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Furry Chat => Rants and Advice => Topic started by: kylethefox on February 27, 2017, 01:20:48 PM
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very oddly, at least once a month i get a weird feeling, thoughout that day i randomly just get dizzy and a very weird taste will get in my mouth, and if i breath in when i taste that taste i almost puke and i feel like stuff is repeating, like ive done this a million times, my oldest brother thinks i have cancer, but my mother is to stubborn to take me to the hospital, she says its a waste of money, is this caused by my seizures in the past? or des everyone get this? please tell me...
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That's really weird... I've heard of nothing that could cause that. I would check up on that if I were you.
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That's really weird... I've heard of nothing that could cause that. I would check up on that if I were you.
i wish i could, but my m.o.m. is the worst, but it leaves me with a depression thought-out the day...
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You should go to the hospital. A lot of times dizziness is caused from an electrolyte imbalance or low blood sugar. Also if you have a bad taste in your mouth you could have diabetes, especially if you're feeling light headed. Does your family have diabetes history? Do you get shaky at times?
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You should go to the hospital. A lot of times dizziness is caused from an electrolyte imbalance or low blood sugar. Also if you have a bad taste in your mouth you could have diabetes, especially if you're feeling light headed. Does your family have diabetes history? Do you get shaky at times?
i cant go to a hospital!! and yes half my family has a major history of diabetes, but why does this happen only once or twice a month?? and no i dont think i get shaky, but sometimes my veins pop insanely!!
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Why can't you go to the hospital?
I don't know much about diabetus, but if it now turns out your family has it you might have the inherited variant and thus you have a very high risk of serious effects from it. I believe death is one of them if it doesn't get treated.
Whatever the reason you can't go to a hospital, at least try to find a way to go to someone who is a doctor and/or has a medical degree to get an opinion.
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Why can't you go to the hospital?
I don't know much about diabetus, but if it now turns out your family has it you might have the inherited variant and thus you have a very high risk of serious effects from it. I believe death is one of them if it doesn't get treated.
Whatever the reason you can't go to a hospital, at least try to find a way to go to someone who is a doctor and/or has a medical degree to get an opinion.
well the reaseon i cant go is my mom, shes just ignores me and says 'your fine' then proceeds to make me work for her, my sister thinks its some kind of brain damage, which would make sence considering i have a hard time understanding people when they speak to me (im much better online!) and i had like four seizures when i was younger, sometimes when i see a certain object, or im at the same place on those days, i start to get major dejavu and then i think you same thoughts i had before when i was feeling the same way and thats when i get dizzy and the bad taste comes to my mouth, what do you think?
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And there s no one else besides your mum who can help you go to the hospital? ):
I think you having seizures might not help at all, that must come from somewhere and maybe it's connected.
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And there s no one else besides your mum who can help you go to the hospital? ):
I think you having seizures might not help at all, that must come from somewhere and maybe it's connected.
no one else in my house can drive, mainly because of bad eye sight (mine is really good though but my mom doesn't want me driving because she thinks ill crash) my older siblings could drive me (they live nearby) and my older brother offered, but my mom doesn't want me going and she doesn't want to pay for it, i think she wants me dead
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I mean while I would agree that people shouldn't (have to) go to the doctor for every small thing, this sounds a lot more serious.
Won't a regular doctor visit be covered by insurance or something, considering you're also a minor? (I dunno how US works, which I assume you live in, but there should be something for minors you can go to with regards to health and safety.)
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im not a minor though, im almost 19, is that considered minor? i wouldn't think so, and this is the only thing i asked to go to the doctor for EVER, yet she still says no...
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Ahw, sorry I assumed you were under 18 ^^;
I was hoping if you'd be a minor that there would be some other way you could get help.
Hmm....
Then why can't you just go to the doctor yourself in that case? You're not a minor anymore then.
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like i said, my mom wont let me drive because if i do, ill get a job, and then ill move out, and she wouldn't like that because she needs me to help her, if i stop working for her she doesn't let me eat, she basically owns me
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Holy cow, I didn't know that! That's abuse and you should report that if that's the case. Whether or not you're a minor anymore would not matter in that case. That's abuse.
If you get a job, you have your own money and income. You can also still help her out if you'd want to then, but she shouldn't force you to. If anything, that kind of behaviour is unacceptable and often pushes kids away from their parents.
You mentioned a brother of yours does drive? Does he still live with your mum or not? If not, maybe consider living in with him and talk to him about it?
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how is that abuse? she doesnt hit me, (she kinda use to) and we are very far from each other, we are very far from each other, i know if i try to talk to her it will just lead to her getting mad and taking my stuff, so i keep my mouth shut, and she also gets mad at that! i cant live with my brother, i couldnt pay for rent! and he cant take me without my moms permission, so im kinda stuck here...
