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Furry Chat => Rants and Advice => Topic started by: SilverSolstive on February 10, 2015, 04:09:03 AM
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So....I don't know where to begin. I'm straight, I like girls, or well a girl in particular. Ok there's a Valentine's Day dance this Friday at my school. There's this girl in particular that I want to ask but I'm afraid of rejection. Isn't there a phobia for that? But don't think that if I'm rejected life will continue. No, word will spread and my friends will tease me, not for rejection, but for even asking her. Not many people like her. When I first joined that her team, (I was moved into Gifted.) I hated her, because I like her. I tend to be a bit rude to girls I like to not attract attention that I like them, it's weird and accidental. Then one day, she pops up and asks some questions about me so I do the same and learn that she's a chill person. She always laughs at my jokes even if they're not funny ones, even if I don't laugh. She also gives me small, intentionally harmless punches when I tease her. In a period I look back and catch her staring at me and in another period I find myself staring at her. She moves her hair to the left side of her shoulder and I see the right side of my face. When she catches me I start hyperventilating feeling like a creeper. Now, I can't decide rejection and embarrasment or bravery. I wouldn't mind helpful advice from the guys but ladies and girls, can you tell me what this stuff means? How do I go about this?
I realize how long this post is, I'm kinda stressed out.
Think you got skill like I do? I'm sorry you've been lied to.
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Plus, I can never find the right moment to speak to her. I don't like her best friend who she's always around so that's a problem. And we know how most girls (not all) show out in front of their friends when a guy asks them out or whatever.
Think you got skill like I do? I'm sorry you've been lied to.
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Well my suggestion would be to give her a very nice valentines day card and writes something very sweet and ask her to go to the dance with you. This way she can read it in private and you wont have to deal with her best friend. You could also see if she is going to the date with anyone and off handily mention you're free that night and that you should go together that. Really hope it works out
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Would I give it directly to her? If not then I might be able to stick it in her binder.
Think you got skill like I do? I'm sorry you've been lied to.
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What ever you feel more comfortable with personally I would give it to her directly I would feel a little weird slipping it on her person with out her knowing.
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Ah. Young likeness. I remember my junior high years, when I liked a boy. I did something really dumb-- ANYWAY.
Hm. Let's see. You want to ask this girl you like to the dance? Perhaps you could ask to speak to her privately for a few minutes after school's ended, that way if she turns you down, it's not stuck in your head all day.
And from the information you've given, there's a small chance that she may have a crush on you as well. You'll never know if you don't ask.
I wish you luck Silver. Girls are very confusing creatures, trust me. XP
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You'll never know if you don't ask.
Pretty much this.
You don't want to pass up the opportunity and wonder what could've been. Even if the outcome is negative, it's important to know the truth, so that when you move forward, you're operating under facts and not assumptions.
Get the message across however you're comfortable with, but get it across.
And here's hoping for the best. ^_^
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Ah. Young likeness. I remember my junior high years, when I liked a boy. I did something really dumb-- ANYWAY.
Hm. Let's see. You want to ask this girl you like to the dance? Perhaps you could ask to speak to her privately for a few minutes after school's ended, that way if she turns you down, it's not stuck in your head all day.
And from the information you've given, there's a small chance that she may have a crush on you as well. You'll never know if you don't ask.
I wish you luck Silver. Girls are very confusing creatures, trust me. XP
You'll never know if you don't ask.
Pretty much this.
You don't want to pass up the opportunity and wonder what could've been. Even if the outcome is negative, it's important to know the truth, so that when you move forward, you're operating under facts and not assumptions.
Get the message across however you're comfortable with, but get it across.
And here's hoping for the best. ^_^
Thanks to the both of you. Maybe I'll do something with the card but if not I will: On Thursday 1)Ask if she leaves on the first wave of buses(I leave then) 2)Ask her what specials she has(so I'll know which side of the school she'll leave from) 3)Ask her if she doing anything Friday evening.(<--1,2, and 3 are when she leaves 5th period for lockers. I'll catch her in the hall.) 4)Outside school going to the bus, I'll have to run for my life to the other side of the school and look for her and then I will ask.
I want to do this Thursday so she has time to think. Any flaws?
