used to be scared of coming out to people. Then I realized, who cares? It's a lifestyle and if they can't accept me for it then that's their problem. I wear a collar everywhere, except home to keep my little sister from asking 24/7. And yeah it doesn't work fr everyone, but when my stepdad found out he laughed and didn't have a problem. Since then I feel it is way easier to talk to people about it. So my adviceor that 1000 ways to die one
1) make sure it's not completely random
2) ask them if they have ever heard of the fandom
3) if the respond negatively then drop it if you want, if positive or unknown explain to them what it is and that you are one.
4) DO NOT let them research furry on YouTube. This tends to make more haters than fans I've seen
5) congrats! One down 4.6 billion to go!
Well I have a bit of apprehension about just flat out saying I am even a full blown furry. I have a attraction to the realm of possibilities and a deal of interest in furry art and media. I also think that few people have sat back to think about the very depth of what an anthropomorphic world would be like. For animals to express, think, act, and create just as mankind has. It is a brain buster for sure and to think of everything that would come with a “society” where animals have human personalities and characteristics. The world would have much of the same problems but with a large twist. Sorry I don’t want to rant… but that’s what I am thinking about and the whole being judge as a “perv”, believe me I got a load of that when I even mentioned my interest. So I can understand the “unwanted reaction” some people may get when trying to explain or “come out” about anything with such a negative stereotype stapled to it. and as for how to come out I would recommend keeping it to my most intimate and understanding friends, the same people I would feel safe talking about sex, politics, and religion with. Where I will not feel hurt, even if they object to it. Does any of this make since? … :?
wow i like hex's approach, in my opinion, its better not to tell anyone, in my case its easier, cause nothing has changed since i went furry.... cept that i come here..... just ask Garth...
There are extremists in every fandom, and whether we like it or not, we get clumped with them. I don't run around pumping my fists in the air yelling "FURRY PRIED!" and if I ever did I'd expect to get my face pummeled by myself later. I can have my fun making fun of furries if they deserve it, (which some of them do when they compare their social struggles to the HOLOCAUST. I KID YOU NOT, there are furries that do that) and I can also take a joke if it's made at me. It's not a lifestyle, but it's never presented a problem to me.
Furry interesting :)
... we're all insane cultist fetishists who think we can talk to animals...I lol'd at this.
My advice: If you make it seem like it's something to hide, people will think it's something worth hiding. If you treat it like a confession, people will think it's something to confess to. If you're going to tell someone your a furry, do it casually and be willing to laugh about it ^_^
used to be scared of coming out to people. Then I realized, who cares? It's a lifestyle and if they can't accept me for it then that's their problem. I wear a collar everywhere, except home to keep my little sister from asking 24/7. And yeah it doesn't work fr everyone, but when my stepdad found out he laughed and didn't have a problem. Since then I feel it is way easier to talk to people about it. So my adviceI have never heard of this collar thing please explain :?
a decent percentage of furries who have come out wear a collar for whatever reason they choose, whether to be able to be told apart by other furries,show the world that they are furries or just because it keeps your neck warm.
a decent percentage of furries who have come out wear a collar for whatever reason they choose, whether to be able to be told apart by other furries,show the world that they are furries or just because it keeps your neck warm.
yeah one of my friends instantly said "oh my god your a furry! can you get me anthro porn?" to which i abruptly punched him in the face..
I was planning just to tell my friend's, I don't think my parent's need to know 0:)
Post Merge: June 22, 2010, 11:45:48 PM
And also my friend finally accepted me, I just wish he didn't tell the whole school :$ *FacePaw*
I was planning just to tell my friend's, I don't think my parent's need to know 0:)
Post Merge: June 22, 2010, 07:45:48 PM
And also my friend finally accepted me, I just wish he didn't tell the whole school :$ *FacePaw*
Bah, makes me wonder how he said it to people... "OMG DIDYA KNOW [AnthroFox] IS A FURRY?! LOLz!"
Yesterday I showed my dad these forums, explained more about them (and used the word furry this time), and even told him about the negative things many people think furries do. He has no problem with me being in the furry fandom. I haven't explained the convention part yet, but I'm sure it won't be difficult to do so. Should I bring up my artwork? I know they have anthropomorphic art there.
