the mother that never was

[x]

She is NOT in control and you don't have to fear jack squat.

Don't give in to this fear always letting it bother you...that's what she wants you to do!

You have your own brain and your own emotions. Do not deny the power to use them how you see fit. You don't have to let her become a problem in your head.

Ignore her. Ignore all thoughts of her. Like it or not, the type of stalking you described is a crime in any state because it IS threatening you. There's no reason for someone as old as you to have to move back in with mum. She wants to get you back so she can hurt you. And unless you wanna be hurt it's time to move on.

Better yet, make her fear you. I've made many potential bullies steer clear of me. See how she likes it when you turn the tables on her.

Get buff. Either show her that she doesn't affect you or take her head on.

DON'T let yourself become a victim. That would be foolish no matter what.

[icy wolf]

Kaprika, you matter to me, i may only know you through tff but you still matter and you have self worth. Tell her that you are free from her and you WILL obtain a restrain order, tell her your not scared of her and her false promises and threats don't scare you at all, make her feel bad tell her she nothing, shes worse then a parasite and if she trys to find you tell her you will take imitate action to insure she will be in prison.

sorry if some of that sounded like a strong hate, but you have to make her fear you in ways that are legal so the law cant be used ageist you. 

[Kaprika]

she isnt afraid of me..she never has been. in her eyes there is nothing i could do or WOULD do that she couldnt worm herself out of...she can just claim she is a worried mother wanting to see how her daughter is...
...she works in the fire dpeartment..she has all the local cops and sherrifs on speed dial...there all friends and know one another well, doing anything legal would be hard..cause its my word against hers as far as theyre concerned

[x]

You are making excuses to be scared! It doesn't matter what or who she is or who she thinks she is, she has no power over you. You are letting her have power over you with these excuses. I'm not saying they aren't true but they ARE excuses that continue to stomp you down and prevent you from doing what you need to.

If you want to stop living in fear, if you want to get over this, you have GOT to either move on or stand up.

Hate to be brutal, but honestly I care about you, and I'm just trying to help you.

You CAN RUIN her if you wanted, do you understand me? You could turn those friends of hers against her more easily than you think. Be trustworthy and believeable and get to the heart of the matter you can make them believe you.

Or you could move on. You are an adult woman now. You can forget all about her and fill that hole in your heart with something better. Just ignore the messages. There is no law that mothers need to see their children. She can't press that in court or anything else! You know who can press charges or file in this case? YOU can if you want to!

Either forget her or do something about her, but doing nothing and letting it get to you only feeds the monster that is her.

[bones2oo21]

I tell you what i know right now is she is afraid of you because your out of her control. when you take that way you take everything from them. I know first hand my biological father would get along real nice with her it sounds like. My biological had to have full control over the entire family you went out when you got home you would get intrigated where you go what did you do. nothing you ever did was good enough you never will amount to anything. He even went as far as calling me names such as fatass, pussy so on and so forth. I found a name on the internet that describes him (I dunno why i even refer to him as a him it should be a IT) to a T really "narcissist" He even had my sister arrested at the age of 16 for threatening him lol this is how messed up he is. my mother left him 4 or 5 times always going back in the end. you didn't jump when he said jump you got locked away in your room for weeks at a time. I was beaten with a belt out of anger i dunno how many times. My sister was the favorite until i got out at 17. my sister is 5 yrs younger than me all she had to do was scream i would get beaten with a belt. i was thrown had stuff thrown at me by both parents. my mother some what protected me but she never did stand up to him till i did. since i could pick up a stick i was forced to go out every weekend no matter the weather and cut wood with him no big deal till you consider how broken he is and how much of the work i was forced to do i never seen any of the money its not like we did it for the roof over our head either. he worked hvy construction on high ways at 16 17 an hr back in the 90s. his vision of a house was something held together with spray foam over 120 yrs old trees and grass would grow up in the walls. this place was 15 miles from the nearest town of 100 population. i never had any friends till i was 13 and thrown into public school from home school. even then i was a social out cast. My only friend was fear that i used to keep all the others away. my size from all that hard labor payed off in the end. when i got out at 17 he tried to track me down contacted me like your mother is doing to you. finally i had enough i met him one last time. he thought by standing between me and the wooden door he could stop me from leaving well just to give you a picture I stand 6,1 6,2 in my boots 300 lbs i have been known to pick up the back end of a ford ranger. i put him through the door and told him if he ever contacted me again i would make sure he would never be found.   im 21 now i have yet to hear a peep from him.  the last time my mother left him was when i put him through the door she claim that she got me out but she never stood up to him till i did. all those years growing she would talk to me for advise on what she should do. i was forced to grow up fast never really had a child hood i had to defend my own mother and support her emotionally. she claims to have a close relation ship with me she shares every thing with me including how her new husband is treating her like crap they constantly fight like in the previous marriage. i finally shared with her that i am a furry first she thought i was coming out as gay then after i told her i was a furry she said " So why are you telling me this" like it was burden to tell her something about myself instead of her complaining to me. so much for your close relationship MOTHER. also for some reason when i still lived in that house i would defend my sister. when she actually would screw up i would cover for her. then when she wanted something she would scream and i would get a beating. why i did that i dunno. i guess its because i knew if she got it he could actually hurt her with me not much was left to hurt really. i did have one earthly father though my uncle hes the one that taught me almost everything how to work on cars houses computers taught me to drive. also took in my mother when she left a couple of times and supported us but she always went back. Then i made the mistake of letting on that my uncle was a good father and my biological refused to let me see him for several years after till i got out.

sorry for the long post i thought i would share my story. Just remember one thing they do have a fear that is not having that control over you. Please don't let her scare you or control your life any more I know its hard but eventually the best thing is to either disapeer or stand up to her. you mentioned something along the lines of having a mate in your first post i believe talk with them about it. I did have one friend in high school who i shared every thing with that's what got me though a lot of crap she stood side by side with me were still friends to this day