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Title: Out of the closet
Post by: wolflover44 on July 12, 2009, 04:39:19 AM
are any gay bi lesbian furs here out of the closet ? I am bisexual and proud but not out.
Title: Re: Out of the closet
Post by: Manual_automation on July 12, 2009, 04:44:25 AM
Er... I'm out on here, and to a few friends.. but never to my family or other close friends... (massive props to those who are, that takes so much courage ._. )

[Bi by the way]
Title: Re: Out of the closet
Post by: Sparky15756 on July 12, 2009, 11:19:22 AM
I'm out with my friends, but with family, they haven't got any of the clues yet >.<
Title: Re: Out of the closet
Post by: Ricco92 on July 12, 2009, 11:46:40 AM
im bi,
but i've only said something to people who are furs (because i trust thy wont say anythin bad bout it)
but i haven't told my friends i hang about wit or my family

and im not rly planning to at the moment
Title: Re: Out of the closet
Post by: SnowWolf on July 14, 2009, 02:24:14 AM
I am Asexual (Not 'a sexual', 'asexual') If that counts?
Title: Re: Out of the closet
Post by: WingedZephyr on July 14, 2009, 02:28:09 AM
Very few people I know in RL know I'm bisexual. Most of my online friends know about it and stuff though.
Title: Re: Out of the closet
Post by: Asia Kali Yusufzai on July 14, 2009, 02:30:11 AM
My girlfriend is mostly lesbian (is she bi if the only guy she's ever liked is me? what does that say about me? :P ) but yeah she's completely and utterly open about it. She has been since i first met her 2 years ago
Title: Re: Out of the closet
Post by: Vamp on July 14, 2009, 04:30:40 AM
not quite sure right now but im open about it
Title: Re: Out of the closet
Post by: ¿ Jesse Pawman ? on July 14, 2009, 04:32:19 AM
Tweak is engaged-sexual.
Title: Re: Out of the closet
Post by: Tweak on July 14, 2009, 04:38:00 AM
Tweak is engaged-sexual.

What?
Title: Re: Out of the closet
Post by: ¿ Jesse Pawman ? on July 14, 2009, 04:55:35 AM
I don't have any idea. My medication has worn off.
Title: Re: Out of the closet
Post by: Moonraiser on July 14, 2009, 04:57:31 AM
yeah personally im not bi but I don't have a problem with people who are bi. They are just normal people.
Title: Re: Out of the closet
Post by: tibaltfox on July 15, 2009, 02:39:45 AM
Gay and 99% out.
All of my friends\school knows, as well as my Sister and Mom.
I've yet to tell my Dad or any of my other relatives, though.

But generally, If I'm asked, I'll tell someone without a pause.
I am, indeed,
very, very gay.
:P
Title: Re: Out of the closet
Post by: Something on July 15, 2009, 04:47:10 AM
well i am kinda Bi-curious if it count's. but no one know's about it exept one of my friends.
Title: Re: Out of the closet
Post by: iKero-chu™ on July 15, 2009, 08:51:23 PM
Out to my friends,
not at home though.
Title: Re: Out of the closet
Post by: Shuff Wolfcoon on July 16, 2009, 03:32:05 AM
bi here
 and like ikero-chu im out to a few friends but thats it
Title: Re: Out of the closet
Post by: ★Kuro★ on July 18, 2009, 05:40:30 AM
Lesbian, and out to my sisters, 2 cousins and my parents pretty much know.
All of my friends know as well.
When people ask me, I just tell them, "Yes, I am gay."
Title: Re: Out of the closet
Post by: Dessum on July 19, 2009, 10:56:00 AM
Wow, nice job Kuro^^

Out to my friends,
not at home though.

I'm the same as Kero here, I'm completely out as gay at school (Gonna buy a gay pride bracelet off eBay and wear it there ^_^)
but no where NEAR out to family!
 Too scared x3
Besides, I might change how I feel;
So when people say, "It could be a phase" I say, "Yes. But this is how I feel at present and that's what's important."
Title: Re: Out of the closet
Post by: Leo Dusai on July 19, 2009, 09:29:46 PM
I'm gay and so far pretty much all of my family (Except my dad, but only because I haven't seen him in years.) and my friends know about it. They've all taken it well and have no problems. They make little jokes about it every now and then but only in the playful sense, nothing hurtful hehe.
Title: Re: Out of the closet
Post by: White Wolf Guardian on July 21, 2009, 01:25:55 PM
*Information has been deleted for privacy reasons*
Title: Re: Out of the closet
Post by: Something on July 21, 2009, 01:45:33 PM
Oh wow.white wolf that can't be easy for you.would they seriusly do that to you? i mean you're their son!would they throw you out only because a 2009 year book says so?
hope you will be free from that soon :)


