ADVICE:need dating advice

[Amethyst star]

Time after time I miss opportunities to date someone sometimes even when it's super obvious,I just go blind and don't see what's going on and just brush it of as if it's just something normal;example,once I was really into this girl but she was younger by 3 years and it felt kinda weird at the moment,since I've never dated then (and still haven't) I never knew what to do or say,turns out she liked me back and the signs were obvious:holding my hand and taking me somewhere to be alone and talk or something,giving me some well made drawings as gifts (without me asking) heck she would even be glad when I showed her some crappy thing I made as long as I were there;the point is I am a moron when it comes to this sort of thing an I need help,how did you get your date/s and how long did you know them beforehand? This is not at all related to anything furry I just need advice.

[Caesium Iodide]

Well, I haven't been in a relationship yet. Although I'm keen with this info.

But, to let you know, I've known this person for about five years. How we eventually became friends is he just messaged me out of the blue.

Most relationships start with friendship and then honesty is the next step.

I hope this helped you a bit. Good luck!!

[Snow Kittie]

Whats funny is that it seems like the stereotype or just overall thought to dating is meeting someone and dating them, right? When you stop and think though, it seems odd that someone would meet you and have only one purpose in mind: dating you. It would seem far more appropriate to be friends for a while and let the relationship grow with time.


I don't think the "friendzone" should keep anyone away or scare anyone. If you have feelings for someone you need to be upfront about it. Don't wait for them to make a move, or maybe even make signs of liking you too.


Keep your eyes out for signs that they do NOT want to be anything more,  but once I've said this I should also warn you not to scrutinize every little detail and see false negatives.


The reason I tell you to watch for negative signs is because as long as those are not present you should feel safe enough to make a move and let them know in one way or another. The feeling may be mutual, but the fear of scaring them off may be mutual as well - all you can do is try, and if they haven't given any negative signs - your good to go.

[Amethyst star]

Whats funny is that it seems like the stereotype or just overall thought to dating is meeting someone and dating them, right? When you stop and think though, it seems odd that someone would meet you and have only one purpose in mind: dating you. It would seem far more appropriate to be friends for a while and let the relationship grow with time.


I don't think the "friendzone" should keep anyone away or scare anyone. If you have feelings for someone you need to be upfront about it. Don't wait for them to make a move, or maybe even make signs of liking you too.


Keep your eyes out for signs that they do NOT want to be anything more,  but once I've said this I should also warn you not to scrutinize every little detail and see false negatives.


The reason I tell you to watch for negative signs is because as long as those are not present you should feel safe enough to make a move and let them know in one way or another. The feeling may be mutual, but the fear of scaring them off may be mutual as well - all you can do is try, and if they haven't given any negative signs - your good to go.

Oh don't worry I'm not one of those who plays the "nice guy" and believes in the whole Friendzone thing,when I said I ruined chances I meant I just didn't take them,the girl/s I talked about gave clear signs of liking me and I didn't see it till it was too late,mind you were still friends ofcourse. I respect any/every girl I meet,I treat them the same way I would to anybody and they generally appreciate that;now trust me I don't meet a girl just to immediately think that I would date her,not at all,I actually like getting to know her first before anything and that's fine because I bet to make a lot of good friends! As for bad signs,or signs of disinterest,I've never seen them since I'm never that forward and I don't really talk about dating in any sense, I guess what I mean is that I'm just a clueless guy who doesn't have enough knowledge or confidence to date someone. Oh and just incase this is how I look like (in cosplay) http://mrchill78.deviantart.com/art/roy-mustang-324613823

[Snow Kittie]

I'm sorry, I didn't mean that you DID date girls right off the bat. It was just my train of thought expressed out loud

[Amethyst star]

Lmao "off the bat" (fursona is a bat) sorry,anyways it's alright,what you have said has helped atleast a little bit with perspective and all that.

[Snow Kittie]

Lmao "off the bat" (fursona is a bat) sorry,anyways it's alright,what you have said has helped atleast a little bit with perspective and all that.

(: Cute bat.