Gf probs, any advice?

[Redclaw]

(Didn't wanna retype, so you get my MSN chat!)

my gf is bein confusing

like, she used to say she wanted to marry me one day, y'know, if everything went right, and that she would never leave me

but she has a crush on this one guy

but she's not gonna do anything about it

but now, she's sayin that "She's too young to know who she wants to marry"

like, she knows she wants someone like me

but she says she doesnt know if it is me

yet she still wants to stay together

and try n get married one day

and idk what the heck shes tryin to say

[Ares the Ram]

It seems to me like she doesnt know what she wants. She seems willing to keep it going with you tho, so if you want to keep what you got, just keep doing what youre doing. Girls are confusing. Dont try to decode them. 

[Redclaw]

murr... i guess. Its just hard when she's changing things she's said to me

[✡]

seems to me that this is the point in the relationship when she doesn't know what she wants/wants to accomplish. Give it some time and make sure that she remains faithful, I think that she will. If she is with you now, then you must be what she wants. She's just making it hard for herself

[Redclaw]

Yeah. Thanks Drakefox And I kinda see what she meant now too. She just kinda realized that she has a long time to make the decision of who she wants to marry, and while she hopes its me, she just feels there's no way to be sure until we're walking down an aisle.

I dont like it, but she's my gf and I love her, so I'll do whatever it takes

[josh_down]

girls aren't confusing ... *people* are confusing. believe me it doesn't get any easier when a man tried to decode another man. depending on your age i would say that the too young option is a pretty viable thing, especialy if you're in your late-ish teens/early 20s. best thing is to not worry about any of that when you're that age... you have the rest of your life to worry about things like that so spend what little time you have in your fit/able young body not worrying!!!

[WingedZephyr]

She just kinda realized that she has a long time to make the decision of who she wants to marry, and while she hopes its me, she just feels there's no way to be sure until we're walking down an aisle.

That's it right there.

People can change, a lot. Over a few months, a year, or five years. Anything can happen, and most of the time it's something you'd never expect. People can grow apart, no matter how much you don't want that to happen. It just sounds like she has realistic expectations. That she hopes your relationship continues on well, but neither she nor you can know exactly what the future holds.

It's nothing to worry about.

[Redclaw]

girls aren't confusing ... *people* are confusing. believe me it doesn't get any easier when a man tried to decode another man. depending on your age i would say that the too young option is a pretty viable thing, especialy if you're in your late-ish teens/early 20s. best thing is to not worry about any of that when you're that age... you have the rest of your life to worry about things like that so spend what little time you have in your fit/able young body not worrying!!!

1. well, i wudnt know how confusing a  m/m relationship is, but i'll take yer word for it!

2. if by fit/able, you mean sexually fit and able (since thats how it sounded), it's not really an issue, since we're not havin sex till we get married. i respect that rule, but its a pain wen it seems literally EVERYONE around you is... ah well...


and thx zeph, that helped

[✡]

in my opinion no sex before marriage is a first class steaming load of...well we won't say that word....would you buy a new car before testing it out?
but if that's how she feels then you should respect her feelings...

[Redclaw]

never said i didnt respect that rule. i even said i do. its just kind of annoying to see ppl younger than me doin it, and know its years off for me

[✡]

Alright best of luck to you redclaw:)

[Redclaw]

thx Drake! We're already havin good luck (not that way :p)

[Self-sain]

Sex is the last thing a relationship should be about, there isn't anything wrong with waiting, and it only makes it that much better

[Redclaw]

again, i never said it was all i wanted. i would never go out with someone based on looks/sex appeal. i have to like a person before i'll be theirs. It's just, idk... i really wanna wait, cuz i do believe itll be worth it, but its so far off, and i have those days... anywho, just sayin i totally understand what you mean sain.

[Self-sain]

I know what you mean about those some days , but the best things in life, are what you wait for