Advice: Telling others about being furry

[- Kaze]

a decent percentage of furries who have come out wear a collar for whatever reason they choose, whether to be able to be told apart by other furries,show the world that they are furries or just because it keeps your neck warm.

You could probably just use a real dog one, as long as it's a big one, not something you'd put on a chihuaua [sp?] xD Or, you could make your own~  I'm making one, and putting a small cow-bell on it

I think i might try this, what kind of collar do you get or is it just a dog collar from a shop.

EDIT; however, we're going a little off topic guys~

[- Kaze]

Okay, I dont really wanna do a repeat thread of 'OMG HOW DO I TELL PEOPLE I'MA FURREH' but, It's on that topic, with a few other bits and fo shiz. I'd love some sort of feedback and stuff 

H'okay,

I've -always- liked anthro stuff, and I'd heard about furries before, heck, I was friends with about three when I was at Bleachforums. I kinda tried it out, and I liked it, but then I stopped. Then, I met my current boyfriend, he lives in wales, so it's a bit of a treck for me to see him [thus I haven't quite met him yet o.o yes, it's complex] but we talk everyday on MSN, we webcam-convo sometimes, we've called each other, text, and we've mailed each other gifts and stuff. anyway, we do RP's on Msn, and he suggested a centaur one, I wanted to try it cause it seemed fun, and wasn't just normal humany stuff, that went onto WoW chars, which I also really enjoyed, then finally we moved onto furry RPs. we've done tonnes and tonnes of them, and I guess that's when I started to feel like I was a furry, and I felt happy and stuff. We ended up getting into a routine of picking our own chars and stuff, instead of doing matching ones, and I kept picking my cow-furry. Recently, I guess I finally realized I LOVE furries, and love being one.

o_o I guess there isn't much of a question in there, but it's  bit of backstory to me or something.

ANYWAY, onto the harder part. My parents're perfectly fine with me drawing anthro's and stuff. I've shown them, and they've really liked them. [I draw plenty of weird manga chars, so I guess they'd think it more normal? ] but now, I've wanted to actually come out and say it. At school I've started drawing more, and I've been bringing up furries, to see what peoples reactions are. Most were all 'EW, FURRY? THATS DISGUSTING', so I suggested Urb. dictionary-ing the term, after trying to explain myself. that was a BAD idea -_- anyway, one guy was like 'LOL WHY? are you a furry?  ' but, I denyed it, cause of everyones reaction. I was scared people were gonna hate me and stuff, and I have only a few friends in 6th form, cause most went to colleges and other ones, and I just lost contact with them. I really wanna just come out with it, but I'm scared I'll lose what friends I have left.

Also, I wanna start doing part-fursuiting [Ears, tail, hoofs etc.] and I've bought some fur for all but the latter, My mum asked why I bought some cow-print fur, and I told them I just wanted to make something different that no-one else'll have at 6th form. she just accepted it and stuff, then I mentioned possibly making a 'cute little tail out of the 'scrap' material', she just said 'sure whatever' and went back to what she was doing. I'm 17, and it feels to me like, doing that kinda stuff is what you'd do when you were like, 10, dressing up and stuff, and I'm scared that if I just come out and tell her that I'mma furry, that she'll just, not like it and be all nasty and meh.

Sooooooo, if you haven't already gave up on my epic paragraphs. Please can I have some advice? 

[Righteousbro]

There's the telling others advice thread already stickied that has some useful advice, but I'll put my two cents.

First off, not a lot of people know what a furry is, you parents probably haven't heard of them before. Also 'coming out about it' isn't necessarily what you should do, when you come out about things people assume it's something to be scared of telling someone. Being furry is just something you are and do, you don't have to act like it's a big confession or else people will think it's something bad. But if you don't tell people they will think it's something that you should be keeping secret. Starting up the conversation is difficult usually, I usually just show people my art and they ask why I have so many weird animals and I say it's because I'm furry, then I explain what a furry really is.

