The Furry Forums would like to place cookies on your computer to help us make this website better. To find out more about the cookies, see our privacy notice.
To accept the cookie click here, or please login or register.
« previous next »
Pages: [1]   Go Down

Author Topic: I hate to ask this but...  (Read 598 times)

0 Members and 0 Guests are viewing this topic.

Offline Jyynx

  • Eager Elephant
  • ***
  • awards This user has been a forum member for over 10 years
  • Posts: 357
  • Gender: Male
  • Wolfmode (ON) OFF
    • Produce electronic and mixtapes, been DJing for about a year and half: my site below.
    • Awards
  • Species: Italian Wolf
  • Coloring: Gray
  • Height: 6'
  • Weight: About 190
  • Build: Average
  • Currently: Gone Riding
I hate to ask this but...
« on: May 24, 2012, 02:29:44 AM »
Um, well I need 'affection advice' and I guess I'll just give it cut and dry:

So guy has known girl now for a while and always had it in the back of his head that he likes girl.  After getting to know girl, guy likes her more, because they share a lot of common interests and ideas, and they get along together.  One day girl figures out guy is a furry... On her own... This scares guy.  However, girl is really great about it, and actually think its cute, and goes to be one of the most supportive people for guy.  Now guy really likes girl, as she is probably one of the best people in guys life.  Now guy wants to tell girl his affection, but guy is scared.  Guy isn't sure girl loves him back, and is afraid a friend zone will happen if he does share his emotions.  Now guy isn't sure that girl isn't crushing another guy and is devistated at his own fear to say something to her.  Though guy hasn't been with anyone in a long long time and girl has never been with anyone, which crushes guy more, because he wants to help, but is too afraid and dosnt exactly know how.  Even more concerning is that girl is older than guy at about three years... And girl graduates this year, so guy isnt sure about what to do...
Does anyone know what guy should do at all, as he's quite lost...
Logged

Offline legolyle

  • Dancing Dragon
  • ***
  • awards This user has been a forum member for over 10 years This user has donated to the forum. Top 50 Most Online
  • Posts: 299
  • Gender: Male
  • Always right? You're doing something wrong!
    • Skype
    • Steam
    • Fur Affinity
    • Awards
  • Species: Wolf
  • Coloring: Dark grey-blue, with a nice grey streak
  • Height: 5'10"
  • Reference: [link]
  • Currently: Aliens!
Re: I hate to ask this but...
« Reply #1 on: May 24, 2012, 02:41:03 AM »
I think, generally, you have next to nothing to lose by going for it. Friend zone will be friend zone, whether you speak now or later, generally wont matter, if it happens it happens. I don't think there is anything you can do about that.
Sometimes though, I think, if you value the friendship more than the affection, or as much, that can really complicate things. But, if you truly have strong feelings, generally 'just' friendships can fall apart. Thus, it is really best to let said feelings be known, in my opinion.

I'd say go for it, especially if you're going to soon loose contact or anything like that, because it will bring more negative emotions if you let the opportunity pass by.

letting the opportunity pass by and regretting it is worse than telling said girl, and having to 'get over it,' or, better yet, having a positive response! :D

again, I'd say go for it :P
Logged
  • Avatar by: WingedZephyr
"if your philosophy is not unsettled daily then you are blind to all the universe has to offer"
- Neil Tyson

"When I told my father I wanted to be a physicist, he said, ‘Hell no, you ain’t going to work in a drug store.’ I said no, not a pharmacist. I said, ‘Like Einstein.’ He poked me in the chest with a piece of plumbing pipe. ‘You ain’t going to be no engineer,’ he said. ‘You’re going to be Einstein.’"
-Leonard Susskind
:'D those sorts of things make me smile.



We fight, we recruit, we are the anthropomorphic army. FDF forever!
~negotiator~

Offline MrRazot

  • Resident Nice-guy
  • Unique Unicorn
  • **********
  • awards This user has been a forum member for over 10 years This user has reported a valid and verified forum bug This user has donated to the forum more than once. This user has donated to the forum.
  • Posts: 2702
  • Gender: Male
  • Marching onward on my Quest
    • Skype
    • Steam
    • Fur Affinity
    • Awards
  • Species: Lanner Falcon
  • Coloring: Selection of Browns
  • Height: Aprx 180cm
  • Weight: Aprx 50kg
  • Build: Slim
  • Currently: Well, it was a good run.
Re: I hate to ask this but...
« Reply #2 on: May 24, 2012, 05:40:13 AM »
We have family friends, a married couple, and the wife is 10 years older than the husband.

If you get in the friend zone, you can get out by simply saying "I want to be more than friends"

Go for it now or you will regret it later. If she doesn't have a boy friend, then tell her before you aren't

Even just take it slow and invite her out on a date to a movie and lunch.

