Advice: Telling others about being furry

[CalTheFox]

Suppose you're right Puncia, I am in to art and want to learn to draw Furry art, and if they ask why I draw so many animal/human drawing and I end up having to tell them I'm a furry and they ask what it is and then I try to explain which probably go horribly wrong.
 
 They are very questioning. I would like to have a furry desktop wallpaper (clean), and they would ask why I have a animal/human thing as my wallpaper. And then here comes the whole explaining thing again. I want to freely express myself as a furry but avoid being asked what my furry wallpaper is, or my furry shirt, or my furry drawing, or furry figurine is. I feel really passionate about being a furry (non-sexual), I want to express myself and it will only end up in questioning and I'll have no idea what to say.

[MrRazot]

Cool to say dude, I'm in the exact same boat.
Judgemental parents and all.

I realised it's fine not to tell them at all.
I can understand you will feel guilt in not telling them but you just have to realise that it's just about the same as telling them you cut your toenail and named the fungus Fergus the Fungus.
Rather silly


Then of course if you do tell them then you have to realise that they haven't seen the negative side of it.
I told two friends and expected them to be like "WTF DUDE"
the reaction I got was very different


your call

[Puncia]

If they ask, keep it simple. Why do you have an animal on your desktop? You think it looks cool. What is that you're drawing? A creature you thought up. Inspired by the Lion King or.. Robin Hood or some other movie you've seen.

[Beatnory]

I just say, Don't make a secret of it but also don't gonna tell them if they aren't asking.
It's like Puncia sad, See it like a hobby.

[voiced otter]

For me I have only told a few people, but am now just telling more people slowly. And those that I do tell are those that I trust. And if people ask then sure I will tell them, but yea. to me it is no secret, and will be a bit more open. Most I have told are fine with it, or didn't know of it, I also asked those I have told not to tell others until they see a post from me on FB. But most I have told are fine with it.

[Cifero Windtail]

Something I've learned...
It's hard to tell people bout being furry when they don't know what it is...
But thankfully, they're more accepting.

[MrRazot]

I guess the best thing you can do if you're determined to tell someone that you're a furry is to say
"im a furry"


if they say "what's that?" you can go and tell them your version and they will be fine
if they say "oh... okay" they know what it is and you can ask why they reacted like that and then tell them your version and they will be fine
if they say something more in disgust then they're obviously either a rubbish friend or an epic friend depending on the aftermath


you can also play the stupid card on your friends and ask if they know what a furry is because "your one friend said he is one".
depending on how they react, it could open a new way of saying you are a furry or even make you realise it's best not to tell them.

[Aoren Deringer]

You could go about it how I did.
Say "I'm a furry" and then walk away
Depending on company that can go either spectacularly badly or end with everybody feeling bored.
The best advice I can really give is to only tell those who absolutely need to know (a good rule of thumb for most things) and make sure they understand exactly what your saying. Don't allow personal research, as people tend to gravitate towards the dark end... And if that's where you are, then it's best to come from you and not google, eh?

[pawz9]

I only tell people that i believe absoluteley need to know as such only two people know that im a furry their the two people i care most about in this world

[anoni]

I think you should say what you want to whomever you want. For example, people who come out about being homosexual to their parents, they don't often NEED to when they do, but they do anyway, it makes them feel better.

  If you want them to know then tell them.
  If you think it will make you feel better, tell them.
  Just remember you don't absolutely have to tell them.

[FoxyKevy]

well I'm a new furry, and I actualy came here to ask for some advice instead of giving some, I mean, the only person I've told is my furry friend that I know. I'm Bi and right now I have a boyfriend, how do I tell him I'm a furry? He knows that my friend is a furry and I never heard my boyfriend say anything bad about furry fandom but I'm unsure how to talk to him about it. 

[Scout the Fox]

You just gotta come out and say it to people before they have the chance to assume that we are all freaks. I mean this seriously. Some of my friends at school are constantly slamming me for being and I quote "NEWS FLASH FIRST STRAIGHT FURRY RIGHT HERE". Trust me, you dont want them to get the wrong idea from shows like South Park and American Dad. Btw, I really dont care if you are gay, straight, or bi. A furry is a furry to me.   

Post Merge: October 08, 2012, 11:32:09 AMI agree with righteous bro. Saying it like a normal thing despite all of us being abstract like someone said earlier, is the best way to go. Most of my friends understand what a furry is A.K.A not always a furvert. Still some of them look up furry on google and they find all of these stupid stats about how we do all of these things. That's why you have to say it normally, or people will make up lies and believe me, you don't want lies spread about you. Because not only you will be hurt...

[ArcticSkyWolf]

I wore my ears and tail to school for halloween, no one implied anything. I'm guessing they assume stuff.

[JYNXthefox]

i need some real help now. my dad sees my anthro art, fox hats,tails,collar,everrything and he thinks im going crazy. he says that i need to stop wearing that "crap" and go back to being civilized humanbeing(he is anything but)and play football. for one i hate football  and for 2 he is coocoo for old farm stuff so what should i do?

[Scout the Fox]

You need to tell him what it's all about in a way that he will understand. Make it sound as positive as possible. Show him that you have other interests than most people. Difference is a good thing