing fanfiction about my friends doing... wrong things and posts it in Skype and she makes us review it.
She acts like she's 'insane' and for some reason she can't stand any of my guyfriends, she always tells them to **censor** off when they rarely speak to her or she's not even a part of the conversation. She just butts in.
She's also friends with one of the biggest bullies I had in eighth grade.
I don't know how to deal with them... I really don't like girls my age.
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