Get in there my son :D
Logged
  • Avatar by: John Redbeard
  • Signature art by: MrRazot

Offline Jyynx

  • Eager Elephant
  • ***
  • awards This user has been a forum member for over 10 years
  • Posts: 357
  • Gender: Male
  • Wolfmode (ON) OFF
    • Produce electronic and mixtapes, been DJing for about a year and half: my site below.
    • Awards
  • Species: Italian Wolf
  • Coloring: Gray
  • Height: 6'
  • Weight: About 190
  • Build: Average
  • Currently: Gone Riding
Re: I hate to ask this but...
« Reply #3 on: May 24, 2012, 08:37:01 PM »
Omg, (I don't even say that!) do I bit the bullet and went ahead and asked her out and she said yes! ^_^ gonna catch a movie Sunday, ah I'm sooo happy!  Thanx guys for the advice, I really appreciate it!
Logged

Offline Rinny

  • Boisterous Bear
  • **
  • awards This user has been a forum member for over 10 years
  • Posts: 93
  • Gender: Female
  • Omnomnom
    • Awards
  • Species: Red panda
  • Coloring: Red/brown/white
  • Height: 5'4"
  • Weight: 105lbs
  • Build: slim
  • Currently: Has le cookie!
Re: I hate to ask this but...
« Reply #4 on: May 24, 2012, 09:00:31 PM »
Congratulations, Canadian Wolf! :) That's great news.
Logged

Offline legolyle

  • Dancing Dragon
  • ***
  • awards This user has been a forum member for over 10 years This user has donated to the forum. Top 50 Most Online
  • Posts: 299
  • Gender: Male
  • Always right? You're doing something wrong!
    • Skype
    • Steam
    • Fur Affinity
    • Awards
  • Species: Wolf
  • Coloring: Dark grey-blue, with a nice grey streak
  • Height: 5'10"
  • Reference: [link]
  • Currently: Aliens!
Re: I hate to ask this but...
« Reply #5 on: May 24, 2012, 11:56:32 PM »
really happy to hear that man! :D

have a good time :3
Logged
  • Avatar by: WingedZephyr
"if your philosophy is not unsettled daily then you are blind to all the universe has to offer"
- Neil Tyson

"When I told my father I wanted to be a physicist, he said, ‘Hell no, you ain’t going to work in a drug store.’ I said no, not a pharmacist. I said, ‘Like Einstein.’ He poked me in the chest with a piece of plumbing pipe. ‘You ain’t going to be no engineer,’ he said. ‘You’re going to be Einstein.’"
-Leonard Susskind
:'D those sorts of things make me smile.



We fight, we recruit, we are the anthropomorphic army. FDF forever!
~negotiator~

Offline Draco Vertolgr

  • Gregarious Gnu
  • ****
  • awards This user has been a forum member for over 10 years Top 100 Topic Starter
  • Posts: 578
  • Gender: Male
  • When blinded by adversity just look to the stars
    • Skype
    • Steam
    • Awards
  • Species: Arctic Wolf
  • Coloring: White
  • Build: Average
  • Currently: I'm a Majestic Snowcone
Re: I hate to ask this but...
« Reply #6 on: May 25, 2012, 07:23:03 AM »
Well dude I say go for it. I was in the same exact situation as you except shes only 1 year older than me, Im 15 shes 16, weve been chating all night and were going to hang out tomorrow. Anyways, tell her and see where it goes. :)
Logged
Our mere existence is enough reason to carry on. Never let others steal your lust for life. Life is all you have and it is all you will get. Cling to it until the universe says it's time to let go. Then rest, only then have you earned it.

Offline legolyle

  • Dancing Dragon
  • ***
  • awards This user has been a forum member for over 10 years This user has donated to the forum. Top 50 Most Online
  • Posts: 299
  • Gender: Male
  • Always right? You're doing something wrong!
    • Skype
    • Steam
    • Fur Affinity
    • Awards
  • Species: Wolf
  • Coloring: Dark grey-blue, with a nice grey streak
  • Height: 5'10"
  • Reference: [link]
  • Currently: Aliens!
Re: I hate to ask this but...
« Reply #7 on: May 25, 2012, 07:57:58 AM »
Quote from: Deadraconis on May 25, 2012, 07:23:03 AM
Well dude I say go for it. I was in the same exact situation as you except shes only 1 year older than me, Im 15 shes 16, weve been chating all night and were going to hang out tomorrow. Anyways, tell her and see where it goes. :)

he already did dude! :D see:

Quote from: Canadian Wolf on May 24, 2012, 08:37:01 PM
Omg, (I don't even say that!) do I bit the bullet and went ahead and asked her out and she said yes! ^_^ gonna catch a movie Sunday, ah I'm sooo happy!  Thanx guys for the advice, I really appreciate it!

awesomeness ^_^
Logged
  • Avatar by: WingedZephyr
"if your philosophy is not unsettled daily then you are blind to all the universe has to offer"
- Neil Tyson

"When I told my father I wanted to be a physicist, he said, ‘Hell no, you ain’t going to work in a drug store.’ I said no, not a pharmacist. I said, ‘Like Einstein.’ He poked me in the chest with a piece of plumbing pipe. ‘You ain’t going to be no engineer,’ he said. ‘You’re going to be Einstein.’"
-Leonard Susskind
:'D those sorts of things make me smile.