Yesterday I showed my dad these forums, explained more about them (and used the word furry this time), and even told him about the negative things many people think furries do. He has no problem with me being in the furry fandom. I haven't explained the convention part yet, but I'm sure it won't be difficult to do so. Should I bring up my artwork? I know they have anthropomorphic art there.
Glad it went well. :) I don't see why showing him your artwork would be a problem, as long as it's not "adult" art.
friend and i are having a massive arguement... :'(
using tips from this thread
So, luckily, I got to introduce a lot of people to the fandom and educate them on the REAL furries.Furry is pretty much an ambiguous term that depends on what the person interprets it as. This is a "problem" and, at the same time, simplifies it and makes it more innocent. I know a handful of furries who are in it because of the porn, but honestly?
That teacher is awesome. We need more people like that!
I mentioned TFF in an in-class English essay today. I trust my English teacher so I'm not too worried. If she asks questions I can answer them, and I'm sure she won't freak out about it.
Well my Mom, Dad, Brothers and most of my friends know that I'm a furry, and none of them care. ^_^
I'm not really too worried about some one beating me up for being a furry, as it would be a huge mistake on their part.
i hate to be hatin on all of you guys cause i'm not really, but i do wanna say this;
you guys seem to treat being furry like people treat being gay. it's really not. being furry means nothing more than what kinda music you listen to or what kinds of games you like to play. the idea of 'coming out' as a furry to me just sounds totally ridiculous. it really is not that bigger deal.
i hate to be hatin on all of you guys cause i'm not really, but i do wanna say this;
you guys seem to treat being furry like people treat being gay. it's really not. being furry means nothing more than what kinda music you listen to or what kinds of games you like to play. the idea of 'coming out' as a furry to me just sounds totally ridiculous. it really is not that bigger deal.
I never treated it like that although with my wording it may have sounded like it, I just never was "really" into it up until about a month or two ago.
I don't hide my hobby's.
i hate to be hatin on all of you guys cause i'm not really, but i do wanna say this;
you guys seem to treat being furry like people treat being gay. it's really not. being furry means nothing more than what kinda music you listen to or what kinds of games you like to play. the idea of 'coming out' as a furry to me just sounds totally ridiculous. it really is not that bigger deal.
...Best idea, don't treat it like it's bad to be a furry. Don't shout it out to the world, but don't try to hide it. Just treat it just like any other interest, because it's nothing more than that.
Shouting out how you're a furry will make people think you're looking for attention, and trying to keep it a secret will make it appear like it's a shameful, terrible interest.
It's as easy as saying you like to watch anime, or read and write comic books.
My interest is drawing and writing and/or watching and reading about anthropomorphic animals.
Simple as that.
Many people, including non-furs, like cartoon characters such as Mickey Mouse, Bugs Bunny, Garfield, and other popular anthropomorphs. I'm sure even anti-furs like them! What is so bad about liking those types of characters? NOTHING. What's so bad about making you own character based on an animal? NOTHING. That's what the creators did to create their cartoons.
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i hate to be hatin on all of you guys cause i'm not really, but i do wanna say this;
you guys seem to treat being furry like people treat being gay. it's really not. being furry means nothing more than what kinda music you listen to or what kinds of games you like to play. the idea of 'coming out' as a furry to me just sounds totally ridiculous. it really is not that bigger deal.
I said something about that a few pages back, I believe....Best idea, don't treat it like it's bad to be a furry. Don't shout it out to the world, but don't try to hide it. Just treat it just like any other interest, because it's nothing more than that.
Shouting out how you're a furry will make people think you're looking for attention, and trying to keep it a secret will make it appear like it's a shameful, terrible interest.
It's as easy as saying you like to watch anime, or read and write comic books.
My interest is drawing and writing and/or watching and reading about anthropomorphic animals.
Simple as that.
Many people, including non-furs, like cartoon characters such as Mickey Mouse, Bugs Bunny, Garfield, and other popular anthropomorphs. I'm sure even anti-furs like them! What is so bad about liking those types of characters? NOTHING. What's so bad about making you own character based on an animal? NOTHING. That's what the creators did to create their cartoons.
