a trapped fur

[lunpeltas]

ok so my friend____ has been dating this guy_____ and shes been a furry for a very long time and i never knew* fancy that* one day i saw her journal and saw the tons and tons of drawings of her fursona and random furrs, and i ask"your a furry" and she gets all quiet, but then i explain that im a furry as well. we get to talking and her guy isnt really a fur, and kind of a dick (fur hater) but she keeps it to herself for him, but over the past few months shes told me that she has had these (lewd) dreams about me and lun(my fursona) and to be honest so have i but i know the guy shes with and hes a friend of mine. then out of the blue she wants to (Rp) over aim and i couldnt really say no at the time( it was that time of night) and weve been doing this for about a month and a half, shes telling me that if she had met me first she would be with me and that she is falling for me. and i currently have a young very tasking woman at my side whom i regretfully say is just too much to deal with at times. i know that i should let this go and i know she is with him, but i just cant stop thinking of her.... any sourse of outside opinon would help me because im not sure i can trust myself on this :'(

[Asia Kali Yusufzai]

first off, calm down. Second off. If you're not happy with your current girlfriend, then talk to her and be honest and sort out your relationship. If after that the relationship isn't working then maybe think about ending it.

As for this furry girl, she has to sort out her own life. You can't help her much with that. If you do end up single, then honestly think hard before jumping in with this furry girl. Relationships of this kind need a lot of thought before doing anything.

[___]

Tell her to tell her bf that she's a furry, and if he breaks up with her the better off she is. No relationship more than a bf/gf one needs trancparency. (I don't date huma- non-furs anyway; gets too complicated, most, if not all of them didn't get my animal quirks)

And you need to straighten out your relationship. I don't get why people find it so hard to COMMUNICATE in a relationship. If she's the one, then you should be able to talk to her about ANYTHING, and if not... Well, you're wasting your time.
But fix what you already have, put some investment in a relationship. And remember, you don't have to be going out with someone 24/7. Being single can be fun too.

[DatFox Coleo]

(off topic rant)

Kids these days are dating at 8 years old! I thought back in the 90's or something you waited until you were 13 at least!

[lunpeltas]

very off topic indeed but yeah ill do what i need to do

[Karma Moonshadow]

That's a tough situation. I'd say look at the long-term. If the furry girl understands you better and you're alot more alike, then that may be the right choice. On the other hand, would the girl you have now understand you and still like you for who you are? The best thing to do would be to just find out. If she loves you, you shouldn't have to hide who you are. Neither should the other furry. Also, if you have to hide your true self from your mate for your entire life, you will always feel like something's missing.

[Ongaku]

As the others have said, solve your own relationship issue before hand. If you're having doubts "NO MATTER" how strong a connection you have
it's always good to talk it out in a peaceful environment. It saves a lot of trouble, time, and helps build confidence if you decide the relationship
should continue. Like previously stated you sound to be displeased with your current mate and if that is so maybe she isn't the right one.

As for your friend, it is the same for her. If she doesn't tell her partner now, it could cause a huge problem later on if his view of furs worsens.
So it is best she tell him, they talk about it, and other things such as her diminishing attraction towards him. They talk and live together, or
separate. In which case if you are also single you two could attempt it after a week or two of bachelor...ness... 

Two side notes though....
1) I do not know her or you on a personal level... But if she acts how she does now while she is already courted, what assurance do you have
that she wouldn't do the same to you?

2) I agree with DatFox Coleo!!!

[RedWolf "lucifer" Guevara]

personaly id go for the furry girl because to me - and this is just me talkin - u and her seem more understanding of each other and therefore u would hava a better relation ship - just me talkin here -

and well being single isnt so bad, when my gf broke up with me i suddenly could afford a moped

[lunpeltas]

solved the problem.... i'm totally alone now... guess she didn't understand, but eh if she cant then i guess it was not supposed to happen. shes with him and thats that i put an end to her playfulness with me and we are suffering for it but at least things are not worse than they could be, shes safe. and thats what i care about the most

[Crevan Fox]

Is that good or bad?

[RedWolf "lucifer" Guevara]

are u happy with this?

[___]

I'd say its good. People toss relationships as if they're disposible these days. I'm happy that she's with the dude (Well, as long as he knows about the furry thing...)

[Raphial]

I'd say its good. People toss relationships as if they're disposible these days. I'm happy that she's with the dude (Well, as long as he knows about the furry thing...)

I agree. I hope the guy knows she is one...because if he doesn't, then that can make things a pain in the butt. However, if she laid down the law, so to speak, with you that she wants this other guy in the end, then kudos for her confidence in the other guy. Without that kind of confidence or straight answer, she's not quite the right girl to look for honestly in the first place. Just wait and see who's out there for you; I did and I'm glad I was patient.

[lunpeltas]

it was a really simple question to those who read it, but still i felt like she just wasnt happy with him as she told me the time and time again she pushed herself on me, her and her fursona. everynight she would contact me and flirt with me untill i couldnt stand it. i cant simply ignore it as responsible as it seemed to be, just the sheer pleasure she got from me and things about me. she feels like she is trapped. ( old girlfriend called me a furfag,,, and almost got hurt for it, not by me because i dont hurt females without asking, but those around me were less prone to stand down)


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all I can bring to the table on this subject is if this girl's guy cannot accept her lifestyle then he is not worth it