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Not that you shouldn't go looking, mind you.
I disagree, I know there is a social push to find a mate, but people who look for a mate specifically often come off as desperate and... bluntly... unattractive. Also the bonds formed rarely are as strong as those found by chance, because one of the driving forc often becomes more about HAVING a mate, than who that mate is.
I want what you have Halei-Halai. A best friend who I could share all my feelings with. We'd do everything together and be inseparable....
This topic is very foreign to me. In all reality I'm just curious. How many of you guys have relationships? What's it like? How would you go about finding that "special someone"?It's not something you find, it's something that occurs. Be careful.
By online you mean a long term relationhship?
I don't think, I'd mind finding my "one" online, it would just be nice to be able to meet them in person, once in a while.
I'd rather not say say for the sake of privacy.
I'd rather not say say for the sake of privacy.
Must be the Illuminati.
Well both me and my s/o are in an open non romantic relationship. Its open as we can be with others, yet we choose not to mostly. (hard to explain but think of it as friends who are intimate. Also we both have the same female we go to.) I know it may not make sence but we are human and need that human touch I gues... :?
Well both me and my s/o are in an open non romantic relationship. Its open as we can be with others, yet we choose not to mostly. (hard to explain but think of it as friends who are intimate. Also we both have the same female we go to.) I know it may not make sence but we are human and need that human touch I gues... :?
Is it a platonic partner sort of deal? The concept of that is so interesting to me. I love that the internet has helped people be more accepting of those sorts of things ^^
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I've been with my boyfriend almost 3 years now. He's not actively a furry but he goes to cons and stuff with me. And he's very accepting <3
Both my partners are platonic partners as I'm an aromantic. I'm not Styxx but I share a similar/same experience as I have an open relationship as well, though we don't really exercise that all that much since we're all asexual.
Well both me and my s/o are in an open non romantic relationship. Its open as we can be with others, yet we choose not to mostly. (hard to explain but think of it as friends who are intimate. Also we both have the same female we go to.) I know it may not make sence but we are human and need that human touch I gues... :?
Well both me and my s/o are in an open non romantic relationship. Its open as we can be with others, yet we choose not to mostly. (hard to explain but think of it as friends who are intimate. Also we both have the same female we go to.) I know it may not make sence but we are human and need that human touch I gues... :?
Does that mean you.... D-Do... That?
“True love is finding someone whose demons play well with yours"God I wish that was true. xD
I must agree with Zaida. I am in a relationship, and I can say that true love cannot be determined to occur after a certain number of tries. To add to that, while two people may seem to be perfect as of now, you must consider that people can change over time, or with continued exposure to one another. This holds especially true for online relationships, where couples have limited exposure to each other until the potential date of physical encounters.
You definitley put it well. I just didn't feel up to speaking that much due to the enviroment. For me, it's just been frustrating because i've dated a countless number of people, trying my best to not being a 'date too fast' kind of thing. I've dissapointed myself too many times. And, I feel helpless sometimes. Even though i'm not, I just can't help myself. I **censor** one relationship up that was on the track for marriage All by myself. What is wrong with me? Eh, probably something's wrong with me, and im another case of someone who dies alone.
Seems like, instead of not being with anyone, i've been with quite a few. And I struggle. Im single and it's somewhat easy for me to get another girlfriend. But still, I don't want to do it anymore, i've failed more than anybody I know. It's just what it is.You definitley put it well. I just didn't feel up to speaking that much due to the enviroment. For me, it's just been frustrating because i've dated a countless number of people, trying my best to not being a 'date too fast' kind of thing. I've dissapointed myself too many times. And, I feel helpless sometimes. Even though i'm not, I just can't help myself. I **censor** one relationship up that was on the track for marriage All by myself. What is wrong with me? Eh, probably something's wrong with me, and im another case of someone who dies alone.
I wouldn't say something like that, but I feel you. I don't know what it even means to love someone because I've never had it. No one ever talked to me in highschool, I never did a thing to anyone and I wasn't liked..........so I guess I know what you mean. Still though, I haven't given up looking.
