I'm confused.

[Peanut B. Rawket]

Almost every time i talk to someone,  i feel as if they secretly hate me, and i feel like almost everything i say is just stupid, and i seriously regret saying . I even feel like this with close friends, who i'm certain would never do such a thing. It's a pretty ridiculous thing to fear, I keep telling myself that, but no matter how much reassurance I have, i can't help but feel like this. It begins to make me feel rather lonely at times, despite all of the support i have. I really don't know what to do about this, I don't know why i feel this way, i think its all in my head but it just doesn't go away. I'm confused on how to deal with all of this.


Does anyone have any similar experiences? Or just advice in general? Anything will help.

[Tim Siguire]

Hi peanut. We don't talk much or even see each other often but I like you. You're cool, interesting.
So, you're feeling lonely.. that's what I see, others may see that too but umm, I have felt lonely at times. Even earlier this month, especially. I just talked to someone who relates and it made me feel better. It could work for you
too. A hug from people would really make you feel less lonely. Especially from your friends. Here's one from me:

*Wrapping my arms warmly around your shoulders, I give you a friendly and happy hug. From a friend, to a friend.*
Wanted you to "feel" the hug. Hehe.

Now, all I can really say is this, that I read from Sytex. I like it, I feel it and when I read it, I feel less lonely because it's like a motivation to be happy.

Sytex
Even if it may feel like I'm all alone sometimes, I have to remember I still have one person around who cares: myself.
I'm not about to give up on myself, as I have never lost hope for anyone, so why give up on the person who never has?
Sytex

[Peanut B. Rawket]

I suppose that could be part of the problem, but as said before, i have some very supportive, awesome friends, i just seem have an unnatural fear of losing them. And it's kind of getting out of hand x.x
Sorry if my first post was a little confusing in that aspect

[Tim Siguire]

Oh, so i'm now guessing you feel like you are too clingy. And that scares you because you fear they'll leave because of the clingy-ness?

or maybe it's simply that. Fear of Loss. It's that. sorry, I thought a bit too much.

power spike just scared the crap out of me.

[Fenox Helkiin]

If you ask me it sound like you might have anxiety.

I think I have anxiety as well as depression but hey I'm not Phycology expert. If you want to talk to me about it feel free. I often feel like you do as well. It's actually pretty common with people who have anxiety to feel like that so it might be worth you getting a Phycological evaluation done just to aid in working out what's wrong.

[anoni]

The problem is you have a low self esteem it seems, possibly you feel inferior and you feel like you're doing things wrong all the time which makes you think your friends secretly hate you. Forgive me if I'm wrong about that, but low self esteem is a hard thing to get over, but a good way to give yourself a bit more confidence is to try and set out to do a goal or a project. Something where, at the end of the day, you'll feel like you've achieved something. It'd be better if this project was something practical, like maybe you want to build a computer, buy a telescope and see the stars, build a robot, help a charity, or do something that adds to your life in some way. But it doesn't necessarily have to be that, heck it could be beating a really hard level in a video game or just having a friend say he cares about you deeply, the aim of the game is to make it so you feel like you've achieved something, hopefully that'll increase your self-esteem a bit.

  So ask yourself, how can you apply yourself, what can you achieve?

[Armalite_]

I 100% agree will Anoni, you sound like you lack self-confidence and self-esteem, it makes you feel like you've always got something to be insecure about, which leads to anxiety and depression. You need to set goals for yourself or something to achieve and work at. It's a sense of purpose that keeps you focused on what you can achieve.


Your friends are your friends. You're friends for a reason and perhaps talking to them about whats bothering you might help. They'll help reassure you that you're not hated, otherwise, they wouldn't be your friends.


Usually when someone "secretly" doesn't like you, they'll make every excuse in the world to not see or talk to you. Sometimes, they're more up front and tell you why they don't like being around you, which will rarely happen. Even if it did, their reasons are usually from a past beef they have with friends of yours or with you personally over a past event. If you're a nice guy, you don't have to worry about it.


Is there a reason why you think you feel this way?

[Peanut B. Rawket]

Thanks guys for the advice, it's helped!
I think some of the reasons I've gotten this way is that there's been a few fights with some friends in the past, It's been months ago and things have gotten better, but i still fear losing them.

[Armalite_]

Thanks guys for the advice, it's helped!
I think some of the reasons I've gotten this way is that there's been a few fights with some friends in the past, It's been months ago and things have gotten better, but i still fear losing them.

Friends come and go as we grow older and more distant, its the way she goes. That doesnt mean you guys stop liking eachother as friends, it means you see less of one another until you meet again at a party or on the street and you "catch up" on old times.

It may seem like friends avoid or ignore you sometimes, but its not always because they dont want to be friends, I think people are just so busy with their lives that they lose sight of old friendships. Its nothing personal, but you cant always depend on them to be there forever.

[Dubaku]

Almost every time i talk to someone,  i feel as if they secretly hate me, and i feel like almost everything i say is just stupid, and i seriously regret saying . I even feel like this with close friends, who i'm certain would never do such a thing. It's a pretty ridiculous thing to fear, I keep telling myself that, but no matter how much reassurance I have, i can't help but feel like this. It begins to make me feel rather lonely at times, despite all of the support i have. I really don't know what to do about this, I don't know why i feel this way, i think its all in my head but it just doesn't go away. I'm confused on how to deal with all of this.


Does anyone have any similar experiences? Or just advice in general? Anything will help.

Man, that's how I feel all the time. Then time passes and I thinl to myself "Whatever, I don't give a f---, not a solitary f---. No f---, no f---, not a solitary f---." I may just make a rap out of that. It's a simple fact of life, man, people gon' hate.