Feeling lonely... sometimes

[Ræfóa Aldrnari]

I guess I could use some advice on this.
First off, I'm single (obviously), and generally; I don't mind that. At all.
But when I hear about people being really happy with their partners, I guess a sort of... pain around my heart. It goes over a little quickly though, but a feeling of loneliness still lingers for a little bit. Now, the feeling has been worse before, and I am getting a little better, but still.


I don't really know if anyone has any advice on how to prevent that from happening, but if you do, please tell me.

[MrRazot]

Tough thing to give advice for, but it falls on to you to find the ultimate solution.

There is one person that you can love unconditionally though, and that person is you.
Love yourself and you will never be lonely.

Another advice is to make space for friends in your life. It's friends that ultimately help with loneliness and push you through times of darkness. You may even find love through your friends.

Good luck dude.

[Ræfóa Aldrnari]

Thanks, Razot. That actually helped. I'll keep it in mind.

[Salix]

I LOVE being single, actually.
I tried twice to have a real relationship and both ended pretty badly.  I've had "relationships" before, but if you don't see them for a good part of the week/aren't moved in, I don't call that real.  I thought I wanted to be with someone.  I thought that's how I was supposed to end up.

No more.  I am done with that.  I want to eat my Cap'n Crunch at midnight in my underwear.  I don't want to be told to put on pants, don't eat breakfast at night, go to bed, don't pee on the cat.  Well, ok, that last one kinda makes sense, but still.  I like to do what I want, when I want, how I want and don't have to compromise my schedule for their comfort.  I suppose it was more of a give and give relationship than a give and take.  One of the good reasons it failed.

Am I lonely?  Not at all.  I have some real good friends I see like twice a week.  And some real good friend-with-benefits I see once a week.  Heck, if I wanted to, I'd could do that more.  Plenty of fun times, while I still have my "me time" which I share with my non peed-on cat.
Friends make a difference.  Good friends make all the difference.

[[INACTIVE]]

We've all been in this situation man, we've all felt lonely or like we needed someone in our lives. But the only person who can change that is you. If you feel so lonely you need to find someone who can help with that.

I felt lonely before, I wanted to find someone that I could love and care for. Someone who I could be happy with. So you know what I did? I got off my ass and I tried my hardest to find someone.

Did it work? I'm still searching, but I would say it does help.

You need to find someone, that's all I can say. Find someone you've always had interest in. Either it be on this forum, real life. Or other places. Only you can change how you feel, not others.

[Ræfóa Aldrnari]

Thanks for the tips, everyone, it really helps. As I said, Salix, I don't mind being single. I mean, I'm with you on a lot of those parts about having freedom, it does feel good. But then again, the feeling of loneliness still exists. Thanks, Metal. And I know, I'm only 16, complaining about love is a stupid thing to do at my age. But hey, I can't help it. I really want to be able to use the "excuse", "Hey, I have awesome friends that I can hang out with instead". The thing is, I just don't really have that in person... yet. When school starts, I'm gonna be able to hang out with some friends, and hopefully make some more friends. I'm just gonna hang out with them and try to get my head on other thoughts.

[Raymond Volkogonov]

I know that feeling, bro. I have it for around half a year (And I am 20, which makes complaining about love not stupid... Yay?). The fact that I, like, lost the only person I considered friend because he found a girlfried does not help. At least I am lucky to have good parents and aunt. I guess the only way is to live through it, and leave it behind.

I actually thought that it is me who is weird at having pain around the heart when it comes to stress or sadness. Seems it is a common issue.

[Borkevitch]

ive been single for 5 years since my girlfriend died of cancer i know the feeling of being single. and the only wee bit of comfort is my cat. ad it does help a lot.