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I wouldn't say that if i was you, She is a she XD
Hello, I am 15 years old and i really want to tell my mother that I'm furry and i think that she'd understand. I've written out everything i wanna say just how i wanna say it. but I'm also worried that maybe she wont understand. I mean its really nothing bad to me and i don't think she'd see anything wrong with it i just need to get the guts to do it. Maybe someone here has been through something similar and if so could you please give me advice? I'd really appreciate that.
thats kinda what i did with my mom. told her i was a furry and life went on. Tho on my birth day she told the rest of the family i was a furry which kinda ticked me off.
if the furry ambassador fails or you cant get a furry ambassador, you need to rebel. Does your father live with you? Tell him about it in a calm, serious voice, and if he hates furries, show him this site and other furry places that are good slices of the pie. If your father is not there or cannot be convinced, your Pastor is the one you'll have to talk to about it. He should be the most accepting, and with a little talk he should help you fight back against the oppression. If you can convince none of them, you are alone in the actual fight, but not without our aid. You will rebel by wearing the collar and going here openly, and you shall declare you are a furry, whether they like it or not, in a calm serious voice. Use no sarcasm, any attempt at humor is a risk. Speak to every other person they throw at you about your being a furry, and if none of that works, I think there is some legal action you can take about it being child abuse. Hope this helps.Your taking this way out of proportion. I dont think a parent forbiding their child from something they see as dangerous is child abuse, it's just regulating the house they own.
Hmm. I suggest not wearing your collar as a conversation starter. I told me parents that I'm a furry and... well... To be honest, it wasent pretty. My mom yelled at me, cried for almost an hour, and then degenerated into cruel jokes.
Are you jealous of the dogs, because they are actually furry?
It was pretty bad. Now I'm signed up for a psychiatrist and a PASTORAL therapist. Great. So much for open-mindedness. :(
She also signed me up for a mentorship program, considered (and still is considering) sending me to a home for troubled teens for a few weeks and made me 'pwomise I wont go on any furry sites, or call myself a furry, or wear my collar or anything like that ever, ever again!' Loverly.
Now I go on here in secret... And hope beyond hope she doesent search for me online.
Generally, what I'm saying is know who your dealing with >:( :( :S
Yeah....she did spaz a bit.if you were a comrade you would understand, but you are not.
*thinking for a moment*
Well uhm.....yeah I can say uhm...like....just point out the good?
And when it comes to the jokes. Just let them slide. parents make rude and unhumorous jokes ALL the time. If you lived with my dad you'd know 0,0.
Uhm but yeah I suggest you explain in a calm tone, explain all that.
My explanation to my mom was thus: It's just like anime =D But cuter =D
I mean sometimes simplicity is the key, my friend.
.....communism? whats that gotta do with anything O_O?
you are correct on that, however you need MANY small talks to sway an opinion, sure it would take quite a bit of work, but if it works then your in the clear.Communism dont venture into it. Sorry, but im against it, as its destined to fail. Human psychology just prevents communism from being workable. I'm not saying democracy is the only way to do anything, but i find it a much more workable thing, if it wasn't quite the way it is today. Please don't bring politics into this, as its just flamewar bait. do something that will actually help solve the problem.
Perseverance, Dedication, Hardwork.
Communism.
she cant force you to be something youre not. Be proud of who you are Aor. Stand up for your beleifs!Lol. Tried that, will continue to try. She's... Well, she's a good person, but unfortunately a bit of a zealot, so she doesent except much.
Whats you're age?
I swear, we need to meet on other sites as well as this one so we can become friends, because your 18th birthday is the day your salvation arrives man! It shall be something for us all to celebrate! ^_^
I suggest you get a treasure box to put your collar in and hide the key... I certainly hope it's not gone, coz if yes, it's clear she's gone too far with this.
...I also feel really bad about this but how do I pronounce your name?
Good for you tatter! I am also atheist bi and furry but somethings keepig me in the half truths
mwha, i've gone insane,
so i got philosophical at work the other day (happens when it's too boring and i think too much) and decided to mostly take my own advice.
So i went on facebook last night, created a note about me being atheist/bi/and a furry, and tagged my friends and family....
everyone should already know I'm atheist, i know some family turned a blind eye to me being bi, and i dunno about being furry though i described it (i hope) well enough to make them realize it's a fandom like dressing up as Data from star trek, only furrier and cuter lol.
So now no one has any excuse not knowing im thoses three things, i dunno, during work, i just suddenly got tired of having to live half truths to some people, and said f'it, im just going to be me!
