Well if it were me, I can be VERY bitter sometimes toward people who complain to me when it really isn't any of my concern or the other way around. Like when people do that, depending on how annoyed I am, I tell them exactly the way I feel or see things. Sometimes I might even complain back to them after confronting me in the exact same way and eventually they will get the message. Call me immature but it works for me.
Here's a little issue of my own.
My girlfriend. She's very paranoid and also a hypocrite. She's extremely vague and likes to ask you questions she knows the answer to and if you reply with an answer she wasn't expecting, she gets all upset. She would ask "what are we doing today?" and I say: "We could go to the movies." THEN she says. "We could do that." In a tone as if she was saying that she wants to do something else. Of course she denies this and states that she is only agreeing with my suggestion (IT IS MAKING ME INSANE). She thinks that if someone looks at her without any expression it is therefore a dirty look and so she comes crying to me about how all these people are "staring her down." She tells me to "filter" my words when with her family as to not embarrass her. Unfortunately, she doesn't know how to use one herself and she ends up embarrassing me in front of a bunch of people I've just me by using inappropriate jokes and giving me credit for teaching her them. All I can do is facepalm at the end of the dinner table.
She likes to talk. That isn't a bad thing; However, if I have nothing to talk about then there's an issue. She thinks that my life is really exciting day after day. Nothing EVER happens that is worth talking about and she get all upset because "I don't ever tell her about important things that go on in my life." I say nothing happens and she doesn't believe me. She has many habits as well, all of which annoy me but I can deal with those for now.
I love spending time with her and I can tell her anything. I like making her happy when she's sad or angry. I love her but I really would like a change in her attitude. Whenever I confront her about this she gets upset and then I feel bad. Any thoughts?