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Furry Chat => Rants and Advice => Topic started by: bigmanrob on April 11, 2009, 04:17:46 AM
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Title says it all. Don't know what to do...
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Its alright. It shouldn't make a diffrence wether you like the opposite gender or not. Love is love no matter what. Are you parents against gay/bi people though?
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There isn't anything you necessarily *have* to do.
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My parents aren't against, as they put it. But I'm sure deep down they might be somewhat upset.
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Ooooooh... so thats what that means. Oh well it makes no difference who you choose to love. Your parents should support your choice and if they don't that's their problem! Furries live to love, they love to love! :) :-* :shcoked:
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well said
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Thinks... umm... Adura. :)
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As long as you're ok with being bi, that's all that should matter.
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Thanks, you guys have been great support. :D
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That's what we're here for aren't we. Just glade to be of service. ^_^V O:)
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You're welcome. :3
If you ever need to talk, I'm here to help.
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being bi really isn't a big deal.. i think most people are bi, but are twisted to heterosexuality by society. (aka; Billy Joe Armstrong's (and probably loads more) theory)
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Well, for one, are you really bi? Or just find people of the same gender attractive. A lot of people confuse physical attraction with romantic sexuality.
Could you imagine spending your life with someone of your own gender? Some people don't take this into consideration. Genders do have their specific "traits" like the somewhat feral nature of males and the foresight of females.
Could you actually stand not having any sexual contact with the opposite gender? Until you find someone you want to spend the rest of your life with, you'll be back and forth between genders, but unless you and your mate are into swinging or group stuff, you'll have zero intimacy with the opposite gender.
Just some things to consider. Bisexuality is becoming more of a fad and less of an actual sexuality. I see so many people considering themselves bi for all the wrong reason, I just want you to make sure that you're positive.
You might also be a pansexual. Pansexuals aren't limited to males and/or females. They don't see gender. They'd pair up with a hermaphrodite, tranny, ANYTHING!
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(Smiles and hugs bigmanrob) Yea. You have a lot of things to take into consideration, but you can talk to me, Kuro, or whoever if you need anyone to talk to ok? :)
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In reference to what Eurydice said. Think about it hard because I thought I was Bi for several years because I juggled the thought of being with girls I had an attraction to. I find women sexy, beautiful, intellegent but I seemed to have attractions to those who have thinner figures like men or have a certain attitude to them such as confidence and assertiveness. I never really thought of them in a physical/sexual sense really, more so an emotional sense. I kissed a girl and it was okay, nothing amazing, nothing special. From then I determined that I merely like the thought of women but never would fall for them as hard or strongly as I would for a man. I love the male figure and how much they confuse me sometimes. Really think about it, you may be bi-curious at the moment, no need to decide and label yourself. Im straight with a comfortableness to kiss girls and say that they are appealing.
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Trust me, being bi isn't a bad thing. It means you can make fun of any sexual grouping (jk). But seriously it isn't bad, I'm bi yes, I fell for a male, and I don't care, I don't want my parents to know because they'll then take my money so I can't be with him, but I'm happy, and I know he is too, not to mention the fact that he needs me as much as I need him. It's a great thing and to many people chastise others for it because their beliefs won't let them find love also. So count yourself lucky, your one of the few who can find their love no mater what side of the street they roam.
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Trust me, being bi isn't a bad thing. It means you can make fun of any sexual grouping (jk). But seriously it isn't bad, I'm bi yes, I fell for a male, and I don't care, I don't want my parents to know because they'll then take my money so I can't be with him, but I'm happy, and I know he is too, not to mention the fact that he needs me as much as I need him. It's a great thing and to many people chastise others for it because their beliefs won't let them find love also. So count yourself lucky, your one of the few who can find their love no mater what side of the street they roam.
there's actually quite a lot of bisexuals, just not a lot who come out for it. so it's really nothing you should be too worried about.. its just sad that people have such a warped view on it for whatever reason.
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In answering peoples questions, "Yes," I have felt sexual attraxtion to some males. And when I think about eventually one day if I ended up marrying a guy and not a girl I could see myself in that position and it being real. So I am pretty sure that I'm not confused about whether or not I'm really bi.
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That's cool. ^_^
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Yeah congrats ^^ but if your a bit insecure about it I can sympathies with you, remember just because your bi doesn't mean you have to go tell everyone you know.. how man of your friends came up to you recently and said "By the way.. Im straight". Just tell them when you feel comfortable, but as a bit of advice if you do get asked about something along those lines answer truthfully and confidently because it makes it harder later when you have to sort of change people's perceptions.. It gives an impression that you were hiding it which also leads people to believe you are insecure about it.
Yes i do over-analyse things.
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So far not counting the guys on here, like Donovan and Craig, I have told my three closets friends. The first two I told on Easter when I was at their place, there brothers, and they didn't seem to care very much, just how I thought they'd take it. And I recently (last night) told my BFF about it and he was like "Okay." Not what I expected from him. I was expecting somewhere along the lines of "You have a crush on me or something?" But he was really nice about it and I really appreciated from him. I'm glad that I was able to trust those three.
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That's awesome, it goes to show you can always count on a true friend to be there for you no matter what!
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Glad you've found youself better Jude. ^^