sigh..what's an ocelot to do?

[drexylp]

 So, I'm in this long-distance relationship. Before, I always thought people who had them were kinda stupid (they never work out, you know). But, when he moved away..I couldn't let go. I thought (by some insanity) that maybe the love demons would work some magic, just for me. Well, I was mistaken. And now..I'm disappointed every time we try to hang out. Something always gets in the way. Like, I think a tree would suddenly sprout in the middle of the road for the sole purpose of causing me to veer off the road in the opposite direction of Boyfriend.  It's no exception this weekend..he always makes promises he can't keep.

Now, you guys are always really supportive (this I know). And..I'm hoping for some advice. I mean, if we broke up it would destroy me..but I don't know if I can wait much longer.
sigh..
  :'(

[WingedZephyr]

Long-distance relationships can work, it just takes time, dedication, and patience from both of you. My boyfriend and I have been in a long-distance relationship for the past two and a half years, and we're still fine. It hasn't been easy. We normally get to see each other about once a month, sometimes less, sometimes more.

It just depends on how much you guys care for each other and want to stick with it.

[AirRaiser]

I'm in the same boat as Zephyr. I've been in a long distance relationship for 3 years. But like any relationship it takes two people to make it work. Yes it sucks, but if you and your boyfriend are willing to do what it takes, it will make your bond stronger. The time you do spend with each other is more special.

[Vee Katame: His Wolfy]

(they never work out, you know)

Wrong. It's just that the only ones people ever hear about are the ones that don't work out.
My boyfriend now lives with me, but before now our relationship was a double whammy. It was started online (though we moved to talking on the phone) and was long-distance.
We started dating December 2007. He moved here November 2009 (it's almost been a year that he has lived here actually). So that means that for almost two years, we were in a long-distance relationship, which we obviously survived since we are still together. During that time we saw each other about two to three times a year.
I'm not going to tell you that it's easy, because it's not. You're both going to have to work hard to make your relationship work. Believe me, I felt hopeless on several occasions where I would break down into tears and beg him to hurry up and move to my state because I felt like I just couldn't take the distance anymore. But did he let me give up? No, he encouraged me to stay strong, that we would get through it together. (Anytime I look back on it, I feel like I was such a huge baby, but I'm normally very sensitive emotionally anyway.)
Basically what I'm saying is that you both need to be there for each other to lean on. And consider yourself lucky if you still live within a sort of reasonable driving distance from each other (which is what I got from the tree sprouting up in the road in front of you while you were driving thing).
So like I said, it's not going to be easy and you're going to have to work at it every day.

And AR's right, your bond will become stronger through it all if you're willing to work at it and the time you'll cherish the time you get together even more.

[drexylp]

Thanks so much guys I get in these weird, lonely moods and just HAVE to post about it. I'm pretty much in the same position as you, Zeph, and am glad to know it doesn't always crash and burn. My mate and I can work everything out, I'm sure of it

[WingedZephyr]

Good luck, I hope it works out for you.