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Offline Calamity

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Advice please
« on: May 31, 2013, 01:56:21 AM »
I haven't been in many serious relationships there was one with a girl that I liked but we both realized we were drifting apart  and broke things off that hurt for a while but I got over it. Now I really like this guy. We have been friends with since the 6th grade we are kinda like brothers. He came out of a difficult relationship last year. He is now ready to find someone else but I'm not sure if he is interested in me and I don't want to ruin our friendship if things don't work out so I've choose to let it be but I realize if I don't try to give it a shot i might be missing out on something great but I'm not sure how I should approach him.
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Re: Advice please
« Reply #1 on: May 31, 2013, 09:13:24 AM »
  First thing is that open communication is super important. I think you should tell him your feelings about him but also the feelings about the situation, so tell him you like him but also you're worried that the relationship might not work out and explain why you worry that way, see what his input is.

  Generally, I always think it's a good idea to take things slow, so if you and him do decide to go into a relationship it would be a good idea to at first see it as more of a casual thing rather than a super intimate and serious relationship. Just spend more time now, eventually build up the intimacy but keep it casual for the first few weeks (so if things don't work out, it's not as bad or as dramatic). After the first few weeks you get a bit more intimate, just kind of let this flow naturally rather than algorithmically, and eventually if you two are compatible you'll find yourself in a fantastic relationship. If you two aren't compatible and you took it slow, you might be able to see that you aren't compatible before things came too serious and breaking up won't be as harsh on you.

  I'm sure things will work out but first ask him HIS opinion on the whole subject and go from there!
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Re: Advice please
« Reply #2 on: May 31, 2013, 10:33:30 AM »
Anoni know's what he's saying, trust me on that.


Also my advice would be to think about what could be going on with you on a mental and emotional level.
To what extent do you like him and do you think he could ever feel the same towards you?
Do you think that this is real and not just a rebound?
Could you see yourself dating him?
Could you realistically see him dating you?


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Re: Advice please
« Reply #3 on: June 19, 2013, 12:24:54 AM »
If your heart says go for it i say follow like others have said be open and honest about it and he'll probably do the same for you. Hopefully since you've known eachother so long he'll either be interested or be polite about not wanting to change your relationship. I wish you the best of luck i always like when stories have a happy ending.


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