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Advice on love
« on: August 29, 2010, 04:45:20 AM »
Throughout my entire life, I have had little to no friends. I have trouble with socializing with people and as a result, I am 16 and have never ever had a girl friend. Id love to experience having one, but I am not quite sure how to get one. How do I know if a girl is interested in me? How could I ever even bring the subject up? Even if I get one, Id have no idea what to do. I am not poppular at my school and no one really even talks to me.

Do any of you fellow furs have any advice for me?

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Re: Advice on love
« Reply #1 on: August 29, 2010, 06:00:19 AM »
im 21 and sans girlfriend my entire life as well. I have no doubt that having a girlfriend would be awesome, however, blindly searching for someone to share life with, even for a short time, is foolhardy. This may sound cheesy, but being yourself is the best way to find the girl who likes you for who you are. it may take time, but if she's really special, she'll be worth it. if you can get a job at target or something, you may find someone who works there who's kinda cool, if you know what i mean  ;). Don't give up hope, you will find someone.

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Re: Advice on love
« Reply #2 on: August 30, 2010, 09:44:51 PM »
There are people in this world who have deserved love more than any other and yet have wandered throughout a good chunk of their lives without it. We've all got to accept that good things take time and on the contrary to what this modern world would have you believe, you're still young and most relationships at this age you may see tend to be short or sometimes driven by the wrong reasons. I'm not saying that nobody your age has experienced a true, long and meaningful relationship but the majority probably haven't.
Love can't be rushed and it'll come in time or not at all. There are things you can do to help it find you but at the end of the day, relax. You've got your whole life ahead of you and there will be plenty of opportunities if you know where to look and keep an open mind. And if worst comes to worst...*shrugs* not everyone gets their ideal match but it's still possible to live a happy and full life regardless.

I'm not sure if any of that is what you want to hear but in any case, give it time. Look for people with shared interests and mindsets, try to find people who you can form bonds with, as friends or otherwise. Little by little, feel your world grow and with it brings new chances for you, more connections...more odds of improving at socialising and finding The One.
And if they're into you, there'll be signs...maybe they seem flustered around you, blush a lot, avoid eye contact, often agree with you or insist that you're "just friends". This is just me speaking and you can disregard anything I say but I think looking for friends and allies first is better than outright looking for a partner. If the former approach fails and they either aren't into you or things fall apart, you may still have a friend in your world to rely on if you're lucky. With the latter approach, you either get accepted or shot down.

...at the end of the day, just be yourself, don't lose hope, take things easy and try to expand your world a little if you can. Oh and that applies to life in general, not just life. I wish I could help you more but that's about all I can offer you at the moment. Good luck.
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Re: Advice on love
« Reply #3 on: September 02, 2010, 06:18:05 AM »
Bro, being 17 and in my 3rd relationship for the past 9 months, I'll tell you now, you don't want a girlfriend at your age. Yeah, its fun and exciting at first but after a while, you get tired...and you WILL get tired. Kids around this age don't know what love is. My girlfriend is nothing but the ball and chain. No time for friends, partying, work, nothing. All they will want you to do is buy them expensive things they'll never wear (and throw out when you break up) and have you listen to them nag about their day to day problems you couldn't care less about. Sure you'll go out and have "fun" but for me, I'm the kind of guy that likes to be the life of the party. She isn't. She will want me all to herself no matter where we go. She'll want me to snuggle while my friends are begging me to go and play beer pong with them. It just isn't the same. Yeah, she cares about me and scolds me when I smoke or do something stupid because she cares. But at the same time, I don't want another mother. I'm stuck in this relationship. The last time I tried breaking it with her, she nearly drank herself to death and had to be pumped (She's that crazy).

Point is dude, you're not at the age where you need a girlfriend. You may find someone who shares a common passion but don't go off starting a relationship. It's just not the same. A good ol' fashioned friend is the best answer. Bros first and all that. Find someone you like and be friends. Be happy. Don't go looking for something you think you want and dont need.

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If you REALLY want to try your hand at "love" then find a girl you like. Don't be creepy, scary, or awkward, just be cool. Make conversation, but don't talk about boring crap like the weather, the date, the time, or something completely random. Be confident and be nice. You can choose to go with the cute look or the dangerous one. Personally, my girlfriend likes it when I do one then the other. Become good friends. Talk in class, over texts, and see her at lunch often. After a few weeks of building a friendship, ask her out. If she says yes, you're in business. Take her to the movies, out to dinner, desert, whatever. Don't go over top. Good luck man.

 
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Re: Advice on love
« Reply #4 on: September 03, 2010, 09:49:11 PM »
Don't look for love, love shall find you.
No bull, I've looked for my whole life, found 7 and they all ended up bad, but a while after I stoped looking, I found my current bf, and unlike the rest of them (save for maybe 1) I can see myself with him for a long time. :)

 

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