Moved your thread to the appropriate advice thread, Sir Crocodile.
Yeah I guess I could let them figure that out. :P
Now I need to work on a fursona.
Lucky you o.o
my friend is now telling my mom I'm harrassing him cause I asked why we weren't fried cause he thinks I'm a freak for being furry o.o
Tee-hee.Congratulations! I hope that all goes well!
My cousins know today.
I'm also out of the closet. Well, not like, out. I just notified the family ahead of time not to be alarmed if i hook up with a guy.
Same thing here, I doubt very much that they know what a furry is, that's why I can have furry art laying around and they just get confused :DTee-hee.Congratulations! I hope that all goes well!
My cousins know today.
I'm also out of the closet. Well, not like, out. I just notified the family ahead of time not to be alarmed if i hook up with a guy.
As for my attempts to announce that I'm a furry at school, they aren't going well... due to the fact that nobody there right now seems to know what furries are.
Well, not really. But I do have a problem.
Y'see, Ma knows I'm a furry (hell, who doesn't) but she would be the only one who is CONSTANTLY making cracks about it. Not only that, she is convinced that it is "of the 'enemy'" wherein said enemy being Satan (and as such, she is getting more and more confrontational), and is now enrolling in seminary. I foresee a dark era in my life. Does anybody know a way to diffuse the situation, peacefully?
I will wait till they ask me if I am a furry or not, then tell them then and explain as much a possible.
*Another Tip*I will wait till they ask me if I am a furry or not, then tell them then and explain as much a possible.
Blammo! ace in the hole strategy. If they ask, chances are they already have a clue, and you admitting it probably will not come as much of a surprise... Thenagain, it depends on what their face looks like when they ask.
*Another Tip*
If they start accusing you, just tell them that you are a furry. There isn't a point for lying about what you are.
My mom makes funn of me now ._.well thats a nice way of celebrating the end of the world :D
Aaaaaaaaaand itsa all cause i wanted to go to furfright. But then we made an agreement and i can go in 2012 IF i keep my grades up!
When I first told my parents I was a furry, they were like, "srsly whut the heck." But I explained more, and then my parents were, "ok that's cool."derpheads? right onn :D
Sadly though, some people at my school think I'm a perv. >:U
those derpheads. xD
on top of that she got me my first collar.you can wear a collar around your friends and they will probably ask why you are wearing that. Then you can tell them. Therefore, they are asking you rather than you telling them which in practice is better.
Hmmm... I might try that...wearing a collar around them...?
Yeah. It might work.ima try that in september, at school...
we did that at school. we got mostly negative responces.what happen?
we wore our collars to school and we got some negative responces. some thought it was cool though.define negative
well not to talk you out of it but some people would make comments of it being stupid or sometimes treating them like sex toys.
cant wait for a designer to use collars and make it fashionable, even though it kinda is right now. it's just not reconized yet. And yes, those two a) b) are the most common things collars relate to, and not furry T_Twell not to talk you out of it but some people would make comments of it being stupid or sometimes treating them like sex toys.
Same here. Some people around here think anything not designer fashion is either:
a) Goth/emo aka "Of the devil"
or
b) Sex gear
funny thing is not a whole lot of people know what a furry is. i dont see how this is possable i mean commady central makes fun of us all the time. we were on g4. i dont know maybe the excitement of talking about us has died off.unlikely, we are mocked all the time by trolls and i mean u dont see goths or bdsm on tv a whole lot now do you? furries seem to be on tv way more then those two groups. i dunno, never seen furries or the two groups on tv yet, like on teh news.
One of my bosses is terrified of clowns and mascots so I googled anthrocon and showed her a picture from anthrocon 2011 and she said she had the same apprehensive reaction to the picture...so I won't be popping out of her birthday cake in a fursuit anytime soon!
She was curious how I developed my liking of furries though, and didn't think negatively of the whole thing.
I decided to test the waters and ask a few other co workers today if they knew what a furry was. All of them said no and when I told them what I was into, some looked at me funny and said they couldn't see spending $1500 on a good fur suit
Some of them thought I was yankin their chain and dismissed it until I told them I was serious.
I was pleasantly surpised that no one made fun of me or thought I was stupid for being into it. The ones that were curious asked questions and the ones that "didn't get it" thought the idea was ridiculous but didn't look down on me as a person.