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What ever you feel more comfortable with personally I would give it to her directly I would feel a little weird slipping it on her person with out her knowing.
I might make the card only to tell her to meet a mysterious person (me) in the 7C hallway and then I will carry on with the plan knowing I have more time to get to her privately.
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Ah. Young likeness. I remember my junior high years, when I liked a boy. I did something really dumb-- ANYWAY.
Hm. Let's see. You want to ask this girl you like to the dance? Perhaps you could ask to speak to her privately for a few minutes after school's ended, that way if she turns you down, it's not stuck in your head all day.
And from the information you've given, there's a small chance that she may have a crush on you as well. You'll never know if you don't ask.
I wish you luck Silver. Girls are very confusing creatures, trust me. XP
You'll never know if you don't ask.
Pretty much this.
You don't want to pass up the opportunity and wonder what could've been. Even if the outcome is negative, it's important to know the truth, so that when you move forward, you're operating under facts and not assumptions.
Get the message across however you're comfortable with, but get it across.
And here's hoping for the best. ^_^
Thanks to the both of you. Maybe I'll do something with the card but if not I will: On Thursday 1)Ask if she leaves on the first wave of buses(I leave then) 2)Ask her what specials she has(so I'll know which side of the school she'll leave from) 3)Ask her if she doing anything Friday evening.(<--1,2, and 3 are when she leaves 5th period for lockers. I'll catch her in the hall.) 4)Outside school going to the bus, I'll have to run for my life to the other side of the school and look for her and then I will ask.
I want to do this Thursday so she has time to think. Any flaws?
This is a solid plan, sir. :3 I wish you the best of luck!
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Ah. Young likeness. I remember my junior high years, when I liked a boy. I did something really dumb-- ANYWAY.
Hm. Let's see. You want to ask this girl you like to the dance? Perhaps you could ask to speak to her privately for a few minutes after school's ended, that way if she turns you down, it's not stuck in your head all day.
And from the information you've given, there's a small chance that she may have a crush on you as well. You'll never know if you don't ask.
I wish you luck Silver. Girls are very confusing creatures, trust me. XP
You'll never know if you don't ask.
Pretty much this.
You don't want to pass up the opportunity and wonder what could've been. Even if the outcome is negative, it's important to know the truth, so that when you move forward, you're operating under facts and not assumptions.
Get the message across however you're comfortable with, but get it across.
And here's hoping for the best. ^_^
Thanks to the both of you. Maybe I'll do something with the card but if not I will: On Thursday 1)Ask if she leaves on the first wave of buses(I leave then) 2)Ask her what specials she has(so I'll know which side of the school she'll leave from) 3)Ask her if she doing anything Friday evening.(<--1,2, and 3 are when she leaves 5th period for lockers. I'll catch her in the hall.) 4)Outside school going to the bus, I'll have to run for my life to the other side of the school and look for her and then I will ask.
I want to do this Thursday so she has time to think. Any flaws?
This is a solid plan, sir. :3 I wish you the best of luck!
Thanks!
I'll be able to interview her in the morning actually because she helps the librabrian so yeah. Feeling more confident with a plan.
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Wish you the best of luck :)
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Thanks!
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My plan will be finally be fulfilled tomorrow. I asked if she even planned on going to the dance and she said no. I won't make her spend money on something she didn't plan to do so I'll buy tickets for the both of us. Tomorrow I'll ask her. I've changed some things, I'll ask her after 5th period. If she says yes at the dance, I'll be giving her a pretty flower and candy. I hope she doesn't think it's a date. The flower will be small, like a one that can go into her head, so that it's not like a date. The candy will be Sour Punch, she doesn't like chocolate much. Excited, but scared.
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This makes me very excited for you!! I wish you the best of luck sir! ^_^
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Thank you!
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Any other advice?
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Well, if she turns you down, do not feel bad. I've been there in a position such as that one. Just remain calm.
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I'll try my best.
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Don't forget to breath and blink. Might sound silly but a freind that didn't blink and looked really weird. Also don't forget to start off with a joke everyone likes jokes.
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Joke? I may be too nervous but she does like me for my jokes. Maybe a corny roses and violets poems that has to do with my situation.
