they literally base their love on grades.
Doesn't sound like love to me...
My parents are quite fond of talking behind my back to the rest of the family...I even got a call from my cousin saying my mother had been bad-mouthing me to my relatives.
Have you called them on this? That's not cool behavior. Sure, they may be worried for you and whatnot, but they're not dealing with it properly - hurting you and holding you back instead of helping. They're bullies.
My parents also told me that if I don't make good enough grades, they won't send me to college and I'm not allowed to live in their house anymore. September 1, 2012 is the day I have to be out by, whether I have an apartment or not.
my parents now officially consider me a lost cause and want to force me to live at home next year and take some major that I'm not the least bit interested in.
They can't even make up their minds. They give you a move-out date, and now are keeping you there...
This is pretty much exactly what happened to me. I left with my lover, to my dad screaming and chasing me, then pounding violently on the car window. Before I had the opportunity to move out, I pretty much just half-dealt with it, hiding inside myself. He could ground me to or *from* my room, restrict my activities, take my bedroom door, and say all sorts of demeaning bs, but he couldn't take that secret place inside me.
I ended up stronger and getting better grades because I started *ignoring* him, doing things for myself instead of just because he wanted me to. And I kept doing things behind his back to make myself succeed *in spite* of him. I felt guilty for being 'a bad kid' and 'rebellious', but that wasn't really the case - I was defending myself.
Be your own person - you don't have control of that house or the resources they provide you, and they're holding that over you...so you have to try for their sake only to get what they're calling love. But look for opportunities, find someone you can move out with, someone who'll give you a chance to get a job so you can help support from that point forward.
And pick schools and career directions you want to, and can. You aren't worthless. You've got interests and related abilities. And when you're on your own, you'll probably be able to get financial aid, and you can always go to local colleges to find a good path - at least here, you get advisement before you register for any classes, so no charge - with the hope of getting you *into* classes.
And who knows. For me personally, I'm creative and independant. I probably should have gone the fine art route, but instead aimed for Graphic Design due to all the businessy career-based thinking that was being pushed at me. Anyway. It's *your* future, *your* choice.
You're a good person, and *nobody* is without skills. You've just got to get past all this discouragement to find your strengths. Else you'll end up thinking you can't to better than food service all your life, and I know people like that - they're miserable. And they *are* capable of more, they just don't have confidence.
Sorry about the long rant, but situations like this hit too close to home. I wish you the best of luck, but most of all -
make yourself strong.