How have people reacted/responded to "the news" for you? ..that is, if you tell people. ...or are you not supposed to tell people? Oh crap! Am I doing it wrong?
-Moxx
they have a pictrure of two furs in fursuits on a couch with eachother.which is like the back to the show from the commercial break thing. Yeah, I remember that. They could change it up a bit, maybe put a colourful one or two.
people really have to stop thinking that furry is like homosexuality in any way. it's not. homosexuality is a sexuality... furry is a sub-sub-sub culture (probably not even that). pretty much no one will know what it is unless they're involved in some way, so the best way to tell peopleI agree, why do people think it's with homosexuality? Probably because the fandom is full of open-minded people. Or maybe because some of the furries that are our there smear the furry fandom everywhere.
the only person who knows about me is my mate, and since i moved, now nobody gets me the slightest.well you could always look for another fur that lives nearby
i thought i had kind of made friends with these girls. they liked cool and funky stuff so i felt pretty comfortable. but then they brought up furries. and i got all excited. but then they started saying how its purely a fetish thing and for sexual pleasure....and i tried to enlighten them....but they basically ended up calling me an animal [removed] and wouldnt listen :(
my roommate doesnt mind that i wear my ears when im derping around the room, but i wish i could wear them on campus.
im starting to think that i'll never make friends in college.
well you could always look for another fur that lives nearby
Has anyone tried my approach to it?Very useful, but I would say that it's like DeaviantArt but a lot more friendly. :P
It's the exact same way I treat sexuality; Pretend like everyone already knows without making a deal out of it. That is - don't search for a reason to mention it but don't fret if it fits in the conversation. Example:
"Yeah I've thought about posing my drawings online but I hear you get a lot of flamers and trolls..."
"Not really, I've posted some stuff on FA without a problem."
At some point, somebody will wonder what you're talking about or not be able to follow you. In which case you explain it as if you're explaining anything else unimportant.
"What's FA?"
"FurAffinity. It's like DeviantArt, only more furry related."
And you answer their questions from there. With this, you make it less important, less tense and a lot easier to process for the other part.
Very useful, but I would say that it's like DeaviantArt but a lot more friendly. :P
i think that my parents know im a furry cuz i have it save in my favorites. and they like to go threw my computer.
i started wearing my collar to school again along with my hat that i shaped like a tigers head anb people keep asking me why i wear the collar. it was then that i realized how hard it is to explain to someone what a furry is when they dont know what an anthropomorphic is. so i tell them to look up what anthropomorphic means and then when they do look up the deffinitoin for a furry. afterwards they like to think that i wasnt to be a dog.I thought of wearing my collar to school one day, wel Halloween is in 30 days, I would wear it then. It would be a good excuse, 'becuz itz haloween'' and then theyw ould ask what I was suppose to be, either that or they jump to conclusions and stuff. Or I can wear it during the dance at night, no one would see it then :P. I would totally wear it when trick or treating, assuming that I can go by myself.
just out of curiosity what is the gsa?
Gay Straight Alliance.I have that at my school, what does GSA do anyways? Talk aboit issues on homosexuality, stuff like that?
Just recently I was outted by sister, to my dad that I'm pansexual. He was very excepting and all like, I still love you but don't tell your mom. X3 But then I told him that I was a furry and his face fell and was like "I know what those are.." And it was like, I have worried so long to tell them I was "gay" and he is all worried about me being a furry. Like seriously dad, I don't do it to dress up and yiff everyone. I think he would have rather I said I was doing drugs. He quickly changed the subject and I havn't discussed it with him since. How should I go about setting him straight?
i found a creative way to come out to my parents- i changed my sig on my phone to Furry Pride!my parents (and brother) are among the only people I don't want knowing my furryness XD props to you my friend ^_^
now i know that they know that ima furry! makes it easeir on me! also a good way to tell friends simply by texting them!
Nya, I'm currently in the middle of Kansas going to see my cusin who I havn't seen in AGES. She Says that she knows what furries are then she started laughing. :/It's okay. Welcome to the forums, Neko!
I don't understand why she started laughing.