- Shh
Title: Re: Out of the closet
Post by: White Wolf Guardian on July 21, 2009, 08:13:08 PM
Well they wouldn't disown me at first, but the immediate next thing would be several visits to church pastor(s), deacons, a church psychologist, and then perhaps if worst came to worst an exorcist. In the end, I would have to change my "immoral and un-natural ways" back to heterosexuality or I be disowned. Yea it sure isn't my way of life around here and so long as I stay here I will never be free, this is the reason why I don't want to see them ever again after I can finally move east.
Title: Re: Out of the closet
Post by: Asia Kali Yusufzai on July 21, 2009, 10:07:14 PM
Well disconnecting yourself entirely from your family is debatable and is far in the future where you'll have time and space to clear your head of their constant presence, so you can decide then. Plus there's the fact that, as super happy horror said, you're their son. they will always want to atleast keep in touch and make sure you're safe. I mean if they're willing to go through all that to "free" you from your "immoral" ways then they clearly care about you, just like most families do... and just like most families, they tend to truly screw up your life.
Title: Re: Out of the closet
Post by: White Wolf Guardian on July 21, 2009, 11:12:20 PM
You know I used to believe that and I used to believe there was such a thing as good guys and bad guys, but frankly I've been here so long I don't know who is what anymore. All I know is that ever since our Summer 2008 camping trip I have never felt the same about my parents, and it's a very personal matter, if anyone wants to know pm me, other than that I don't want to publicize that much information. But anyways, back to topic guys ^^;
Title: Re: Out of the closet
Post by: Shenzii on July 22, 2009, 02:28:19 AM
I'm not exactly Straight... but i'm not totally bi... I totally prefer guys but I tend to 'experiment'
Title: Re: Out of the closet
Post by: Tweak on July 22, 2009, 04:35:44 AM
Tweak is engaged-sexual.

What?

I'm still awaiting a proper reply to this. I dislike myself being spoken about unless it is made clear what is being said, particularly when such a thing is of a personal nature.
Title: Re: Out of the closet
Post by: Cyrocco on July 24, 2009, 10:28:52 PM
Thought about being bi never had the chance to "express" it though. I go with the don't knock it till you try it thing. I have very mixed up feelings about being bi or gay, but my mother has brought it up and discouraged it and dad always said, " ill dishone you if your a," well you see where that's going. my friends aren't sure what I am lol I'm always messing with them and they can't tell 100% if I'm messing with them or I'm for real. which could be used to my advantage until  I finally figure it out.
Title: Re: Out of the closet
Post by: Dessum on July 25, 2009, 07:49:06 AM
Just wait to see how you feel.
I waited 2 years before coming out as bisexual, but at the beginning of my next year of school, I came out as gay.
 You shouldn't make any decisions before you know how you truly feel.

I'm bi-sexual *Survey results suggest: ~66% gay, ~33% straight* but I have it very deep in the closet

Don't always trust surveys like that. Everyone is different; I took one once and came out as Hetrosexual, so they can be wrong.
It's about who you are^^
Title: Re: Out of the closet
Post by: Scautty on July 25, 2009, 09:09:35 AM
I'm Non-sexual!  :D

Just little virgin boy basically. (Not that everyone with affections have sex, but yeah...)

I mostly think girls look pretty, and some anthro girls look pretty too. But I'm really picky about it. Other than that I feel like a loser when my friends say someone's hot. XD

But yes. I totally have no problem with those that are gay, straight, bi or lesbian. It's actually kinda cute seeing people going around with thier mates. :3
Title: Re: Out of the closet
Post by: Cyrocco on July 25, 2009, 01:44:43 PM
Wish everyone was like you in the acceptance category lol
Title: Re: Out of the closet
Post by: Scautty on July 25, 2009, 02:48:27 PM
I have a good theory on that. I have a feeling people who neglect those with different orientations are like that because they think right away about the sex. They don`t ever think about how people, no matter they like the same or different gender, have romance in between like anyone would. As for me, I think more on the affectionate side - the love. It`s really cool, and I don`t really care what they do to each other, but they find it romantic so they`re at peace. :3
Title: Re: Out of the closet
Post by: White Wolf Guardian on July 25, 2009, 07:02:34 PM
I took about 12 different surveys and then averaged them out my friend T.T, but anyways it sounds right to me as well, I can be pretty feminine at times and I'm too soft for times when I should not be. I don't really think it's a bad average in %s, it gives me the opportunity to understand both sides better of the genders :P
Title: Re: Out of the closet
Post by: Asia Kali Yusufzai on July 25, 2009, 08:58:05 PM
I'm proper hetero, I'm really quite femenine. Atleast I'm the girl compared to my girlfriend, who is by no means masculine :)
Title: Re: Out of the closet
Post by: Cyrocco on July 25, 2009, 09:37:20 PM
wondering about what I really am is under my skin now, thank god im going on vacation tomorrow. hopefully that will clear my thoughts. I currently have a girlfriend and she loves me to death but I don't feel the same ( shes realy nice but I just don't feel the connection). so hopefully this vacation is what I need to clear my head and keep it together, and maybe even get closer to finding out the truth about what I like
Title: Re: Out of the closet
Post by: Scautty on July 25, 2009, 09:54:05 PM
wondering about what I really am is under my skin now, thank god im going on vacation tomorrow. hopefully that will clear my thoughts. I currently have a girlfriend and she loves me to death but I don't feel the same ( shes realy nice but I just don't feel the connection). so hopefully this vacation is what I need to clear my head and keep it together, and maybe even get closer to finding out the truth about what I like

