Is this... normal?

[JEStheJESTER]

Okay, so I'm 16... and I once had someone I loved very deeply sleeping next to me when I visited them... now they hate me... said it out right. I miss having someone warm to cuddle with at night... and to cry on when I have nightmares... and can tell anything, without them judging me... My mom says she hates the one who I still love for it, and that I'm too young to like I do...
I'm so afraid that this girl I love was my one and only, and that I screwed it up. What if I never find someone I love so much again, and I'm meant to be lonely and crying like I am now for the rest of my life?

[Nyyrikkia Anikeria]

You will find someone. It just takes time.

[jakob_furreault]

It hurts and i understand, but don't worry. take your time to get over it, get those tears out, and talk if you can. there are plenty more fish in the sea.

[AirRaiser]

Sorry if I come off as kinda umm we'll say cranky since there are children here, and I have to keep my language in check. BUT, oh dear god hun it will pass. You're only 16, pay attention to your life and make sure things go smoothly for you. Yea it's going to hurt, it's probably going to hurt a lot. And it wont seem like there's an end, but it does. There's this thing called college, YEA! Or even getting out on your own.

Now I haven't dated many people, total of 3 I think. So I'm no expert, but don't fully commit yourself till your ready. I read so many things on these forums of people being in love when they are so young, then getting hurt. I want so much to scream at them, to just tell people to enjoy what child hood you have. You have the rest of your life to grow up, and be an adult. Don't waste what fun care free years you have on someone who's not going to treat you like you deserve to be treated. If this person you calmed you loved can tell you out right they hate you, then they were not the one. If that's the case do what you must to get it out of your system, then get over it and move on.

Just because something in your life mucks up doesn't mean life stops. I should know, my life is a jumble of crap, that I try to sort out every day and I'm 26!

But you should make your own mistakes, and learn from them. Life is not easy, and gets harder as you go. But if you can't deal with the little things, there is not much hope for the future.

Take my response how ever you wish, not trying to be mean. Been in that situation, know the feeling, and have had worse done to me. So I have an idea of how you feel.

[Shinzuu Katame: Her Tolfy]

Exactly, you're still very young. There's a saying among the Chinese that I have grown up on. "Take care of yourself, and everything will come to you." Though I'm pretty sure they mean school then work, but I believe it applies just the same for love. Wait until you engage in relationships until after college. Don't always be in such a rush to find The One. When you meet them, you'll meet them. You're primary concern, I believe, is your life. You take care of your priorities, and you'll have all the time in the world to find that One for you. But if you put finding someone special as your first priority, you'll end up messing up your life as I had in the past. Though I now found and live with the One for me, life  is not easy for me because I had wasted  much effort, years, and opportunities just so I can find that someone. I'm supposed to be graduated and working. However, I am not because I misplaced my priorities and had the feelings you are having now. I messed up high school, 3 years of college and was on bad terms in the Air Force because I was more interested in finding a woman for my life rather than making something of my life first. Sometimes, you never know that the someone you're looking for had been with you the whole time and you didn't know it. Vee was my only support while I was in the service, but we met online years prior and I never expected to be mates with her. Now I feel bad because I've had relations with others before her and cannot marry her now because I never did sort myself out. Please don't take offense to this, but you must understand that I've been there, too. Aside from drugs and homocide, I've done it all. In my short time here in the world, I can definitely tell you all this with the utmost sincerity and concern. Everyone here on TFF is my new family when mine had abandoned me. I care for all of you like you were my siblings and children. So please, don't worry about it. Take care of your life, the rest will take place when it's the right time. You don't need that drama in your life.

[Self-sain]

OK what they said was true but you probably will think they don't understand and there just being overbearing adults. So it might help if it comes from someone closer in age, its a natural reaction to want to fell loved it fells good it fells safe and it fells right. When you experience it you fell like this felling is right but when you lose it you fell as though you'll never fell it aging.  You could actually be in love with that girl, but it wont matter because she doesn't love you if she did then she wouldn't hurt you and this applys to everyone if they love you they wont hurt.BUT PLEASE don't get that mixed up with someone not doing something and it hurts you because its probably for your own good. I think this was a description of a Greek god "they have two eyes in the front a one eye in the back" that means to look to the future with two eyes and reflect with one. You shouldn't have your full attention on the past because that's all it is the past you can't change it all you can do is learn from it, and you shouldn't let your past mess up your future I know I did and know I have to try to take all AP courses to pull my GPA up just because I of some family crap. The only you can do right now is to better yourself make your self someone you would want and you do t ever need to change for anyone if they over you they'll want you for you

[Arrant]

Okay, I was going to post that you need to get over it and find someone new, and no that couldn't be 'your One and Only' at such an early age. Believe me, when you lose the first one, it's the one you think you loved the most. Now as much as I can sit here and rant about the pros, I think it would be MUCH better if I talked to you via IM, instead of giving you a bunch of words to read.

[Shinzuu Katame: Her Tolfy]

ditto.  

If you wanna talk on im. let me know as well.

[Self-sain]

Arrants right but I think its always good to have time to reflect first

[Rex]

im sorry jes, dont listen to parents ( they dont know a effin thing)  If you are sure there is no hope of her loving u again, then you need to find someone better, if you think its possible

[Shinzuu Katame: Her Tolfy]

dude, that is probably the worst advice I've seen posted on this topic. Let me rephrase that. It's the only actual NON-helpful advice on here.

[AirRaiser]

Umm parents do know a thing or two, cause remember they've probably been there. So I have to agree with Shinzuu Katame.

[Rex]

UUghh, ok you guys are right , I have'nt got a whole lot of experience, when it comes to affairs of the heart.

[Self-sain]

The important thing is we all are here to help and talk if you needed it... but thiss acounts to every one if someones is asking for help it isn't a good time to play hero and put what ever down

[iKero-chu™]

Okay, so I'm 16... and I once had someone I loved very deeply sleeping next to me when I visited them... now they hate me... said it out right. I miss having someone warm to cuddle with at night... and to cry on when I have nightmares... and can tell anything, without them judging me... My mom says she hates the one who I still love for it, and that I'm too young to like I do...
I'm so afraid that this girl I love was my one and only, and that I screwed it up. What if I never find someone I love so much again, and I'm meant to be lonely and crying like I am now for the rest of my life?

I feel you on that, I hate to sleep alone.
I can't even get use to sleeping alone, especially without my mate by my side anymore. /:

Well, it takes time hun.
Time to heal and move on.
The best thing is to just keep moving on, dealing with the emotions, and living your life.