(Sorry if I seem weird about all this. Myboyfriendtold me about the forums and I had to make one right away. 0:) )
I don't get this. I pretty much never talk about furries or being a furry. There just doesn't seem like much of a point. Everyone has their weird little hobbies and quirks that they have but don't really talk about. It's sort of a jarring and weird thing to bring up. I guess I might mention it if I was talking to someone and we got onto the subject of weird stuff we do, but otherwise it would be awkward to put in a conversation. I've only mentioned it to a couple other people in passing, and they didn't react much to it.
What makes people feel like they have to talk about it? I really don't want to seem rude, I'm just genuinely curious. XD
Yeah it doesn't really matter it's just that Wikipedia (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Furry_fandom), Furry Dolphin (http://www.furrydolphin.net/2009_files/furry-history.html) and Wikifur (http://en.wikifur.com/wiki/History) do not agree with what you're saying :P
Wouldn't this be better off in its own thread?I think this is more in reference to how telling others you're a furry has complications to the history of the term and how its definition alters person to person :3 Certainly, it's a reason why I've told no one of my interest in it.
This may be off topic but do you have to wear a colar if your a furry because i dont and if i did im not sure how i could explain it to my parrents
This may be off topic but do you have to wear a colar if your a furry because i dont and if i did im not sure how i could explain it to my parrents
How would I explain to my family that I am a furry?
Well today marks my second day I've been wearing my collar....the question doesn't end T_T . Even though I'm not going to give in, some people didn't even question,people who don't give F's,but this collar is a symbol of who I am and what I'm a part of, I can't give,I never give in its just not the DK way. As long as my heart is beating and my noise is sniffing I won't back down(fire in eyes) >:3
I dunno :/ they can be very closed minded...
Very cool. Same goes to my family.
You martial arts friends don't tell them till you are really god friends. Or don't tell them at all. As they say (some things are best left unsaid.) :)
I told my mom two days ago, I tried to describe how I see the furry fandom and she was like: "Hmmm... Interesting, can I see some of that art you mentioned?" I showed her some pic on my phone, and she said: "I don`t care what you like, if you`re gay, straight or if you change gender. You are my son and I will always love you no matter what. And thank you for telling me, its nice that you trust me enough to tell me stuff like this."
So, just tell your parents how it is, why you like it and im sure they will understand. If your friends start hating on you cause you`re a furry, they were no real friends anyway.
I told my mom two days ago, I tried to describe how I see the furry fandom and she was like: "Hmmm... Interesting, can I see some of that art you mentioned?" I showed her some pic on my phone, and she said: "I don`t care what you like, if you`re gay, straight or if you change gender. You are my son and I will always love you no matter what. And thank you for telling me, its nice that you trust me enough to tell me stuff like this."
So, just tell your parents how it is, why you like it and im sure they will understand. If your friends start hating on you cause you`re a furry, they were no real friends anyway.
Exactly! :D
I was lucky that my family didn't flip out when I explained myself being in the fandom. They are totally cool with it, though an annoying thing about it is that if someone in an animal costume is on the TV for whatever reason, my dad is like, "LOOK! A FURRY! IT'S A FURRY!" :P
Got any questions, hints, or suggestions about telling friends, family members, etc. about being a furry? Or a story of your own experiences you'd like to share? Post them here!I was straight up with it to my parents.
Why do my folks think I have lost my mind for buying a fursuit ?Well, its not normal, and iam considering too. These suits can averege 2500 for a full suit, and that is an investment that not all people can make. Think of it as yiur friend l8kes gmmes so much he wants to have gnome plastic surgury. It can sound a little extreme.
please help
Will my family ever except me for who I am or not?you don't have to come out as furry
She's ok with it but thinks its kinds "different" and when I told her about fursuiting she thought it was weirder... I told her that some people go too far and make pr0n but I told her I'm not into that whole part of it. She said she really doesn't understand it and said if I saved for a fursuit she wouldn't object... But where to come up with $1,500.....Higher quality fursuits can run up to 3000, below, it might be 1500 if you make it yourself.
I'd most likely get a partial suit. I don't have the self control to quit smoking to save $3,000.... I also don't want to make a full body dtdShe's ok with it but thinks its kinds "different" and when I told her about fursuiting she thought it was weirder... I told her that some people go too far and make pr0n but I told her I'm not into that whole part of it. She said she really doesn't understand it and said if I saved for a fursuit she wouldn't object... But where to come up with $1,500.....Higher quality fursuits can run up to 3000, below, it might be 1500 if you make it yourself.
