I'm always coming on this board for advice, as not many people have... my mind set I guess, and think irrationally. Well, the people I know think irrationally.
I need love advice. Typically I give the love advice, but never have really, felt the strong emotion everyone calls "love," I'm not sure what to do anymore...
There is someone in my life who is very important to me and he isn't far away either. However there are many obstacles with this, both of us are 100% rational, however... I am impulsive. I say things that he restrains and keep under wraps, and while I flow like a leaf in the stream of life, he swims angrily against the current, and tries to plan everything. We are so different, but go together so well. He's also nine years older than me, and this is where the problem lies. I can't see him, except for through a computer screen. Which I am fine with. If I go too long without seeing his face, I cry and get exceedingly depressed. I try to stay happy and distract myself.
It's not fair, I don't want to feel this way, and I don't want to love him. I'm not even sexually attracted to him! I can't even imagine doing anything like that with him. That isn't to say he isn't physically attractive to me, because he is. I just can't imagine us doing anything more than cuddling and playing games together. Talking to him makes me feel safe and relaxed.
I talk to him twice every day on the phone, once before I go to school/ in the early morning, and after dinner. When he worked I would stay awake all evening just to greet him as soon as he got home, then we would both pass out on a Skype call together. I'd always wake up first, and greet him when he finally woke up as well.
I've known this man for three years, that's longer than I've really had any friends. He's always been there and I've always cared for him differently than anyone else, because he is different.
I can't stand that I can even think like this. I'm only 15. I just turned 15. He's always known my age, from the day he met me. Yet somehow this seemed inevitable, like it had to happen and we couldn't stop it. I tried to avoid it for so long... Then he confessed to me and I can't hold it in anymore. He's only said "I like you" because he's afraid, he's afraid of me being like other girls. He's let me in to his titanium shield that I somehow melted. He's careful, and he's never sexual. He's kind, and unlike other people, I can make him smile, and laugh. Even make him chuckle.
He makes me indescribably happy, just hearing his voice. But without his voice, or his face, I am the complete opposite and I feel too dependent on him, too clingy. I'm not sure how he feels in that sense, but I do know he is used to talking to me everyday, and we haven't been. By talking, I mean Skyping. He's admitted to missing it, but the fact that he's been alone, much longer than me... Makes him less vulnerable to these emotions.
Why do I have to feel like this? Is it my hormones? A natural animalistic attraction? Why do I feel like this?