No, boys don't mature. cx Some are just more polite than others.
yeah i know but i dont see how slapping a strangers back side calling here a female dog or some description of a sex worker is preferable to talking and having a drink (but i mean in a relationship too)I never said that. I actually concur that being a gentleman and always respecting women (or apeople in general, honestly) is the right thing to do. I jut said that it will bring you nowhere in itself.
That being said, you'd be surprised how low of a self-esteem many people have, both those giving and those receiving backside slapping. You can't really do anything about that, and it's not really your problem. Aim for better people. :)
Umm... D-does anyone like... flab?People exist out there that can see past stuff like that.
Umm... D-does anyone like... flab?People exist out there that can see past stuff like that.
Hm, relationships. I've only been in a few. I tend to take them...slowly? Seriously? Something like that.
I will unashamedly admit I've fallen in love as of late. And I'm 99% sure the feeling is mutual. I've probably ingested too much medieval/fantasy fiction but I feel myself wanting to be a 'knight' towards him. Not in an overprotective way, but I care about him and I want to do nice things for him. Maybe I'm just being silly XP
On another note, I've also been considering the idea for awhile that I may be slightly polyamorous.
I find it alright to a certain point
Thanks Ventus, I'm confident that I'll find love one day. I'm just waiting for the right person I guess.
Another thing to note is that a good couple isn't one which never has arguments, but rather on which resolves all arguments. No grudges, no lingering anger. A mutual understanding, even if it reveals a difference in ideas.
I had at least one instance of conflicting ideas with my significant other, but we figure things out and set any disputes straight. Discussions usually end with an agreement and a solution. Even if they don't, we don't end with "fine, be like that", but instead with "I love you" or "There's nothing wrong with having a different opinion". Maybe it's just me, but I think a perfect couple doesn't even remotely suggest a completely similar set of ideas and beliefs between two people.
Sometimes it's nice for someone to disagree. It shows individuality.
Another thing to note is that a good couple isn't one which never has arguments, but rather on which resolves all arguments. No grudges, no lingering anger. A mutual understanding, even if it reveals a difference in ideas.
I'm recently engaged. Well since November 3rd. Still feels recent to me.
I met my fiance online on Gaia about five years ago. The internet is alright for finding a partner, but I didn't go out seeking someone to be in a relationship with. We were friends first and only friends for a good while then the relationship developed into something else.
Man, I forgot how supportive these forums are.
I haven't read everything (but with some of the advice I've seen thus far I might be wise to) but I've nonetheless got some questions...assuming anyone checks this thread still. Not being locked is a good sign...
I also have diagnosed mental difficulties and I'm trying to figure out what actually IS? Love as a construct. What is love~? Baby don't hurt me~!
I'm making terrible references.
The point is I've had three relationships, definitively screwed up two and would have screwed the third up sooner or later and I just want to get as many answers as I can from as many people as I can. I'm lost. I don't want to be creepy and desperate, so answers and growth is what I think I need.
Please help, fellow furs~!
Because of my rough relationship with my father, I don't think I could ever learn to trust a man.
I know that all men aren't the same, but they all have the same capability to hurt me or other women in the same way that my father and another man did.
I know that all men aren't the same, but they all have the same capability to hurt me or other women in the same way that my father and another man did.
I'm gonna go right out and say it. I want to be taken care of, I want a guy (or gal) to be the one who does stuff while I do other stuff. That's what I want.
I'd probably be the "protecting" one in the relationship. I have tendency to sort of watch over people before I actually talk to them. Not in a stalking way, but just keeping an eye on them. Especially women. Not in a romantic sense though.
Speaking of women, I can't tell if I'm bisexual or what. I'm attracted to the female body but not women themselves.
Relationships are extremely tricky. I want that someone I can be with and be happy with, take care of and share my life with. But I've just kind of given up on finding that; that's not to say I won't keep an eye out for my mate, but I just don't have much hope anymore. I think, in my opinion, a true and happy relationship is a best friend with benefits.
I think love will find you when you're not really looking for it. In the mean time, make the most of what time you have! :) Everyone finds someone to be with, eventually. *hugs Ceci* I'll give you virtual hugs and cuddles any time you need them, mousey!