To come up with that kind of money, save spare change at a start, conserved energy, water electricity etc. Saving up those extra pennies add up.
QUOTECEPTIONI'd most likely get a partial suit. I don't have the self control to quit smoking to save $3,000.... I also don't want to make a full body dtdShe's ok with it but thinks its kinds "different" and when I told her about fursuiting she thought it was weirder... I told her that some people go too far and make pr0n but I told her I'm not into that whole part of it. She said she really doesn't understand it and said if I saved for a fursuit she wouldn't object... But where to come up with $1,500.....Higher quality fursuits can run up to 3000, below, it might be 1500 if you make it yourself.
To come up with that kind of money, save spare change at a start, conserved energy, water electricity etc. Saving up those extra pennies add up.
I still don't know what to do and I don't think I ever will.In our case, if your this's worried about telling people, maybe the best thing to do is not to. I understand wanting to be accepted by others with the things you enjoy but if you truly think they're going to react poorly, just keep it to yourself. With your sister, I think that well, if you already brought it up, just don't bring it up again, and act like you never did, that way it won't leave a lasting impression... If that makes sense
If you're willing to wait on it you can always buy a fursuit with a tax return! It's how I got my first suit and went to my first con. c: Only if you're patient though. x3I'd be able to save faster than if I waited for a damn tax return... Especially if I quit smoking
Will my family ever consider me normalThat is an unknown but I will tell you this: Even if your family doesn't accept you for who you are, I can say with great confidence that just about everyone here especially me will always accept you and appreciate you as one of our friends.
I've always felt that animals are the purest spirits in the world. They don't fake or hide their feelings. and they are the most loyal creatures on Earth. And somehow we humans think we're smarter- ...what a joke.
I'll try my best to turn that condescending tone into a priceless moment.I couldn't of came up with better advice!
Note that my sister has Furry Friends at school and is totally fine with them.
Make sure your fiends know the correct definition of a furry before you tell them.
Yeah, did not do that, and turns out the person i told just did not know the whole definition of furries.
Running around and shouting at the school that i'm some sort of perverted moron.
Make sure they know the CORRECT definition of furry before you tell them.
That is key.
Thank you.I hear that. still trying to find a place to live after that flood... I miss my house. not my family, just my house
Its valuble information i lerned the hard way.
First, before telling them, you should ask them what THEY think a furry is.I think that is a very important step tostart with
That's the right thing to do and hey we all have that someone who drives us up a tree.I drove myself up a tree the other day... stayed up there all day.
i have randomly said it to some of my friends and i used a positive video to go along with it one i used was telephone being cute and thats how i did it really they understood after that and when they asked about the csi episode i said yea i know that one its just bull
Don't make it out as a big deal, don't say "this is who I really am" or anything else like that.This is so true. You shouldn't treat it like a big deal. Just treat it like a casual little thing you wanna show her, and if she has the wrong idea off the bat, be prepared to explain away any misconceptions she may have.
If YOU make it a big deal, than SHE'LL make it a big deal
It's a hobby, you're a fan of anthropomorphic art, you meet with people who are also fans, you have met some really awesome friends on the way and it's just a way to socialize and share a common interest.
I say that is a very good idea moonwolf I was around my best friend when I came out as furry it was hard for me to because I was new to it and I new I was different but did not know what way. I was also struggling to come out of the closet and be excepted in that way as well. I hope it all works out for you moonwolf and know you have friends on here that are willing to help you in your life.
I just was scrolling through memes on my phone, and up came my fursona. He didn't say he hated it, but he had a kind of omg lol no reaction. I asked him if he didn't like furries, and he said no. Judging from the way he didn't want to explain WHY, I'm guessing that this is another example of how we are completely inaccurately viewed as perverts who love odd mutated animal porn. I blame tumblr.and 4chan. Don't forget it
A lot of people in Enlgand just are like:
"Ha, what a knob."
And that is that! I suppose it's better than being continuously harassed and discriminated, instead of that just a one off comment of "What a knob." hehehe...
I mean sure, some people like it. That's cool. But don't judge. I mean if different sexualities can watch different kinds of porn without being viewed entirely as that, why can't it exist for us?
