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Title: how to deal with hate
Post by: Snufkin silverclaw on May 14, 2016, 01:11:23 PM
on this topic you post any hate and ill try and help :)
Title: Re: how to deal with hate
Post by: Bricket on May 14, 2016, 02:12:46 PM
My advice when you encounter hate: go fek themselves
Title: Re: how to deal with hate
Post by: Snufkin silverclaw on May 14, 2016, 02:49:42 PM
good but not very effective XD  in the longrun
Title: Re: how to deal with hate
Post by: DragonMKV on May 15, 2016, 07:05:33 PM
The only way hate will effect you is if you aren't fully comfortable with yourself. My advice is: try your best to find out who you are and feel comfortable with it. It's difficult to get under someone's skin if they are fine with who they are.


The majority of people who sling unnecessary hate towards others aren't comfortable with themselves and instead of fixing that, they bring others down.


I don't really have a fool proof way to deal with unwanted hate, except to know yourself enough to know that it's false and uncalled for.
Title: Re: how to deal with hate
Post by: SapiensUrsus on May 24, 2016, 03:11:13 AM
 I'm the person whose visions changes with anger, and my head throbs. However, I've gotten really good at pushing emotions under the rug. (That's also how I deal with trauma and depression) Which is great, cause I don't murder anyone. But anger has a way of pulling itself out one way or another, so I usually write or play an instrument to deal with it. I should note I'm a reactionary angry person, never an active angry person.


But lately...


I have this thing where I get irrevocably angry if hatred or bigotry is thrown at me. I've been putting myself out in the world, both online and in the real world. I've always been really open, so everyone knows I'm a gay furry. Which is not very popular in the mainstream, so a lot of bigotry has been thrown at me. And I react.


What say you about this?
Title: Re: how to deal with hate
Post by: Snufkin silverclaw on May 24, 2016, 07:24:56 PM
My advise find the type of people who do the hate and block them but anger control is key and once you have that you are one step closer to tranquility. I read this quote and it helped me" First they ignore you, then they laugh at you, then they fight you, then you win." Gandhi
Title: Re: how to deal with hate
Post by: Styxx Von Doom on May 25, 2016, 06:20:43 AM
Honestly some people will go the way of Gandhi, others will go the way of hagakure. Me I take some things from hagakure and remember that I am a trained killing machine and laugh (internally ) at how quickly I would make them submit if given a chance.

But I have to be extremely careful as people mean little to nothing to me, and I have lived with hatred and ignorance in my life. Either you consume it, and grow stronger or you fail and be consumed by said hatred.

I will leave you with two quotes. "a strong mind brings a strong body. A strong body brings a strong spirit. A strong spirit brings a strong mind. To falter in any of these will be ones demise."

"when asked  why do we train for war in a time of peace, simply reply: It is better to be a warrior in a garden, then a gardener in war."
Title: Re: how to deal with hate
Post by: Armalite_ on May 25, 2016, 07:32:52 AM
Hate comes in many forms. Trolls, bigots, idiots, and loud mouths don't bother me as much as untrustworthy individuals.

People can laugh, shame, and scream at you but atleast they're up front about it. Hatred like that is not anything that can amount the type of people who will come into your life and take advantage of you disguised as your friend, aquaintance, co-worker, boss, or even family out of envy, greed, or out of pure self-satisfaction of ripping you off. No matter how long you've known these people or how much you've done for them, in the end, you are only a target for their personal gain.

They will never tell you so. They will always reassure you that they're your best friend in the worst of times. They manipulate and guilt you into believing things you don't know who to trust or where the lies start or end - if they end.

Not being able to please everyone in the world is something you are taught.

Not being able to trust anyone in the world is something you learn the hard way.
Title: Re: how to deal with hate
Post by: Orthus Fangwill on May 25, 2016, 07:35:00 AM

How to deal with haters you say? The principles of dealing with such profanity is reiterating to yourself the reason why you chose to be a fur, also being proud that you are one. Formulate thoughts that could boost your morale, and brave the upcoming storm of hate.


Now, if that doesn't work, even though I used too much fancy words for that, try this method.
Grab your swag-glasses and just freaking say:



(http://s2.quickmeme.com/img/f1/f18bbe3264ba7732d5de6628214e3894855ca957f9529f1fb1eaccfcc27e3f97.jpg)


Now gather the army!!!
 B) B) B) B) B) B) B) B) B) B) B) B) B) B) B) B) B) B)
And
Deal with it!
Title: Re: how to deal with hate
Post by: Enkii on May 26, 2016, 11:29:49 PM
enki hate alot of people because Apep said to!


Enki dance