I definately need some advice on this shit.

[Captain Degenerate]

Thing bugged out.

Anyway summery my pal decided to cancel **censor** d&d that we all cleared our schedules for and couldnt do any other day because everyone else is busy most of the time with jobs and school. To RP on **censor** world of warcraft some non essential shit like that does not warrent cancelling what you had scheduled all the **censor** way back to Wednesday to RP on world of **censor** warcraft from the same house we where going to play d&d at. Jake doesn't have a job and can RP on World of Warcraft at any **censor** time. James Phillisha and Jared all have jobs or collage or school. They cleared there schedules and planned for today since wednesday but Jake decides imma RP on world of Warcraft instead.




No **censor** excuse for that shit. So we are gonna have to reschedule two weeks from now because of that. I know that sounds kinda petty but thats like massive disrespect on everyone **censor** playing especially his brother Jared. I'm probably just gonna be vicious as **censor** about it because that shit really doesn't fly with me thats self centered as **censor**.


Any tips on how to handle this better and get the point accross without being totally **censor** nasty? Like if it was a random shitter I would **censor** let them know Im pissed off right away but its a friend so I really dont wanna be mean but this shit is just to **censor** self centered.

[Angder]

While you are allowed to swear Occasionally, you do not need to swear every single line of your post. Please keep profanity to a reasonable level. I am not going to warn you at this stage as it appears you did censor yourself in the post, however please avoid further excessive swearing in future.


On the actual topic itself I have encountered similar things multiple times in my own pathfinder games, The fact is, if he is not there, and their reason is dumb, run without them. If it happens a lot, kick them.

if its a case where the GM (As you seem to imply) is doing it, then maybe its time to learn to GM yourselves.

Obviously speak to him about it as well, its possible he had doubts about running (Or had not prepared properly) and then found a way to avoid running until he felt ready. But if it is literally just that he decided to change his mind AFTER arranging it, then its clear the game probably is not going to fly anyway.

[Captain Degenerate]

While you are allowed to swear Occasionally, you do not need to swear every single line of your post. Please keep profanity to a reasonable level. I am not going to warn you at this stage (as it appears you did censor yourself in the post).


On the actual topic itself I have encountered similar things multiple times in my own pathfinder games, The fact is, if he is not there, and their reason is dumb, run without them. If it happens a lot, kick them.

if its a case where the GM (As you seem to imply) is doing it, then maybe its time to learn to GM yourselves.

Obviously speak to him about it as well, its possible he had doubts about running (Or had not prepared properly) and then found a way to avoid running until he felt ready. But if it is literally just that he decided to change his mind AFTER arranging it, then its clear the game probably is not going to fly anyway.

Hes not the GM he is the GM's brother.


GM and everyone else is ready to go.

Post Merge: October 14, 2016, 10:58:49 PMBut yeah to clarify we cant do it without him due to where the story left off last session doing so would create a giant plot hole.

[Angder]

If absolutely needed, Someone else can play them.

Equally, talk to the GM, and see if there is any way to get him "offscreen" without killing him outright. Dropping him down a giant pit, or having him fall into the ocean, are easy ways to drive him away from the main party for a short period of time so you can play without him.

Worst case senario, if he paused in or before a big battle, make the villains first spell be a hold person or equivalent, and just say "Well, he is still there, but he can't act so we move on without him

Post Merge: October 14, 2016, 11:07:51 PM((obviously, without the full story, I can't give you something that definitely works))

[Captain Degenerate]

If absolutely needed, Someone else can play them.

Equally, talk to the GM, and see if there is any way to get him "offscreen" without killing him outright. Dropping him down a giant pit, or having him fall into the ocean, are easy ways to drive him away from the main party for a short period of time so you can play without him.

Worst case senario, if he paused in or before a big battle, make the villains first spell be a hold person or equivalent, and just say "Well, he is still there, but he can't act so we move on without him

The biggest thing Im asking for advice on is just how to get the point accross in a non nasty manner
I know how to deal with abscent players ive Dmed before but its not a simple as just creating some kind of thing to explain him not being there we are all pretty much best friends since elementry I'm not even bothered about not playing D&D more about the callous disrespect and self centeredness which if he where not a best friend Id pretty much fight his ass everyone in the group is pissed.

Post Merge: October 14, 2016, 11:16:09 PMI probably should just chill about it I just dont tale disrespect well at all and its gotten me in plenty of trouble.

[Ventus Fall]

Just point out to the person in question you're really bummed out they decided to cancel. You're friends and you want to spend time with them. It bugs you that he cancelled and that the reschedule is two weeks from now. You were really looking forward to it.


What I'm saying is: this is an example how you can say it without sounding mean/harsh or cursing, yet still clearly get your point across.

Hope it helps,