Relationships

[Shoon]

hello, i came to a state where im seeing enough people in the forum i consider friends, or atleast amezing smart and most importently, trust worthy people to open up on the subject that has been in my head for months.
and that is a girl/boyfriend (as i am pansexual)!


when i look at the title of a boy/girlfriend i think someone i can be intimate with, and be open compltly, i know that person dosent have to have this title to them but in the way my brain works, if i even think about opening to someone who dosent have that title i am attackd with feelings of deprresion self hate and sadness.
so i know 2 potentiall boy/girlfriends, both i havent knowen very long but i consider very good friends and i know it goes both ways, both share most of my fandoms and are furrys, some info about them:
one is an online friend i met on a diffrent forum, we talk nearly everyday and have fun thing is he lives on the other side of the planet, and if i will meet them it will probobly be in years! thing is i think they understand m very well and as open as me about stuff.
the other is living only  hour and a half drive away, she is more shy but we do talk often and when people usally go "eh i gotta go" or "dude dont do that" when i do something annoying stupid she goes "hehe and does something similar".


i dont know if i should wait and ask them, and if yes who when and how?
any help is welcome!


P.S.
both are on the forums so i didnt specify because i dont want them to know.
one of them just strated messeging me and for a seceond i though she is seeing i am making this

[YourUnknownHost]

It seems you need more time to spend with them until reaching a final verdict. You should always assume that they cannot use their bodies any way and just love them for them body parts are nice but love is better than that. Once the time comes you would know who to pick not other people you have the best judgement on what you want.

[Thisaccountnolongerinuse]

hello, i came to a state where im seeing enough people in the forum i consider friends, or atleast amezing smart and most importently, trust worthy people to open up on the subject that has been in my head for months.
and that is a girl/boyfriend (as i am pansexual)!


when i look at the title of a boy/girlfriend i think someone i can be intimate with, and be open compltly, i know that person dosent have to have this title to them but in the way my brain works, if i even think about opening to someone who dosent have that title i am attackd with feelings of deprresion self hate and sadness.
so i know 2 potentiall boy/girlfriends, both i havent knowen very long but i consider very good friends and i know it goes both ways, both share most of my fandoms and are furrys, some info about them:
one is an online friend i met on a diffrent forum, we talk nearly everyday and have fun thing is he lives on the other side of the planet, and if i will meet them it will probobly be in years! thing is i think they understand m very well and as open as me about stuff.
the other is living only  hour and a half drive away, she is more shy but we do talk often and when people usally go "eh i gotta go" or "dude dont do that" when i do something annoying stupid she goes "hehe and does something similar".


i dont know if i should wait and ask them, and if yes who when and how?
any help is welcome!


P.S.
both are on the forums so i didnt specify because i dont want them to know.
one of them just strated messeging me and for a seceond i though she is seeing i am making this

I'd say either go for it now or keep the way things are. If you're really close and are great friends then you risk making things awkward. If you see you two working out as a good couple then by all means go for it but if they and you consider yourselves awesome friends then just keep it that way. Good luck

[Ræfóa Aldrnari]

Try to think of them both, one at a time: If he/she had a really annoying habit; would you still like them? Are they someone you can live with, or someone you can't live without? Do you like them, only because they could be a potential girl/boyfriend, or are there also friendly feelings involved (I think I know the answer for that question)? Do you know how they look? If you're attracted to their looks, try to think of them with a... less attractive look. Would you still like them?


These are just a few questions you could test on both of them, one at a time. Just a friendly little tip.


Hope things work out for the best!