i just need help to dicide something

[nhocas]

ni guys in am new where so i want to say hihihi befora i start talking

Over the past two years I fell in love with my current mate, I always knew he loved another  fur a long time ago, but he is in love with me, but I think he still loves the other, I know that sometimes but I'm jealous  buthe has not passed that love, and today the two decided to exchange Valentine's Day cards and gifts after I try to talk to him and he just ignore me when i was talking with him :'( we  two live together about 9 months time but he  put me aside and that hurts me, maybe i should ignore but I can not. every time I try to talk to him we discust. i dont know what to do I love my mate but no longer know what I want. "
sorry for the poor English.

thanks

Nhocas

[WingedZephyr]

Make sure you talk to him about how you feel. If it really is just a little Valentine's day thing, it might not be as big of a deal as you might feel it is. But as your mate he should be able to recognize that it bothers you and be able to talk to you about it for the sake of your relationship. If it is more than just a little Valentine's day thing, and he really does have feelings for this other person, confront him about it and tell him you'd like him to make up his mind about who he wants to be with.

[Shinzuu Katame: Her Tolfy]

I agree with Zeph for the most part. However, I think that if he exchanged gifts along with cards, then that's just not right. Valentine's Day is the symbol of love, and to exchange more than a card with someone other than your mate, is proof of infidelity. From what you've said so far, you didn't even get a gift yourself, did you? Sounds shady to me. If he truly loved you, he would not have put you aside. Even with my biggest fights with my mate, we never cast the other one out, no matter what the fight was about. If he doesn't lose those feelings for his ex, then you two really shouldn't be together. Those who can't let go of the past should not try to move forward. Just tell him straight out. It's either you or the ex. It's as simple as that. I really hate people who are indecisive and taking advantage of people. Most of all, I hate those who delve in infidelity, it really pisses me off. Sorry, my advise morphed into my rant. but yea. It's you or the ex. One cannot have 2 worlds, only 1.

[nhocas]

yes thats what i think he have to chose im just afraid, i know they past the ex just need someone because his mate leave him, thats not just for me, I love him he is me he is everything, my love my best friend i am afraid that he chose the other fur and leave me. I am suffering and scared so I want everything back to normal. :'(

hugs and tks

Nhocas :'(