[WingedZephyr]

Actually, if you've already shown people that you draw anthros, there's a relatively easy solution for this.

When your parents see you drawing furry artwork, just tell them about the characters you're drawing, and show them your fursona, and say "this is a character I draw sometimes who I think represents me." Chances are, they won't freak out about that, merely ask some questions. Don't make it sound like a big deal, because it really isn't. Being a furry just means you like anthropomorphic characters, and having an anthro character for yourself is kind of a logical next step, particularly as an artist. And then if your parents continue to ask about the fursuit, you can actually tell them "I thought about making a costume that looks like the character I've created for myself" and they'll already actually have an idea of what you're talking about. And if it seems weird to them, say it's for Halloween or something, which will make more sense to them than if you just make a random costume out of the blue.

Remember that telling people you're a furry doesn't always require saying the exact phrase "I'm a furry." As long as people understand what you're interested in, what difference does it make if you attach the word to it or not. And once you get the chance to fully explain your interests, you can always tell them later that that's what makes you a furry.

[Seko]

i came out to my friend in my RME class when we had to draw ourselves and he said my self portrait looked sad and like i didnt express myself to which i replied: "if i was expressing myself it would have a tail..." he understood lol

[Crevan Fox]

Well i tried coming out to my best friend but he started laughing. Non-fur's don't get it

[Seko]

yeah one of my friends instantly said "oh my god your a furry! can you get me anthro porn?" to which i abruptly punched him in the face..

[Crevan Fox]

yeah one of my friends instantly said "oh my god your a furry! can you get me anthro porn?" to which i abruptly punched him in the face..

We would all punch him in the face Lol

[Seko]

now all i have to worry about is my other ignorant friend....some day i will exact my revenge in the burning hatred that is the devious rift of anger in my soul....sorry i really really really hate him lol.

and to stay on topic: i might try to come out next time i have a talk in english, il probably either do it on furries or victims of stereotyping

[Crevan Fox]

I was planning just to tell my friend's, I don't think my parent's need to know 

Post Merge: June 22, 2010, 11:45:48 AMAnd also my friend finally accepted me, I just wish he didn't tell the whole school  *FacePaw* 

[The Past]

I was planning just to tell my friend's, I don't think my parent's need to know  

Post Merge: June 22, 2010, 11:45:48 PMAnd also my friend finally accepted me, I just wish he didn't tell the whole school   *FacePaw*  

Bah, makes me wonder how he said it to people... "OMG DIDYA KNOW [AnthroFox] IS A FURRY?! LOLz!"
I realized letting friends know you're a furry can help you sort out true friends from fake ones. If a "friend" can't handle it, and doesn't realize that you're still the same person he/she knew regardless of being a furry, that person probably isn't such a good buddy for you.

Not saying he really has that attitude about it, he probably just can't keep his mouth shut.

[Crevan Fox]

I was planning just to tell my friend's, I don't think my parent's need to know 

Post Merge: June 22, 2010, 07:45:48 PMAnd also my friend finally accepted me, I just wish he didn't tell the whole school  *FacePaw* 

Bah, makes me wonder how he said it to people... "OMG DIDYA KNOW [AnthroFox] IS A FURRY?! LOLz!"

That's spot on how he told my other friend's, Don't worry I will tell him he need's to stop being so stupid. Thank's Lita for some reinsurance   

[Crevan Fox]

And I also told another friend over Xbox live I was a furry, He took it well, Surprisingly well  

[Crazking]

Most of my friends know but don't understand what it's all about.

[Crevan Fox]

I have had the worst day ever. As you know my friend did not take it well when I became a furry and tension’s where high between me and him, and until yesterday we haven’t talked about it, Then out of the blue he started making fun of me for being a furry and normally I wouldn’t care but it had already been a bad day for me so we had a argument and after a while he went off. Can I get some advice of what to do now, shall I talk to him or just leave him be?