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Furry Chat => Rants and Advice => Topic started by: asterisk on March 26, 2017, 12:42:16 AM

Title: I'm desperate
Post by: asterisk on March 26, 2017, 12:42:16 AM
So I'm desperate. Literally. In every sense of the word. Nobody IRL will pay any attention to me. I've never in my life gotten enough attention. I began begging for it. Apparently this "scares" people but I have no choice. I will beg endlessly. I will bend over backward for it. I'll do pretty much anything. I'm pathetic enough where this has to be the case now. I'm sorry.
Title: Re: I'm desperate
Post by: Albie on March 26, 2017, 12:44:44 AM
What are these things that you do for attention? 
Title: Re: I'm desperate
Post by: Ori on March 26, 2017, 12:55:46 AM
That doesn't sound healthy. Perhaps you should figure out why you want so much attention?
Title: Re: I'm desperate
Post by: George on March 26, 2017, 04:52:05 AM
Every sense of the word? Like, desperate for solitude?
Title: Re: I'm desperate
Post by: Trixsie Vixen on March 26, 2017, 03:27:53 PM
Well they more you seek attention the more it will turn people off, but I'm sure you've already found that.  I guess one way to approach it is to decide what attention gives you and is there another way to get that.


For example if you are basically just lonely then it's company you need rather than attention, they are similar of course but critically different.


If you have company but feel unappreciated then that's different again.


If you have company and are appreciated but simply crave attention then you need to be an entertainer and get an audience.


What else can you tell us?
Title: Re: I'm desperate
Post by: asterisk on March 28, 2017, 06:16:49 PM
I need humans that pay attention to me and appreciate my company.
Title: Re: I'm desperate
Post by: Captain Degenerate on April 01, 2017, 05:41:19 AM
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Title: Re: I'm desperate
Post by: asterisk on April 04, 2017, 10:11:48 PM
Wonderful, someone insulted me and I didn't even see what it was. -_-
Title: Re: I'm desperate
Post by: George on April 05, 2017, 09:35:26 AM
Wonderful, someone insulted me and I didn't even see what it was. -_-
0ut of sight, out of mind!
Title: Re: I'm desperate
Post by: asterisk on April 05, 2017, 10:33:52 AM
Wonderful, someone insulted me and I didn't even see what it was. -_-
0ut of sight, out of mind!

I wish. I still obsess/do bad things over people who blocked me years ago.
Title: Re: I'm desperate
Post by: John Red Beard on April 05, 2017, 05:59:41 PM
I know that feeling, but you have to learn to let it go. Easier said than done, I know, but there will always be people who insult you or argue with you, especially on the internet. Letting go of that hurt and frustration, learning how to not obsess over other people's behavior towards you is a necessary step to happiness/out of misery.
Title: Re: I'm desperate
Post by: Rob_Silvermyst on April 07, 2017, 06:40:33 AM
I'd suggest looking around your state for Furmeets. You can find plenty of furries that gather there. Bring something you can use to engage others with. A sketchbook with some art, a handheld game system, some Magic: the Gathering cards, something that you can do with others. Say hello, but don't push yourself. If you see someone sitting by themselves, go to that person and have a nice, pleasant chat.
Title: Re: I'm desperate
Post by: asterisk on April 07, 2017, 06:05:16 PM
I'd suggest looking around your state for Furmeets. You can find plenty of furries that gather there. Bring something you can use to engage others with. A sketchbook with some art, a handheld game system, some Magic: the Gathering cards, something that you can do with others. Say hello, but don't push yourself. If you see someone sitting by themselves, go to that person and have a nice, pleasant chat.

Already been looking for over a year. There's none at all.
Title: Re: I'm desperate
Post by: George on April 08, 2017, 11:02:22 AM
It's not like it needs to be a furry gathering; there's a lot of communities that are accepting of individuals of all decencies! It does seem like furries are the most, but that doesn't stop them from being the only.