Rant about . . . someone ranting.

[N.y.r.o]

(I was originally just gonna post this in the rant thread, but I realized that it's WAY TOO LONG for that so . . .)



But I'm really getting annoyed with one of my friends. And you know what it's about? His ranting! LOL
But seriously . . . okay so my internet friends and I have a group Skype chat that we all talk in whenever we're online basically. Well lately one of my friends has been kind of irritating as he'll start going on long tangents about irrelevant crap that has nothing to do with anything and no one actually cares about. And these freaking go on for 40 MINUTES OR MORE. Sometimes he'll talk so much and no one responds so there's just a random wall of text in the chat of him talking to himself about, oh who the hell knows, emojis, Windows 10, hackers, FREAKING JACOB SATORIUS?! He kind of started it a while back but it has increasingly gotten worse. Oh, and one time I got really ticked off because he kept talking about some challenges that were deathly like some plastic bag challenge where people would put plastic bags on their heads and basically kill themselves?? The main reason why it bugged me was because my best friend in the chat has depression and I didn't want her to get depressed by it. And I tried spamming random funny things to get him distracted but he just doesn't stop. The other day my best friend (let's call her H) and my other friend from the group chat (we'll call her B ) were in a Skype call together and the subject of the ranting guy (let's call him Z) came up. We all agreed that he often would talk about a subject and drone on about it for waaay too long. Then H brought up the time where he was talking about the plastic bag challenge thing and said how it actually made her feel depressed (which I knew it would because it was even depressing me and I don't even have depression) and the fact that she remembered this time explicitly (which I thought I was the only one that really remembered it, IDK) really struck me because it happened quite a while ago. I don't really know how to explain it . . . but anyway.


Long story short, Z rants and drones on forever in our group Skype chat about dumb, depressing and / or irrelevant crap no one else cares about.


Okay so to the part that really ticked me off now. Last night, H and I were playing Roblox ironically (LOL) and we had Skype open, well Z was online last night, and of course while we were playing freaking ROBLOX™ he started one of his stupid ten hour rants again. I can't even really remember what it was about because I didn't really care and so I didn't really read his messages (I think it started out he was ranting about internet ads or something). Well anyway I think B started talking to him eventually, so they had some weird conversation together, (with him still ranting). Well I wasn't paying attention to the conversation as I said, but earlier tonight I was talking to H about it and she mentioned something he said . . . (because she was actually reading the conversation I guess). Well he said something like, "I'm a little pissed at the chat tbh because, well, I tend to feel like I'm ignored / And I'm not trying to guilt trip y'all / I'm just saying how I feel / If I didn't say how I feel then it's going to bottle up and I might end up leaving this group chat"
Like what.
WELL OBVIOUSLY WE'RE GONNA IGNORE YOU WHEN ALL YOU DO IS RANT ABOUT STUPID SH** ALL THE GOD FREAKING TIME.
Sorry this is really bugging me and I have no where else to rant about it.
I like how I'm ranting about someone ranting . . .
Oh yeah. And he made his DA tagline "part of the squad, I ain't", "squad" meaning the rest of our friend group. Like what?! I'm really sick of him b**ching about everything.  (I have no idea if swearing is allowed on these forums but there doesn't seem to be a rule against it so snort).
I feel like next time he makes a stupid comment like that, I'm just gonna explode and call him out.
This is sad because I don't actually hate him, when he's not whiny and annoying he can be funny and he makes really cool things too.
But this part of his personality is just intolerable for me. I am the type of person that usually likes to be happy (or at least content) and not be all moody and stuff. I don't want to talk about stupid hackers and Windows BS I want to talk about something funny.
I actually called him out on his whining once a couple years ago (he was pulling the "I'M BEING IGNORED!" thing back then too) and I thought he finally stopped. But no, he's doing it again.
And sometimes he whines that his computer is too slow and his messages are "out of context" ("screw context anyway " as he says). He also always uses irritating terminology, like calling his Linux "snowflake OS" and saying how he needs a SUPER COMPUTER™™™™™™™
Also he keeps making his Skype name really edgy. Like each time he changes it it gets edgier. Like it started out as "(name) Intensifies" , then "(name) the frick" then "(name) the master of boredom" and now it's like "f***thisimouttahereville" LIKE WHAT DOES THAT EVEN MEAN?!
And you know what's the icing on the cake??
In the conversation he was having with B yesterday, he said the thing about being ignored and B said that she reads what he says but doesn't always know how to respond. And then he was like "my friend does that too and I get pissed off" like what.
WHAT.
I'm so done right now


Sorry nobody probably even cares and I just ranted about SOMEONE RANTING but like this is getting annoying and I don't know what to do about it tbh.
Also I hope I don't sound like a big a-hole either . . . I don't want to be the a-hole I was a couple years ago. But I'm frustrated and I just really don't know what to do about it. I'm not the only one annoyed by this, as I've said, I've talked to a couple of my other friends about it too. Especially my best friend is also annoyed about it . . .