Vacation's always help. I took a trip to New York (FUN!) and it really helped alot with the stress I had to deal with at the time. I guess it's that you're not in the same setting and area your stress takes place, so you leave it behind. And then when you get back, it's like you find a better way to confront it. Everything will work out Dirge.  ;)

Haha, I know alot of people that are feminine males. One of them's on my channel and he's like one of my best friends ever. It's pretty good to know the better sides of both genders as well, you get a good perception of how they work. (Then again, everyone works differently, but you can compare the chemistry between them and someone else.)  :P
Title: Re: Out of the closet
Post by: White Wolf Guardian on July 25, 2009, 09:56:03 PM
In my opinion it's not really about what you like, but who you like :)

It doesn't matter what someone is, whether it be man or woman, as long as you and the other person are in love with each other. When you find that, all is well and then it's all about keeping it together and sticking through thick and thin :P

Title: Re: Out of the closet
Post by: Moonraiser on July 25, 2009, 09:57:06 PM
yeah vacations are good. I really want to go to philedalpheia since it is supposed to be a fun place and they host anthro con(a furry convention)
Title: Re: Out of the closet
Post by: Scautty on July 25, 2009, 09:58:55 PM
In my opinion it's not really about what you like, but who you like :)

It doesn't matter what someone is, whether it be man or woman, as long as you and the other person are in love with each other. When you find that, all is well and then it's all about keeping it together and sticking through thick and thin :P



Amen. *pets, gives cookie*

It's really cool the connections people make, I mean come one, it's cute when they're totally alike and when they're totally different kind of people. Other people don't think so, just because it's not THEIR affection, but it's good to step back and see everyone has their perspective and beauty in love.  :3
Title: Re: Out of the closet
Post by: Cyrocco on July 25, 2009, 10:31:51 PM
In my opinion it's not really about what you like, but who you like :)

It doesn't matter what someone is, whether it be man or woman, as long as you and the other person are in love with each other.




thats how I feel about relationships, but idk yet about myself, I guess in a way I want to but in a way I don't want to
Title: Re: Out of the closet
Post by: Scautty on July 26, 2009, 06:44:14 AM
It's just a matter of time and development. Give it a bit and it'll just come to you. It hasn't come to me, but I have the friends to get reference. :P
Title: Re: Out of the closet
Post by: Asia Kali Yusufzai on July 26, 2009, 08:42:55 AM
I dont think you should label yourself gay or straight or bi if you're not sure what you are. It really doesnt matter, just as long as you end up with someone you truly love.
Title: Re: Out of the closet
Post by: Scautty on July 26, 2009, 03:28:39 PM
True dat. Patience my friend. :3
Title: Re: Out of the closet
Post by: Cyrocco on August 05, 2009, 05:37:18 AM
got back from vacation last week, sorry I haven't updated this in a while I've been busy lol But I do feel a (for not being able to use other words) much better lolz my mind has cleared the thoughts at bay and my emotions are under lock and key tight control again. back to my " normal" self lolz
Title: Re: Out of the closet
Post by: Scautty on August 05, 2009, 05:41:31 AM
Very good, proud of you. :) Now it's just something you gotta control yourself - don't think about it too much, and find the best things to do to keep you distracted from it, like fun activities. ;)
Title: Re: Out of the closet
Post by: Cyrocco on August 05, 2009, 06:06:44 AM
lol can you, describe some activities ;) lolz jk but yeah I've been pretty occupied lately, i've also done a lot of apoligizing to my current mate b.c. ive been ignoring her because of this massive brain spasm of thoughts. so yeah.... I feel like a (insert word of choice here)
Title: Re: Out of the closet
Post by: Scautty on August 05, 2009, 06:53:52 AM
You feel like a potato? :P

Well you can talk to her and explain what you went through and she'll understand. ;)
Title: Re: Out of the closet
Post by: Cyrocco on August 05, 2009, 07:07:09 AM
oh yeah that will go over like a fart in church....
trust me this is something you don't mention to her not even hint.... her last three b.f's turned out gay and she's realy....(not happy) about that
Title: Re: Out of the closet
Post by: Brennan on March 25, 2010, 10:04:26 PM
Im gay and proud but not out  :3
Title: Re: Out of the closet
Post by: WingedZephyr on March 25, 2010, 10:06:31 PM
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