I need help with judgement

[Taco <3]

I need some advice... I don't know what to do... My family is always judging me for what I wear and how I act. I hate it ... They tell me to be  myself then flip around and tell me that it's ridiculous or stupid. It hurts...I cry at night because of it.....What do I do??

[✡]

how about an option not considered by most people in your situation? stop caring. it's not YOUR problem if THEY have a problem with what you do. it's your life, and if they think they can control it just by making you feel bad about yourself then they are obviously mistaken.
if they can't except you for who you are then honestly just stop caring.

[Taco <3]

I can't when they deprive me of my options nd make me feel bad when I take advantage of the ones I have... They say you look this or that..nd as if I didn't already have self esteem issuesproblem

[ap76]

What do you mean "deprive you of your options?"
Like, "you can't drive my car unless you pull up your pants and put your cap on frontwards." Kinda things?

[Midnight Madness]

Have you spoken to a counselor of any kind? That is a necessity for situations like these.

[Taco <3]

What do you mean "deprive you of your options?"
Like, "you can't drive my car unless you pull up your pants and put your cap on frontwards." Kinda things?

i mean like if I want to get something that they don't like it'll be a fight or they'll just tell me its a waste of money cuz they will not let me out of the house with it on

[✡]

Then sneak it out. My parents pull that stuff all the time so I either stick up for myself or defy them.

[ap76]

Well what I would suggest is taking a step back to a level they'll tolerate and then gradually pushing the envelope.
If you'v suddenly changed your style of dress from average to street corner they'll be in shock and more likey to ask you to dress like a nun. The step back should be done gradually as well so they don't suspect your screing with 'em and if your on a shared computer or device, remove this page from your history w/o leaving any huge gaps in your history

[ArcticSkyWolf]

yep, my parents do that to me too. They think I'm lazy, stupid, stuff like that and I really don't care.


Just don't care.

[Taco <3]

Not to sound stupid but I'm a mood dresser.....however I feel I dress.....Or if I want to feel the opposite of how I feel....

[ap76]

I know what you mean. I'm a throw-on-whatever-I-find-first-and-walk-out-the-door-because-I'm-late-because-I-slept-in-again dresser.
Forgive me for being so wordy earlier, I get that way when I'm tired lol. Basically what I was trying to say was, step it back gradually to what your fam deems acceptable, then slowly see how far you can push it.

[Ottersmash]

The thing about families (especially parents) is that, however well-meaning it is, they may think they know best and they may try to push it off on their kids. I don't think they're doing it with the intention of hurting you, or repressing you, but they think they're keeping you from bad choices. In their eyes, they're doing good. With that in mind, make your own judgments on these choices because they're your choices, but accept that sometimes you're going to have to give while you're still living under their roof. Sometimes it will be worth standing your ground, other times not.