[Ræfóa Aldrnari]

Oh, these kinds of friends are never fun to be around. Don't worry, you're not an asshole, I would do the same as you in you're situation. I do kinda know how you feel like, though. I've had some friends throughout the years that have almost done nothing but ranting about their problems to me, and of course, in the beginning I tried to help them, listening to them, and coming up with solutions. But it never really seemed like they took my advice, and just kept on ranting. My advice to you, would just be to try to find a solution to his problem(s), but if that doesn't work out, just ignore his ranting. If he bitches about being ignored again, then just tell him, that you tried to help him, but he didn't take your advice.

[YourUnknownHost]

Dont pay attention and to him when he rants but get involved when he does something that's not ranting.

[N.y.r.o]

Okay . . . I'm glad I don't seem unreasonable. Thank you for the responses. I haven't really been paying attention to his ranting lately but I'll do that, since I think that responding to his ranting is like encouraging bad behaviour.

On the topic though, of course last night (he lives in a different timezone so he's like half a day ahead of everyone else, so it's like afternoon for him when it's the middle of the night for me) he came on and starting bitching again about stupid things, WHEN NO ONE IS EVEN ONLINE. He started complaining about how he couldn't see the Skype messages because he uses Linux or something and was like "we should just use Discord, but screw that, that will just make me look selfish! And now my name is (name) out of the Loop!!1!11! Because I'm outta the loop! And y'all think it's my fault because I use a different OS!!!1!" like oh my god. Just stop, please . . . also why does he keep saying y'all LOL

It's annoying, I'm tempted to just kick him out of the group if he doesn't stop. Like okay, I get it, you're annoyed about how Skype doesn't work very well on Linux, and you hate Windows 10, but you don't need to whine about it constantly because it's even more annoying. Like . . . I understand that you're frustrated and stuff, but I feel like he's only making the situation worse with his behaviour. And I don't really think I know how to fix it either . . . other then switching to a different messenger, but then he's just gonna complain about how he's """"selfish"""" because we switched messengers. Logic.


Also this is a bit of a different subject, but he was remaking an old game I made in 2010 and I've been kind of working on it with him, I don't really know what to do with that right now though since he's being all annoying. Yum.

[Ræfóa Aldrnari]

If he keeps on ranting about nothing, and you've told him to stop (or something along those lines), I would recommend giving him a warning, that if he doesn't stop complaining about useless stuff, then he can find a solution to it, or get kicked off the chat.

[YourUnknownHost]

Can you call him a friend anymore?

[Armalite_]

You're a strong friend to keep someone around like that.

He sounds so immature and mellow-dramatic it's not even funny how badly your friend wants people's pity and attention. You can give it to him or you can tell him what you think he can do to better his attitude. If he doesn't take your advice then you've done what you can do and it's up to him to deal with not wanting to solve his issues.

If he feels he's no longer part of "the squad" he should take a step back and ask himself why. He's done nothing but draw negative attention to himself and people naturally do not like being around negative energy all the time.


Simply put, your bud needs to check himself.

[N.y.r.o]

Can you call him a friend anymore?

I don't even know anymore. We've done a lot together, like how we're supposed to be working on a game together, and he's fine when he's not whiny, but lately it's just so bad that, well, yeah.


@Spike_


Alright, and again, I'm glad I don't sound unreasonable. I agree with what you're saying . . . the negative energy is really what's bugging me. When the time is right, I'm probably going to try to tell him that, though he'll probably just get all weird and dissipate, but whatever, it's his problem anyway.


Again last night, he started whining to himself about how he "reached Skype's max display limit" and that he can't see our responses or something (during the week he has school, and because of the timezone difference, he doesn't get home until like the middle of the night for us). The funny thing is, is because he's always complaining now, there aren't even any responses for him anyway. So like okay. Then he went on about how he can't play Roblox (as my other friend and I were playing it ironically) because he has a Linux. Just . . . ugh. He always has to make everyone else feel bad for him or something. It's like no matter what we do, this guy is upset about it. I guess it's just a no-fun zone to keep him happy! Yum.


I also find it weird how he's always complaining about this kind of stuff when he HAS mentioned once about not always having access to clean water, or how he has ants and cockroaches climbing all over him all the time, but no, he decides to complain about first-world problems instead, while living in a developing country. Those seem like some flawed priorities to me.