I need help... Bad, I'm desperate.

[ReibuKoneko]

    What do you do when you love someone, but they don't love you the way you need them to? I've been a messed up person for a while. My ex left me the day before valentines day (the day before I was going to propose). After that I just fell apart. I wouldn't eat. I rarely slept. Then I met Heather, she changed all of that. we dated for seven months. During those seven months I started eating again and I actually got sleep. She made me whole, But then she told me she didn't feel the same about me as she did before. She wanted to be friends so I agreed. I didn't question it I figured she would come back to me. For a while there she did... well started anyways. We would talk all night again, share our secrets, and things were good.

    I'm writing this today 'cause I cant take it anymore. I need her in my life. she just told me "I know how much you care about me. I know you don't think I do, but I do. It's why I feel so damn bad that I can't love you the way you want me to.".

    What do I do? I love her so much. How do I get her to come back?

[Fly Boy]

    I may be only 16, but I've been on both sides of this situation. There is a girl that I have stayed friends with and she knows how I feel about her (making an immature mistake late one night out with friends and her current boyfriend, but that's another story) and I have had to bury my feelings for her and unfortunately it's been partially successful. But those feelings are always there. There are times when I'm immensely successful and happy and having fun, but it's all dampened because of those feelings.   

     My advice? FIND A WAY TO GET HER TO COME BACK. Unfortunately I can be of little help and all I have to offer is to keep reminding her of how much she means to you in little ways, make you two grow closer and closer and hopefully she'll eventually feel the same toward you.

I hope this helps 

[Alison Marie]

hmm the way i see it you should ask her why and then compromise based on the responce. you must relize that it may be a mental block meaning that something that happened to her may not allow her to do so. you may have to tear down that block if that is the case. also an expression of love may be a challenge for her because of something tramatic that happened to her at a very early age like when my mom got a devorce with my dad she left the house and i didnt know. for days i cried and wouldnt go to sleep or eat much like you. i was afraid that some one else would disapere if i went back to sleep. so an expression of love can be difficult. it all depends on what she thinks and how she feels. pm me if it helps or you need more help!

[Vinny Raccoon]

sometimes women come women go, but you should never give up on love. i know cos there once was a beautiful woman i had a crush on my whole life. tho we where jest friends, i wanted more then that. but hay, just because chemistry dose not mix as we hoped, the only thing we can do is learn from our failures and stand strong. just because somthing did not work out, dose not meen we should give up! i know, cos i been turned down alot by women. but that dose not meen you should give up.

put her needs before your own, and don't be a great man, just be a man. write her a love poam, and tell her the truth how you feel. and if she still's says no, then at least you tried =:3

[ReibuKoneko]

Thanks guys, I really appreciate it.