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Offline dgbonner

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New, Confused, and Searching for Guidance
« on: October 24, 2016, 04:19:05 AM »
Hi Everybody,


My name is Douglas, and I'm new on the forum here. I'm gay, in my early 20's, and not gonna lie a little bit scared. This is really the first time I've explored the "furry" internet, and I'll explain why.


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The reason I've been slow to get on the furry internet is, frankly, because I'm worried I'll be excluded. <REMOVED> I have no interest in learning what my "fursona" is, or the art, or anything like that. <REMOVED>


I'm worried because in everything I've read about the fandom, furries will sometimes shun those who are into it for the sexual reasons. I obviously don't want to be shunned, but I'm not sure where else to turn to find others who may share <REMOVED> interests.


Anyway, that's me I guess. I would love if anyone could shed some light on what I've brought up <REMOVED>
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Re: New, Confused, and Searching for Guidance
« Reply #1 on: October 24, 2016, 04:29:19 AM »
The furry fandom is a fickle thing.

True there are some bad apples in the bunch, but for the most part I haven't really run into too many problems. Yeah you'll get the occasional butthead who confirms peoples' bad opinions of us, and there's more drama within than many can take in a lifetime, but we're a minority, and we stick together. Furries are some of the friendliest people you will ever meet.

I'm one of such. The name's TheRedFox8. I joined this place tonight as well, and it's nice to meet you. I don't judge a person based on what they are, what they believe in, or what they like, so long as it isn't shoved down my throat or used against me. It's a person's personality what really counts.

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Re: New, Confused, and Searching for Guidance
« Reply #2 on: October 24, 2016, 11:58:49 AM »
Welcome to the forums and the fandom, Douglas :)

No need to be scared. Especially this forum is very warm and welcoming. If you need help, have any questions, there is always someone to provide/offer help ^^
You won't be excluded. The furry community is rather open. Heck, we all create are own character, try to be unique, and a lot are very open/curious/interested about others.

As for my personal experiences in real life, being a furry has been amazing. I go to events (fairs/cons) and people will point out, yelling in joy: "Oh look, a furry!"  (When I fursuit, that is. No one says that when I just have my regular human appearance :P)
Of course there will always be people who judge and think the wrong things of others, especially that what they don't (want to) understand. This is for everything, not only the furry fandom. You should do what feels best to you: If being a part of the furry fandom, or learning about it is what interests you and makes you happy, you should do that.
If you don't yell out to the world (online and offline) that you're a furry, you surely don't have anything to worry about at all.

Might I ask, if you have no interest in fursonas/art, etc. What does bring you to this forum and fandom? :)

Hope you stick around!

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Re: New, Confused, and Searching for Guidance
« Reply #3 on: October 24, 2016, 03:51:02 PM »
Hiya Douglas!

Hope you find TFF interesting and fun.  I don't think there is any one way you have to be to be part of the fandom.  So don't feel like you have to conform to having a fursona distinct from yourself or anything else.  Although you might like to try it! XD

I certainly know what you mean about some people shunning others within the fandom.  Personally I think there is a lot of pressure on many furries about "coming out" as being furry and so those with no sexual side to their furriness are quick to distance themselves for fear of being judged.  I totally understand that but think it is a shame if you get shunned as a result.

Anyway, you are more than welcome here! Since this is a PG13 site there are some rules you need to follow of course, but since you're over 18 you may like to consider the Adult area where more mature themes can be discussed.

If you have any questions or need directions though, just ask any staff member nearby or feel free to PM me.

Have fun!

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Re: New, Confused, and Searching for Guidance
« Reply #4 on: October 24, 2016, 04:42:09 PM »
I don't wanna make a new wall of text (the mods already explain the stuff  ^_^ ). Anyway hi Douglas, welcome to the forum and have fun. If you need something just pm me  :P .
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