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Yea anything thing to get her to laugh. It helps lighten the mood
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Should I plan what I'm going to say or let it come natural.
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I would let it come natural
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Ok, I'm hoping I can stay myself as I ask.
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Huhhh, today she was absent, had to get her arm checked.(Her cast was taken off a few days ago.) I don't think I have a chance now, if I ask tomorrow she will still have to ask her parents if she can go and if they can pick her up. I might just not ask.
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Sorry to hear that is there any way you can see/talk to her today just say you want to how everything went.
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I have.....her phone number. Texting her now. Might be a hope.
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Wish you luck
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Nope, wrong number. Know of a way I can look her up online?
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Uhhhh...rejection, plain..rejection. Someone lock this thread, and lock my soul while you're at it.
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Ok first off when you ask, do it in person it's just nicer that way.
Wear red, don't ask some scientific study about women more likely to say yes because of the attraction or something like that
Be direct, don't get all small talky, try and build a common interest before you do it though it'll help your chances a bit
Give her little room to say no, buy to tickets and say something like, "I just bought a couple tickets to the dance, I think it'd be fun to go with you" try not to make it a question
With the rejection thing, it happens to the best of us. Just something you gotta get over
Not sure if this is too late or not sorry :/
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I was just rejected.
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Sorry man, try and ask somebody else
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Nah, dance is tomorrow. I had a plan and everything. She said she was grounded for doing something. I confirmed that with her friends and mine. Maybe life aimed this directly at me. I don't know .
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I was too late, oh well at least you know it wasn't because of you. It was because she was grounded.
Ask her to a movie
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That may or may not work. I dunno, I can try, some other time.
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you should go for it man :) You've got nothing to lose
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Ok, I might have to lay off for a while. I felt like exploding at her but I should deal with it. I even paid for the tickets. Lost my money, my dignity, and my soul.
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It happens man, just don't let it pull you down
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Alright, thanks.
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Go to the dance find some random chick and have a good time
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Well, that would make me some kinda manwhore wouldn't it? Most people there will have dates and I don't want to walk in and see people lined along the bleachers kissing and stuff. I don't think I'll be able to handle the loneliness. I barely made it out the other two dances.
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Just go with some friends, doll.
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My friends are being lame, they won't go, but I'll try. I do have the tickets so may as well. I just hope the atmosphere is clouded by love.
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I never had dates, I just showed up and had a good time
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What was it like? Did people actually dance or play with their dates? Were there more singles to couples?
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theres always single people at dances I'm sure you'd find somebody to dance with, there's not as much making out as you'd think. Look chicks like a guy who likes to have fun , just kinda jump into a group of people and make conversation dance it'll be good
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People at my school are kinda fake also. There a few pnes that keep it real and it's the ones you'd never think. Even if I did meet someone and they may have liked me, I probably wouldn't know. I remember a girl in 2nd grade, she blatantly showed that she liked me, but I was blind.
Recently rejected. Not pullin' me down though!
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Well that was second grade man
Haha you got it now go get em killer
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I lookback at it now and laugh myself. I hope I'll laugh at this too, someday. I still think there's some hope.
Anyway, I'll go, maybe with a friend, I'll see what happens.
Recently rejected. Not pullin' me down though!
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Don't think just do
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Ok, I'm a really chill person. Should go easily.
Recently rejected. Not pullin' me down though!
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Good to hear
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Day of the dance. Going with a friend. Another one too if I can convince him.
Recently rejected. Not pullin' me down though!
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I chose not to go to the dance, but this morning..... When I walked into my 1st period class and she gave me a card and my favorite candy bar. She was really guilty about saying no but I can't blame her, she would've gone if she wasn't grounded. I bought her ice cream at lunch. I asked what she was trying to say about the letter's contents. She said she wasn't quite sure. I said if she figures out then tell me. I'll keep everything the same till then.
Turns out I wasn't rejected. Go figure.
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Yay! Congratulations! Well, not for the rejection, I'm sorry about that, but you've made some sort of connection with her! Hooray!
/twirls around/
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Yeah!!
*spins crazy*
Turns out I wasn't rejected. Go figure.
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Lock this damn thread.
No matter where you stand, you're standing in my shadow.
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Locked per user request.