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Furry Chat => Rants and Advice => Topic started by: asterisk on May 26, 2017, 06:06:02 AM

Title: I feel so defeated. :(
Post by: asterisk on May 26, 2017, 06:06:02 AM
Put up some ads on furry sites and groups. Nobody replied.

Idk how to feel. Even when I try my best to socialize, it never works.
Title: Re: I feel so defeated. :(
Post by: Fable on May 26, 2017, 01:07:06 PM
What kind of ads did you put up?

sometimes it just takes time and it may take longer then you thought for people to start replying.
Title: Re: I feel so defeated. :(
Post by: asterisk on May 26, 2017, 09:32:47 PM
Just posts saying I was lonely and needed to socialize. Also included a photo.
Title: Re: I feel so defeated. :(
Post by: Albie on May 27, 2017, 01:42:55 AM
Try to look for folks that you are interested in rather than hoping those people will come to you.  ^_^
Title: Re: I feel so defeated. :(
Post by: asterisk on May 28, 2017, 09:49:51 PM
Try to look for folks that you are interested in rather than hoping those people will come to you.  ^_^

Every time I do that, they ignore me and don't answer my messages.
Title: Re: I feel so defeated. :(
Post by: Lawleit on May 28, 2017, 09:53:49 PM
where have you been posting?


don't think I have seen you around?


((New here >_>))
Title: Re: I feel so defeated. :(
Post by: Farrow on May 28, 2017, 10:24:08 PM
Try introducing yourself along with mentioning you are looking to socialize.


Including your interests, hobbies, personality, and lifestyle generates discussion and gives people an idea of who you're looking for in a friend. It will also encourage others to talk about themselves, too!


Also, saying you're 'lonely' often gives the wrong impression. I would recommend saying you would like to make new friends or meet new people.
Title: Re: I feel so defeated. :(
Post by: Armalite_ on May 29, 2017, 09:06:06 PM
You can't sound sad and expect people to come to you. You can only sound happy and do that lol

I would try going outside to socialize more in real settings AKA stores, work, school, etc. because friendship seeking online is just asking for let downs and weird encounters.

If you really absolutely are insistent on seeking friends online, its all about wording, where to post, and how you post it.
Title: Just saw a happy gay furry couple on Facebook...
Post by: asterisk on June 21, 2017, 05:11:19 AM
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I can't take this anymore. I can't handle this IRL loneliness.

I mean these guys were both very attractive, got lots of attention, lots of post likes, positive comments, talented, outgoing, very happy together...

I'll never get any of that stuff. I can't live knowing that they get it and I don't.

And I have no IRL friends. This online stuff isn't cutting it anymore.

Man I just... can't even explain how I'm feeling... it's just so horrible...
Title: Re: Just saw a happy gay furry couple on Facebook...
Post by: George on June 21, 2017, 07:00:19 AM
So what you're saying is other people being happy upsets you?
Title: Re: Just saw a happy gay furry couple on Facebook...
Post by: Malina on June 21, 2017, 08:54:31 AM
This may seem like difficult advice to follow it it's honestly some of the best out there I can give. Turn the negative lonely emotion into energy to go out there and find friends : join a gym /sports club or apply for some part-time classes (if you're not already in school), they can be some good ways to meet new people.
The main thing is putting yourself out there, which I know can seem quite hard but it's really the only way to meet new people. Good luck on it ^_^
Title: Re: I feel so defeated. :(
Post by: Michen_S on June 21, 2017, 01:22:18 PM
Why are you doing this to yourself? From what I read here, and the previous posts from you I read... If what you posted here is true, I doubt we can help you much. You should probably go to a mental health professional.
Title: Re: I feel so defeated. :(
Post by: asterisk on June 21, 2017, 11:13:49 PM
So what you're saying is other people being happy upsets you?

Unfortunately, yes.

It varies depending on demographic.

A gay male popufur couple with lots of talents and fans and things I want... gets me so upset that I can't describe it on here.

Why are you doing this to yourself?
I wish I knew. ;-;
Title: I'm desperate
Post by: asterisk on June 25, 2017, 12:18:18 AM
I hate to admit I'm desperate. It makes me seem pathetic. I'm not pathetic. I'm not ugly. I deserve good things because I put out good things.

But I hate to say... I'm desperate. Yep. And it sucks.
Title: Re: I'm desperate
Post by: Albie on June 25, 2017, 01:27:44 AM
Desperate of what?
Title: Re: I'm desperate
Post by: asterisk on June 25, 2017, 01:46:45 AM
Desperate of what?

Everything. ;-;