furry hater friends

[WingedZephyr]

Trolls: Don't feed them.

[Kaprika]

I have two differing views on this....

first, I agree that one has thin skin to always get irritated and like 'omg quit hating on furs you hypocrit' when someone attacks them. if this is your friend, then don't you feel obligated to stop whining and do something about it? did you show him examples of normal furs? did you give him solid facts about why furs are not weird? first off, since when is being weird so bad anyway? second off, he clearly doesn't know jack about real furs and he's confused, so he's using only what he's seen in the media to form his opinion. you've got to fight back just as powerfully to show him what real furs are as the media fights to portray us as bad.

personally, i don't do this myself. why? because I don't get hurt by it. I'm proud of being furry, it doesn't hurt me at all when people joke....because they're just joking! take my friend for example, he's a total gay and I make fun of him all the time, not to be mean, but because it's funny! and what does he do? he doesn't get hurt and complain about my 'intolerance to gays.' he knows damn well I love gays, lesbians, all of em. if I didn't I wouldn't be pansexual. so he gets me back and makes fun of me being pan! we appreciate that we don't take every little thing so seriously and have a jolly ol time.

HOWEVER, I look at the situtation here you've shown me and it's different. Sure thin skin may be to blame but that's no excuse for a friend continuing to hurt your feelings if you tell him to stop. If my friend ever said 'hey stop it it's not funny anymore you hurt my feelings' then I would stop. Because it's the right thing to do in a friendship. You need to tell him, as a friend that his actions really hurt your feelings, and that your hurt has nothing to do with furry, but with friendship. If he doesn't stop, he's worthless as a friend.

eh...we actualy just the day before had like a 2 hour conversation about this..i spent it telling him all the steryotypes...where there wrong, where there are special occations and what we really are all about..and he says he knows all this and still thinks were weird ass people. since my mission isnt to "convert" his opinion though i just moved the conversation along hoping it wouldnt pop up again..but apparently he doesnt want to let it go.
his unwaivering opinion had alot of base off a freind of his that apparently "went furry" cause her dad died. he claimed when he died she litteraly said "**censor** this, im gonna be a furry"
which isnt how it happens...and i SERIOUSLY doubt that was the case...its not like choosing your wardrobe for the day you dont ust DECLARE it out of nowhere..if anything thats not how it was worded and it may have been a descision she made tottaly unrelated to her fathers pasing...AND thats something she may have been considering for a while now...and its a lame excuse as for why he doesnt like furries..

Post Merge: March 29, 2011, 03:31:39 PM

Trolls: Don't feed them.

yeah...but its harder when its your "friend"

[WhiteTiger89]

Well for some people, their beliefs become a security blanket. So when something comes along to take that security away, they resist it with everything they have because they feel threatened. I try to keep as open a mind as humanly possible, and I've still found myself in that position a couple of times. Most notably when considering the death penalty. Granted, I ended up maintaining my original view, but that's more because the argument that I was hearing against it wasn't convincing enough.

To me, saying we furries are weird because we're furry is like black people are weird because they're black (I say this as a black man myself). I know I didn't make a conscious choice to be furry. I just realized one day that I was.

[Fly Boy]

Unfortunatly, this is the reason I've stayed an underground furry. 

To much s*** to put up with when going public. Especially in High School

[.: ♥ Kiniia ♥ :.]

Okay, well I've read through the conversations myself and It looks like he is just trying to bait you about it to get a response. as WZ said, don't feed them. Yeah sure he might be bringing it up all the time but just ignore him and if he confronts you directly about it then there's two things. He's pathetic for resorting to that in the first place, and if he goes to that length just to annoy you and try to argue, then regardless of how long you've known him, drop it like it's hot. Or just say 'whatever mate' and just be nonchalant about the situation.

Thin Skin may be a part of it. but that's not your fault, there are a lot of people who feel strongly about furry or other cultures. and they would've done just the same, if not for my experience of dealing with trolls I would've done the same as you.

Oh and if he still persists, then he probably thinks he has unbeatable logic, so one easy thing to do is just crush his pride, turn the argument back on him using the same twisted logic as him. and THEN when he's on the back foot can you pelt him with truths about the fandom. Only speak good things if you wish to best him. and make sure you can back it up in triplicate. then what I would do from there is end on a comment about how pathetic he is for doing all this in the first place, and that if this is his form of entertainment it is really sad and he should probably do something productive and stop being a waste of space...but that's just me.