I've never been in a relationship before. To be honest, all I'd really want from one at the moment is someone to talk to and cuddle with. I think the best way to get into one would be to hang out with people to have the same interests as you, eventually you're bound to meet someone who you like, and vice versa ^_^As long as you find the right, laid back person for that, I think that you have the right point of view.
im fresh out of one (not looking so dont ask please) it was messy of a sorts
he didnt like that im all the way in queensland and didnt want to move also didnt like that i want to travel aus by myself
i ended up ending it as the relentless move and i dont know what im doing on the road got to be to much for me and i couldnt take it
im fresh out of one (not looking so dont ask please) it was messy of a sorts
he didnt like that im all the way in queensland and didnt want to move also didnt like that i want to travel aus by myself
i ended up ending it as the relentless move and i dont know what im doing on the road got to be to much for me and i couldnt take it
Ouch, I've had partners like that before hun, sorry to hear you've had to go through all of that. my wife of 3 years left me after our fights got to the point where it was physical, but it was also the fact I found out she was cheating on me while she wasn't allowing me to do romance rps.
Ouch. It's bad enough to get into arguments, but when things get physically violent, that's just too far. And not letting you roleplay? She sounds like quite the controlling person. Good to see you got out of that mess.
Ouch, I've had partners like that before hun, sorry to hear you've had to go through all of that. my wife of 3 years left me after our fights got to the point where it was physical, but it was also the fact I found out she was cheating on me while she wasn't allowing me to do romance rps.
So, I've recently fallen for someone, hard. I'd love nothing more than to tell him how I feel but, knowing me, I won't be able to pluck up the courage to tell him anytime soon. I'll just be there, admiring from a distance X3
I do wonder what it's like being in a relationship though, I imagine it can get a little difficult at times especially when you start spending so much time together.
Thank you, Amethyst! Yeah, I know I have to, and I actually don't really mind. I've been in relationships, so now I'm at least just not curious about how they are. Now, I just feel like I need to find the right person, and I believe I can do that. I'm in that weird stage right now, where I kiiiinda want a girlfriend, and I sometimes feel lonely, but at the same time, I don't really mind if I don't have one.
Well, whatever works for you is just great :) And yeah, that's exactly how I feel as well. If I'm with someone, I need to be physically there with them. Oh, I can understand that. Two times a week may sound okay, but it may not sound like enough. Hang in there, though! You'll eventually find time to be with each other, and have a great time! ^_^
To those that have found it, don't ever let it go.
Styxx, have you ever heard of queerplatonic relationships? That might be something you want to look into.
Styxx, have you ever heard of queerplatonic relationships? That might be something you want to look into.
I'm probably being a bit ignorant, but isn't that kind of just friendship or having a companion?
I'm probably being a bit ignorant, but isn't that kind of just friendship or having a companion?
Good thing I actually made notes about that...
A queerplatonic relationship is a deep emotional bond that goes beyond what people consider to be just friends. The commitment, intimacy and emotional bond is often comparable to that of a romantic relationship, but are not considered romantic to those involved. To the outside it can be seen as a close friendship, a romantic relationship or somewhere in-between. The people involved can see each other as partners, mates, a couple etc.
That's the definition I got out of it at least.
I have never dated, I'm not pretty and I'm too quiet so people don't notice me.
And whenever I am flirted with by a man, I get too terrified to really say anything back.
I wouldn't mind seeing someone, it's just that I'm too dull. My life isn't going anywhere so I have decided to not even bother trying.
After everything I went through as a child I don't think I could ever be in any kind of happy relationship with anyone, romantically or otherwise.
After everything I went through as a child I don't think I could ever be in any kind of happy relationship with anyone, romantically or otherwise.Time has a way to heal deep wounds, especially with the right person.
My father won't let me date anyone, even if I wanted to. And if he did, he says it would have to be someone he knows.
I still don't know how to ask someone out. hard to do when you're gay and living in a highly religious community. No one around here to date. Which is why im waiting until after I move to figure that out
He's not abusive, but he's very tough. It's for our safety, so I understand why.Well, I'm sure the guy who does look will see something special.
No guy ever looks at me anyway, so it doesn't affect me much.