I just was scrolling through memes on my phone, and up came my fursona. He didn't say he hated it, but he had a kind of omg lol no reaction. I asked him if he didn't like furries, and he said no. Judging from the way he didn't want to explain WHY, I'm guessing that this is another example of how we are completely inaccurately viewed as perverts who love odd mutated animal porn. I blame tumblr.and 4chan. Don't forget it
Help! I kinda just tried to tell my dad that I was a furry, but he already "knows" what they are. I tried to get him to understand that furries aren't just what the media thinks they are, but he will not listen. He still believes that furries are just people that like to do it with other furries in costume and crap. Help me please.Ask him for what political party he's going to vote.
Help! I kinda just tried to tell my dad that I was a furry, but he already "knows" what they are. I tried to get him to understand that furries aren't just what the media thinks they are, but he will not listen. He still believes that furries are just people that like to do it with other furries in costume and crap. Help me please.
Well I didn't think he knew they existed, but his description seems to come from CSI Miami or Vanity Fair MagazineHelp! I kinda just tried to tell my dad that I was a furry, but he already "knows" what they are. I tried to get him to understand that furries aren't just what the media thinks they are, but he will not listen. He still believes that furries are just people that like to do it with other furries in costume and crap. Help me please.
It would surprise me if he really knew what they are. I would actually just ignore it until it becomes a problem.
Obviously we all want to do our parents proud, but being a furry isn't like being homosexual. The stigma only exists because we think there is one.
That would be weird right? It's no different than that, you don't come out to doing stuff like reading books or going to the gym
I've been a furry for about 2 weeks now and i'm wondering do i tell people.If you want to. As the others have said, there's no requirement you do so. You also might want to wait until you've been a member of the fandom for longer; you'll be seen as a more reliable source on the nature of the fandom that way.
i don't know what they will think but i just want some one else's opinion
Amethyst, I showed a friend the headshot you did. He was actually very impressed - and he said that it reminded him of me when he looked at it. I'd told him about me being furry a couple of weeks ago and he had no idea what I was talking about! xD
I haven't encountered any where I live, but I haven't really asked anyone.
told my boyfriend i was one, turns out so was he XD XDSame thing happened to me at my new school 3 years ago. First person I become friends with on my first day, I tell him that I'm interesting in animals and anthropomorphism and he replies "Actually, me too".
Actually I've told a few people now and all of them are ok with it. It's no biggie, to be honest. Maybe in the US, where everyone's perception if reality is distorteb by media and cringe videos on youtube, it could be more probelmatic. But I've had no problem "coming out" as a furry to people, at all. Again, it's not something that defines you or which is bad. It's an interest, and that's it. I think that a lot of people make it worse than it actually is.
It seems as the furry fandom is fairly unknown here in the Netherlands.
But I do know that if you make it a bigger deal than it actually is, you'll only make it worse for yourself.
My advice about it is that the weirder and more secretive you treat it, the more you treat it like it's something to hide or be ashamed of, the more other people will see it the same way.I said better wouldn't myself, If you just take it casually like Painting or Collecting, there nothing you should be ashamed or afraid to tell anyone, but if they don't like it, it's okay, they don't need to, friend and Family doesn't need to have all the same likes and tastes, but if your so call "friend" thinks you rip eyes from people's heads or set fire on parked car, than you can tell that "friend" to bite you and choke on a egg, being a Furry is nothing to be ashamed of, and if they think you should, then that's not what I call a Friend, if I may be blunt as a shovel, what kind of Friend is that? a jerk I would slap so hard, a fortune teller could tell my future by looking at their face... I guess what I'm trying to say here is that, Your Friends and Family don't need to like, just accept it and understand, and if they don't, they ain't no good friends, so yeah...
It's a hobby; like model-making, gaming, watching anime, or anything else. Not everyone has to like or enjoy everything everyone else does, and nor should you expect them to. And it's up to you if you tell them or not as well - does everyone have to know? Would it make a difference if they did or not?
Like others have said; own it, and drop it in casual conversation, as much as you would any other hobby or interest. If your friends are decent enough to be friends in the first place, then they should accept it. If not, and they react like you've suddenly grown three extra heads, or have told them you eat children... then are they really people you want as friends anyway?
thanks all for the tips. I already told my BFF tyler, and he did not care at all, he just said 'ok.' thats it lol
my other freinds, idk what to tell them, they dont understand my way of talking as much as tyler.
be seeing yall soon. :D