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Title: Why is it so funny for some people, but it hurts you?
Post by: ¿ Jesse Pawman ? on April 17, 2008, 03:19:21 AM
I absolutely HATE teasing and harassing, ESPECIALLY if it comes from a family member (my dad's been teasing me lately about various things I do and also about doing sexual things with girls which I really don't want to talk about with my father).

He just can't get it through his bald head that I'm sensitive to that kind of thing and that he needs to stop.
Title: Re: Why is it so funny for some people, but it hurts you?
Post by: WingedZephyr on April 17, 2008, 05:19:12 AM
I feel your pain...

My mother would do that to me all the time, teasing me and making fun of me. It nearly drove me insane. She always thought it was funny because it "got a rise out of me"... I mean, duh, of course I'm going to flip out if she keeps poking fun at everything I'm sensitive about.

It's amazing just how much of my stress was relieved when I started living away from her and that harassment.
Title: Re: Why is it so funny for some people, but it hurts you?
Post by: Blackout on April 17, 2008, 08:58:03 PM
Can either of you honestly say you don't or didn't make fun of people (not like bullying) on a subject which you know hey think is sensitive? C'mon it's funny! Yea, sometimes it hurts when other do it to you, but you do the same thing.
Title: Re: Why is it so funny for some people, but it hurts you?
Post by: ¿ Jesse Pawman ? on April 17, 2008, 09:06:14 PM
Yeah but I don't do it to personal things. I do it to what someone says something funny like instead of "Cuban Missile Crisis", this person said "Cuban Miranda Rights" which cracked everyone up. But teasing for who someone is isn't right.

(teasing isn't right at all I know. I don't want any hate emails now)
Title: Re: Why is it so funny for some people, but it hurts you?
Post by: WingedZephyr on April 18, 2008, 02:35:36 AM
There's a huge difference between a little teasing between friends who know you are just messing around and constant, hurtful jokes where a person doesn't know when to stop. The main difference being that with the former, the other person/people laugh with you, with the latter, it's just someone laughing at you. I can honestly say I don't tease people that way. I try very hard to be careful about what I say. (Not saying I'm perfect, there may have been a time or two when I didn't think about it, but at least 98% of the time, I don't poke fun at people.)
Title: Re: Why is it so funny for some people, but it hurts you?
Post by: Octavia on April 18, 2008, 03:19:26 AM
We all poke fun at each other at work...mainly gay stuff...we all make fun gay jokes about each other XD...but it's all for jokes.

But I got poked fun at school all the time...not for jokes either. almost everyday...didn't bother telling the teacher though...because I knew they'd call a meeting between me and the person that was doing it and i'd just get worse after we had the "meeting"...I had it bad through school...although...I did earn a neat nick name...Chadricton it was...thought it was cool
Title: Re: Why is it so funny for some people, but it hurts you?
Post by: [D.E.M] zetsumei on April 18, 2008, 03:21:25 PM
have you tried asking them to stop on a serious tone?
Title: Re: Why is it so funny for some people, but it hurts you?
Post by: Xegras on April 18, 2008, 07:48:15 PM
Dues Ex, if there anything like my parents thats like trying to flip a train with a feather.

In my family its dog eat dog you either make fun of someone else or you end up the victim of it. I leave in about ten days and I'm hoping i feel better, because thats the only thing that helps me get through the days lately.

So I just went to get far far away.
Title: Re: Why is it so funny for some people, but it hurts you?
Post by: Thaddeus Q. Wolfe on April 18, 2008, 08:46:13 PM
i haven't purposely done that with anyone i hang out with alot, well. except for with rob, but he's the one who atarted that. But, i haven't done anything serious or hurtful like that to anyone i know after the experience i had with that in middle school. That for me was three years of hell, reason being i had long hair and wore hawaiian shirts most of the time, but that sort of thing really does bother me, the teasing and ridiculing.
Title: Re: Why is it so funny for some people, but it hurts you?
Post by: Dakota on April 19, 2008, 03:13:10 AM
i have a problem with getting teased at school, but then again i don't, because i dissregard what people(mainly stuck up preps) say because i could care less what they think, but if someone close to does it then it hurts. only my best friend knows im a fur, i told him today, i knew he would find out sooner or later(he might have already known) so i figured i would explain it to him so he wouldn't missunderstand it.
i also got a nickname im not so proud of "chubs"
Title: Re: Why is it so funny for some people, but it hurts you?
Post by: flames on April 19, 2008, 07:23:26 AM
I don't get much of this anymore, but it saddens me to see so many suffer, in any way. I find that by maintaining a "Frozen Soul" or "Frozen Heart", most forms of insults/teasing/general stress can be negated if you have enough willpower. It has its downsides though...
Title: Re: Why is it so funny for some people, but it hurts you?
Post by: Octavia on April 20, 2008, 06:27:59 PM

i have a problem with getting teased at school, but then again i don't, because i dissregard what people(mainly stuck up preps) say because i could care less what they think, but if someone close to does it then it hurts. only my best friend knows im a fur, i told him today, i knew he would find out sooner or later(he might have already known) so i figured i would explain it to him so he wouldn't missunderstand it.
i also got a nickname im not so proud of "chubs"


