I understand what it feels like to be rejected (especially in my younger years) by those who were a part of things of which that I wanted to be a part of. I also have, to be honest, heard what you've mentioned before. I've actually been at quite a distance to the furry community due to the certain aura many furries to have about them, however I saw that this site and a few others seem to be really friendly as Trixsie said. But it's not "furries" that are the issue, it's "people". If you get with people who clash with your personality and values you're not very likely to get on. Finding people with the same interests is one thing, finding people with the same/appropriate mindset is another. The side effect of everyone being at least somewhat unique means that no one can entirely get on with someone, even those who love each other deeply will argue/disagree on certain things. You may just had perhaps met all the wrong people or simply communicated the wrong way with the types of people you met. Note also that you cannot just expect people to want to be your friend - people can very picky of who they make best buddies with and over what time period (especially on the internet, for example). Just like you may feel you should be allowed to avoid being friends with someone who you hardly know and see as potentially uninteresting, they are, too (especially if they're introverted and don't want any extra close friends).
If you've ever loaded your stresses onto others too much this is also another common reason for why people may reject you (it causes them to feel bad as well when they may feel they shouldn't have to) - not accusing of this but this is a common reason for being rejected - also, if you think people in the high street are actually happy, you may find you're actually quite mistaken, it's merely to encourage the overall mood and loading your issues onto others has the opposite effect on the overall mood (a negative one). Try to think and act positively and you will encourage positive changes to your social life, thinking and acting negatively will only fool yourself into dwelling on the idea that you're still in a negative situation and lead you into further rejection. Things will get better, count your blessings in life (compared to the other billions of people in sheer poverty) and take advantage of being free and alone while you are (a more social life isn't always an easy one). Even if you have not done this so far, I feel I must mention this for your future reference.
I don't approve of drug/alcohol use due to health and wealth risks, though people take such substances for reasons, such as to reach a high for some period of time so they can just for a while take an edge of their life stresses. "Some" people who have much internal stress and don't take such substances may be more domineering in any small social group that they participate in and because they don't get on as well outside such circles they may attempt to dominate and ridicule certain members of the internal circle if they're not quite "alike" them enough.
Another reason I don't approve of drug/alcohol use however is because for plenty it can also make them more violent as well. I for one do not drink alcohol or take recreational drugs and do not cast out others unless they are a danger to the status quo (though, I do believe in giving others chances). Though, my point here is that you can meet the nicest people who drink or take drugs, but you can also meet horrible people who don't.
I'm sorry to hear about your mental and physical harm, have you talked to your psychologist about treating any remaining feelings? If you show any signs of any persistent PTSD-like symptoms I'd recommend you try to talk it through with a professional (especially if you have had experienced direct cyberbullying).
I can't say I can be your mate but I can be your friend if you want me to, feel free to PM me if you ever want to talk
Topic: Furries never accepted me (Read 1724 times)