We fight, we recruit, we are the anthropomorphic army. FDF forever!
~negotiator~

Offline Draco Vertolgr

  • Gregarious Gnu
  • ****
  • awards This user has been a forum member for over 10 years Top 100 Topic Starter
  • Posts: 578
  • Gender: Male
  • When blinded by adversity just look to the stars
    • Skype
    • Steam
    • Awards
  • Species: Arctic Wolf
  • Coloring: White
  • Build: Average
  • Currently: I'm a Majestic Snowcone
Re: I hate to ask this but...
« Reply #8 on: May 25, 2012, 08:22:50 AM »
Whoo! hope you guys have fun :D
Logged
Our mere existence is enough reason to carry on. Never let others steal your lust for life. Life is all you have and it is all you will get. Cling to it until the universe says it's time to let go. Then rest, only then have you earned it.

Offline JoJoJoshua

  • Boisterous Bear
  • **
  • awards This user has been a forum member for over 10 years
  • Posts: 86
  • Gender: Male
  • GamingFurever.com
    • Skype
    • Steam
    • Fur Affinity
    • DeviantArt
    • Gaming Furever
    • Awards
  • Species: Fox
  • Coloring: Orange, Blue, and White fur
  • Height: 5'8"
  • Weight: 175
  • Build: Athletic and Lean
  • Reference: [link]
  • Currently: Enjoying Summer
Re: I hate to ask this but...
« Reply #9 on: May 25, 2012, 09:29:36 AM »
Great to hear!


Now I just need to do this, heh. :3
Logged
"Life is a party, don't just stand by the punchbowl." ~JFH

Xbox Live | PS3 | Steam | Twitter | Gaming Furever

Offline MrRazot

  • Resident Nice-guy
  • Unique Unicorn
  • **********
  • awards This user has been a forum member for over 10 years This user has reported a valid and verified forum bug This user has donated to the forum more than once. This user has donated to the forum.
  • Posts: 2702
  • Gender: Male
  • Marching onward on my Quest
    • Skype
    • Steam
    • Fur Affinity
    • Awards
  • Species: Lanner Falcon
  • Coloring: Selection of Browns
  • Height: Aprx 180cm
  • Weight: Aprx 50kg
  • Build: Slim
  • Currently: Well, it was a good run.
Re: I hate to ask this but...
« Reply #10 on: May 25, 2012, 09:56:49 AM »
Get in there XD
Logged
  • Avatar by: John Redbeard
  • Signature art by: MrRazot

Offline anoni

  • Zoomorphic Zebra
  • **********
  • awards This user has been a forum member for over 10 years Assigned to someone who is observed to be very friendly toward other members (frequently welcoming people in the Intro board, answering questions, etc.) This user has reported a valid and verified forum bug This user has made a suggestion for the forum that was approved and implemented
  • Posts: 6177
  • Gender: Male
  • This statement is a lie
    • Steam
    • Kingdom of Lacertus (clan website) we're not furry oriented, but we accept furries (especially artists) :P
    • Awards
  • Species: Fox
  • Coloring: Beige
  • Height: 183 cm
  • Weight: 65 KG
  • Build: Slim
  • Currently: Cruising through the 4th dimension
Re: I hate to ask this but...
« Reply #11 on: May 25, 2012, 10:42:04 AM »
Awesome :D
always good to see things go well :D
Logged
  • Avatar by: WingedZephyr
  • Signature art by: MrRazot
(int(e-x^2, x = -infinity..infinity))2 = Pi


We fight, we recruit, we are the anthropomorphic army. FDF forever!

$_ = "gntusbovueqrmwkradehijqr"; tr/a-z/lad hijacked under stop sign!/; print $_, "\n";

Offline Jyynx

  • Eager Elephant
  • ***
  • awards This user has been a forum member for over 10 years
  • Posts: 357
  • Gender: Male
  • Wolfmode (ON) OFF
    • Produce electronic and mixtapes, been DJing for about a year and half: my site below.
    • Awards
  • Species: Italian Wolf
  • Coloring: Gray
  • Height: 6'
  • Weight: About 190
  • Build: Average
  • Currently: Gone Riding
Re: I hate to ask this but...
« Reply #12 on: May 25, 2012, 09:16:19 PM »
Yeah XD and thanx a lot guys!

Post Merge: May 25, 2012, 09:18:47 PM
Yeah XD and thanx a lot guys!
« Last Edit: May 25, 2012, 09:18:47 PM by Canadian Wolf, Reason: Merged DoublePost »
Logged
Pages: [1]   Go Up
« previous next »
 

Powered by EzPortal