Chubs...reminds me of the guy on Happy Gilmore...
Title: Re: Why is it so funny for some people, but it hurts you?
Post by: iKero-chu™ on April 20, 2008, 06:48:53 PM
UGH, I know how that is Jesse.
My Grandma, Uncle and Brothers constantly tease me about my last two exs. +>.<+"
They always make perverted and mean jokes +T__T+"
Title: Re: Why is it so funny for some people, but it hurts you?
Post by: Dessum on April 20, 2008, 08:40:16 PM
Jesse,
TELL HIM.
Tell EVERYONE whos hurting you!
Just sit em' down and let it out.
If my parents/brother are anoyying me more than supposed to, I tell them.
They always stop (Unless its my brother).
Tell them, or try not to rise to it.
Title: Re: Why is it so funny for some people, but it hurts you?
Post by: Dakota on April 20, 2008, 08:44:51 PM
normaly people are more understanding if you talk to them when they arent saying anything to/about you and when its just you and them tell them its not a joke and that it realy hurts you
Title: Re: Why is it so funny for some people, but it hurts you?
Post by: Dessum on April 20, 2008, 09:16:07 PM
My parents very rarely annoy me anyways.
But they have in the past.
I just ask them to stop.
Always works for me Jesse.
Title: Re: Why is it so funny for some people, but it hurts you?
Post by: Thaddeus Q. Wolfe on April 25, 2008, 07:46:03 PM
that thing wouldn't work for me, at least with my dad. He ridicules gays, and i'm bi, so he'd hate that even worse. It would jusst end up even worse than it already is because he makes me feel like crap a lot of times when he gets on his rants.
Title: Re: Why is it so funny for some people, but it hurts you?
Post by: Somebody on April 25, 2008, 10:35:51 PM
I Think my parents would rather me be gay then a Anthro animal lover. Sucks to have parents so set in the old ways. Luckily furry isnt a topic that comes up in my house because they dont know about it and obviously nobody else here is so they don't make lewd comments about it. There was something on TV that inviled this lady who pretended she was a cat and Im glad you all couldn't hear the stuff they said. I just thought to myself. "Im so screwed"

I keep telling myself deep down they will accept me and they just need to be informed about the whole think, I dont think its that clear cut though.

Despite how much I really wanna tell them, I don't (or try not to anyways) let it rule my life. Theres always gonna be rudeness and intolerance in your life I just try to deal with it.
Title: Re: Why is it so funny for some people, but it hurts you?
Post by: [D.E.M] zetsumei on April 27, 2008, 12:07:00 PM
i dont see how liking anthro art is so strange, its just drawings and im 100% sure your parents wouldnt even care about you watching that... unless its yiff, that kinda makes it self explanatory...
Title: Re: Why is it so funny for some people, but it hurts you?
Post by: Dakota on April 27, 2008, 12:10:14 PM
you dont know my parents, the HATE anything new or different. they wouldnt take the time to understand.
Title: Re: Why is it so funny for some people, but it hurts you?
Post by: flames on April 27, 2008, 12:14:13 PM

you dont know my parents, the HATE anything new or different. they wouldnt take the time to understand.

I think that sums up most people's parents...
Title: Re: Why is it so funny for some people, but it hurts you?
Post by: [D.E.M] zetsumei on April 27, 2008, 12:16:38 PM

you dont know my parents, the HATE anything new or different. they wouldnt take the time to understand.


dude, drawings or drawings, whether its anthro or not, whats the big difference? i mean, disney movies feature anthros too, and i dont see parents hating their kids for liking those...
Title: Re: Why is it so funny for some people, but it hurts you?
Post by: Dakota on April 27, 2008, 12:21:45 PM
yeah, i know. my friends understand, they are just drawings, but my parents would think its some kind of a wierd fetish or obsession or something. its just the way they are, they dont understand.
Title: Re: Why is it so funny for some people, but it hurts you?
Post by: [D.E.M] zetsumei on April 27, 2008, 12:23:59 PM

yeah, i know. my friends understand, they are just drawings, but my parents would think its some kind of a wierd fetish or obsession or something. its just the way they are, they dont understand.


ok, enough with the cheesy "nobody understands me" talk, thats just gonna get you depressed, if people can have the guts to come out for the fact that their sexual orientation is different, surely its not weird to tell people you like to draw and watch anthromorphic animals?

im not a furry, but i still enjoy to look at some of it sometimes, its extremely artistic for itself

now lets get back on topic
Title: Re: Why is it so funny for some people, but it hurts you?
Post by: FoxyMcCloud on April 30, 2008, 05:15:07 AM
I figure, if you can't laugh at yourself, you have no sense of humor. :D