How Friendly Is Too Friendly?

[HollowOfHaze]

Since I joined TFF, I can say that I have met several notable people. I have had memorable discussions, I have made memorable friends, I have talked to more great people than I would have otherwise in real life. However, I feel that I might be going too far when interacting with people. Someone says hi, or I say hi to them, and I find that I tend to perpetuate conversations for long periods of time. I feel that I might be pushing people away by trying too hard to meet them and be a nice person.

I value great people, I value moderation, and I definitely value discussion. I think I might be failing to excersize moderation.

Any suggestions? Should I stop, slow, or continue my communication patterns?

[Wolxikin]

Sometimes it's better to listen than talk, just make sure you give other people the chance to be friendly as well 

[HollowOfHaze]

I usually don't talk about myself, always doing my best to learn what I can from what people have to say. I add information about myself as a response but that is about it.

[Wolxikin]

Well to me it doesn't seem like you're doing anything wrong, sometimes it's good to push people to be more friendly and talk more

[HollowOfHaze]

Something just does not feel right though.

[Delain Azara]

You sound like someone I would love to meet! I too am a bit like that, but often I find that either people lose interest in me or visa versa. My best advice is to, if you feel that you are pushing a certain person away, or talking too much, then ask them if they'd like you to stop talking as much or something...

[Halei-Helai]

I would think you are being just fine. As long as you aren't putting the cart before the horse and saying, "hi there nice to meet you, so when should I pick you up?" Keep in mind some people don't have the endurance for a longer conversation, which truthfully includes me sometimes, so I wouldn't mistake people not replying as a sign that they don't like you. Maybe they just need to tune out for a bit.

Feel free to reach out to me via PM if you would like.

[anoni]

Don't know if your intruding? The solution that a lot of people don't seem to understand is that the best method to find out is too.... ask!

If you feel your being too pushy just ask the other person if they feel uncomfortable, if you feel your intruding ask the person whether your intruding.

Also take their answer as THE ANSWER

A lot of people think their intruding even when the person says they aren't, if they say you're not intruding, you're not intruding, if they say you are, than you are, simple as that!

[Wolxikin]

Exactly what Anoni said, coming from a shy person it's always nice to have someone else initiate the conversation

[HollowOfHaze]

I have made sure to ask, although I have a bit of doubt even then since I wonder if politeness would prevent someone from flat-out saying "Yes, you have been irritating."

[MrRazot]

Try not to over think it

From what I can tell, you've been just the perfect amount of friendliness

[anoni]

I have made sure to ask, although I have a bit of doubt even then since I wonder if politeness would prevent someone from flat-out saying "Yes, you have been irritating."

If I was annoying you and I asked you "Am I annoying you" would you say "No" due to politeness?

If you would that's not a good idea, cause then I'm still gonna annoy you

If you wouldn't, than that's generally what most other people would do too. People are polite but most people aren't too polite.

[SapiensUrsus]

I don't know that there is such a thing as "too nice". Sounds like you're a good person and you're doing everything right! Stick to your guns, man. Or is this case, rainbow beams of joy and love)

People like you are why I don't lose hope in the world. Earth should be a great place for you guys! 
A lot of shy people need someone like you to get them out of their shell. (:

[Nii]

I don't think being "Too friendly" is a bad thing, since I'm usually the one who listens and waits for someone to start a conversation.

It's only a issue if the person who you're talking to states it is.

[BennyJackdaw]

I agree with the others here. As long as you're not TRYING to go overboard, you can't really become "too" friendly. Sometimes just being a good guy is all anyone wants from others.