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Abuse is not only physical. It can be mental as well as other frms:
Whenyou look up the meaning of abuse, it says as follows.
abuse =
verb
1. use (something) to bad effect or for a bad purpose; misuse.
"the judge abused his power by imposing the fines"
synonyms: misuse, misapply, misemploy, mishandle; More
2.
treat with cruelty or violence, especially regularly or repeatedly.
"riders who abuse their horses should be prosecuted"
synonyms: mistreat, maltreat, ill-treat, treat badly, ill-use, misuse; More
noun
1.
the improper use of something.
"alcohol abuse"
synonyms: misuse, misapplication, misemployment, mishandling; More
2.
cruel and violent treatment of a person or animal.
"a black eye and other signs of physical abuse"
synonyms: mistreatment, maltreatment, ill treatment, ill use, misuse;
Summarise abuse is improper treatment and mishandling. Forcing someone to -for example- stay indoors never to see other people is also abuse. It doesn't use physical violence but it is preventing a human being to their laws and rights of doing what they want in order to delveop and grow.
What your mother is doing is taking away your right to develop and grow in a very active manner.
And when she does pass away, what then? You'd be incapable of surviving on your own, as it might be you'd be a lot older and not have the possibility to learn new things, or at least not so easily. You might even land on the streets, as you'd have nothing to get you a job.
He is an adult. You'r an adult. You both don't need your mother's permission.
If you're still going to a school I assume you have a councellor or guide. Please talk to someone about this.
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im homeschooled and internet is like the only contact i have with people in my daily life, sometimes i dont even have that, how can i get a job? i have no access to a car, and i still have a little bit of math to do in school, if i go against my mother shes going to starve me and throw me out of the house (shes thrown other family members out) then what would i do? ive taken extra work here, but its not enough for anything, ive get like 50¢ or less a day, most of the time i skip breakfast, sometimes even lunch because are lack of food (my mom goes out and eats at a resturant) so, i think im stuck here....
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There is always a way :)
You can go out and offer services such as cleaning someone's car for a few bucks, doing that with a few each day. Doing garden-work. That kind of thing. Try to do things that require you to be outside to be safe. And keep someone's phonenumber closeby if you need to call for emergency-help.
You can also check and see if there is a newspaper business around if you can deliver newspapers.
Are you studying anything in particular right now? Maybe you can get an apprentiship. It might not pay or pay much, but it will give experience and opportunities.
Waitering (maybe not a good idea if your mum goes to restaurants to eat, unless you're sure which ones she goes to and avoid those), cleaning hotels/motels/other places.
How have your brothers and other family members got over her throwing them out of the house? I assume they managed to move on in some way?
I would suggest talking to them about it. How you'd like to move on to get a job. I'm sure some would understand.
Try to get out and get into contact with real-life people.
She throws you out? Fine, then you can't take care of her anymore anyways :P There are always ways for you to change your situation. You're never stuck.
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Hey Kyle
I saw back a bit that your brother said he'd take you. Let him take you.
You're allowed to see your siblings at least? #familytime
In terms of paying, it sounds like your brother is independent enough to have some cash. Maybe ask him to help you out a little more.
I suggest you hit up your brother, ask him out for a coffee or whatever. That gives you time to talk to him and away from your mum. From there you can talk to him about you wanting to go to the hospital, why you want to go to he hospital and you both share the same mother. He can help you with your mum ;)
I hope that this helps.
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thanks ventus and raz! i guess the biggest problem is that i cant drive, i wouldn't have this problem if i did, i also dont like it when people worry about me, so i haven't told people about this, ill probably talk to my brother about it tonight, yeah ventus, my siblings had jobs when they were kicked out, and so half of my family (there are ten of us, im third to youngest) moved out and all got a house together! its only five minutes away from my house by car, we go out to eat with them every monday, we all get along, so ill try to talk to my brother tonight, thanks for the help guys!
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Honestly, it sounds like you're under the wrong roof
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well ever since my dad moved out its been a disaster! X3
Post Merge: March 07, 2017, 04:52:39 AM
so i talked to my brother and he talked to my dad, hes gonna take me! >w<
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Drinking water and eating well is the only suggestion I can think of other then going to the doctor. If it is really a big problem then you shouldn't ignore it because something really bad could happen.
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so i talked to my brother and he talked to my dad, hes gonna take me! >w<
Glad to hear it! Keep up updated on it?
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i dont think it has to do with my diet, ive tried eating healthy but nothing changes, my dads taking me saturday, so wish me luck! >w<
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Good luck man! :3
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Good luck man! :3
thank you so much! X3