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Furry Chat => General => Topic started by: Kida Howlette on December 02, 2008, 04:31:34 PM
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hmm...where to start, well the title explains it all....im have some trouble with the ladies and dont know what to do...anybody think they could give a wulf some advise?
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we kinda need more details.
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that makes sense....well im quite shy when comes to dating...and there is this i want to get with but i dont know how to aprooch her about it...
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Honesty.
That's it. Brutal honesty.
Know everything you can, and try to get it from the most direct source possible.
Relationships are really very simple if you can make sure that both sides of the relationship know exactly what the other is feeling. So it's simple, start off by telling her exactly how you feel. Don't sugarcoat it, but don't make it mushy or depressing. Just try to be as honest as possible.
Now, keep that in mind as a key factor. But the process should go like this.
1. Get to know her. See what kind of friends she has, learn information about her as best you can. (Myspace is a wonder for this)
2. Hold a conversation. You don't have to talk about anything awkward, but just find the most basic topic to bring up and approach her casually about it. For example, a girl who just moved to a new school. The most obvious question would be to ask her how she's fitting in.
3. After you know more about her, ask her. Tell her everything.
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ya just move in and have a convo with her lol, thats makes falling for you easy lol, i know how that feels, just go up and ask about classes or such, just a little something, if she's chilling alone or in the halls, say hi and ask how it's going (as long as she isn't busy)
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Hm... I have troubles with guys too... I go up to this one guy, say "Hey, howzit going?" and he gives me this strange look... :'( I'm not good at starting conversations...
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It's all in the approach and the intention. The first three words are always the hardest to say, but after that it gets much easier.
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Hm... I have troubles with guys too... I go up to this one guy, say "Hey, howzit going?" and he gives me this strange look... :'( I'm not good at starting conversations...
Yeah that happens to me too. Whenever I say "hi" or just give a small nod in hello that other guy looks at me and calls me a slang term for gay guy. Everytime! It's like it's written on my forehead 'I'M GAY'. Is it how I look?
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(Sad) People just don't care anymore... Its like, girls can hug each other and do a BUNCH of other things, but guys can't do any of that stuff... And what's wrong with being gay? Hmm?
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It has to do with testosterone and the personality between somebody.
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Basically if there is a click then there's a click if there's not then go for a friendship. You can't quite just go up and expect a date I mean you need to be able to talk to them maybe get a hug every once in a while and once they start to hang with you more and give you things such as said hug then they are loosened enough to hang out. And to avoid humiliation first off ask how the boyfriend is because usually they have one. If not then go for it. Well that's not how my last gf and I happened but that's my kick at it.
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:'( I went up to the guy and he said "You freak the...poo* out of me"
* I mean the curse word...
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I'm just giving up on relationships, love isn't worth it, so i'm going to stick with drunken one night stands. ^_^
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have fun with those infections, Manual. :P
but anyways...
it really depends on the person when you wanna know how to approach them and everything.
believe me, I'm not the type to have the courage to ask people out, and I never did...which is sad, but I'm lucky my bf/fiance had the courage, although I was actually so comfortable with him and how I believed we felt about each other that I would've asked him out probably.
but yeah...basically, just get to know the person in the best way that you can and make it so eventually you feel comfortable around them...and if you believe that they like you in return, go for it.
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Hey, i'll just mix vodka and penicillin lol
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ok^^ i'll give it a try...thanks to all of you^^
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hey, we're furries, we help the rest of the pack ^_^
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:'( I went up to the guy and he said "You freak the...poo* out of me"
* I mean the curse word...
That's really too bad. Chances are anyone who would be so judgmental (and harsh about it no less) probably is a dangerous person to start a relationship with anyway.
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LOL! That's true... Ah, well. What can you do, ya know?
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at least you have the self esteem to try to ask someone out.... i don't u_u (I really don't look good, so that's mostly why)
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hey just because you may not look that good to some doesn't mean you shouldn't try....just remember, beauty is in the eye of the beholder
at least you have the self esteem to try to ask someone out.... i don't u_u (I really don't look good, so that's mostly why)
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Heh... I don't look very good at all... I'm just crazy. I really don't care what people say about me anymore, because I got good friends to back me up. ^_^
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I'm charismatic and a brilliant speaker. I'm not trying to sound arrogant, but that's what I am. The art of speaking, writing, and even music is my forte. So I generally have very few problems speaking to others.
However, I'm so incredibly introverted that I rarely venture out of my small circle. I could count the people I consider friends on half of a hand. It's not that I'm socially awkward, I just don't want to put the effort into making a bunch of friends I don't need. That's just my preference, as I'm always a bit of a loner.
So it boils down in a personality and mental aspect that I probably could have many sensible girls, and even convince people who would otherwise not consider me a date to date me, or at least befriend me. However, I choose not to. That's just me. And I think in the long run, it'll help me more when it comes to the girls.
...I forgot what this post was about.
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Yea. I have someone in my class that's a VERY good speaker, and could probally get you to do whatever you want.
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Heh...i was always too shy to ask someone out..i never had a girlfriend or boyfriend throughout school at all. and I never went to the monthly dances we had..because i never had someone to go with...so yea. I've NEVER had a relationship of any type in the real world...
and I rarely go to bars or clubs of any sort...i don't like going alone...plus...i don't think a bar is the best place to pick up someone..<_<
but..i did hang out with a couple girls that were friends in high school..but..I never saw them like a girlfriend...but...there's one girl I've known for a few years now..Debbie..i like her..and she always is happy to see me..I'm just way too shy to ask her out even though she's my friend and i went to school with her...
but..online...i'm like sure yea..i'll talk to you..i'm more sociable online then in RL for some reason..and my IMVU homepage tells that it self..nearly 80% of visitors on my HP are girls.
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(Pep Talks Shadow) Come on! You can do it! I had a crush just like that, and we were happy but I didn't have the guts to ask him... Even on the last day of school when I was going to say something, I didn't and to this day I still regret it... So ask her! Or have someone ask for you or have the note with the checkboxes for yes and no. That's how I do it! :)