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Furry Chat => Rants and Advice => Topic started by: Remo The Sponge Guppy on January 04, 2016, 01:44:01 AM
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Dad locked himself in his room, says he feels incredibly disrespected, and Mom has been crying and lecturing me about morals values and religion. I feel like shit, moderately broken, and very lost…now what?
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May require a few days to cool off, everyone was angry and emotional so, things just sort of got out of hand.
Might best to properly explain it to them later, but it might be a good idea for now to stay over at a friends place or something, just while things cool down. See if there's anyone who'd be willing to do that.
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I was basically forced to explain it. Of course my mom wholeheartedly denied that it is anything but a personal choice.
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Since I don't know you that well, when you say you came out to your parents, was it about your sexuality or your furryness?
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Sexuality, I came out as gay
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If they're too closed minded to accept their son, that's their loss. I'd say you should ask a friend who knows about your situation (if any do) and ask to stay at their place if it's going to put you in harms way. Wait it out at a friends house until your parents are calmed down enough to talk. I'm sorry for their reactions man, I hope things work out
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I would agree with Anoni and Tempest. Especially if it came out in a tense situation then it may be very challenging for them to get their mind around this "new" version of you. I know that you haven't changed at all but their idea of who you are has changed and that can be very stressful.
That being said, if they haven't come around after a few days, bring it up again and gauge their reactions. They might have questions for you or just might not want to talk about it. If they are still very close-minded about it, then it is their loss.
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Sexuality, I came out as gay
I'd be bluntly honest to them. Or play the sneaky hand. While mostly in today it's all about sex, sex and sex, play the love hand. Because you're gonna fall in love eventually. (Maybe o.o)
"There's nothing wrong with me simply LOVING someone of my own gender, is it so bad? It's not bad morals to love, it's part of who I am, and I can't change that, I'm your child and I don't want my family to neglect and hate me over who I am, you've been with me and raised me through out everything in life this far, nothing about me has changed, I'm still the same person, just who I'm going to be with isn't going to be to your expectations, and that's no ones fault nor is it a bad thing."
But while parents do raise and are responsible for you, they won't always be in your life sadly, you will go out and make your own life, your own family of friends and people who are special too you. So while it may be hard now, the future is always something to look forward too.
Something along those lines. It will take them a while to accept, as it didn't come out in the best of circumstances to begin with. If at home it gets too bad and upsetting go to a friend like someone else suggested for a few days to let them clear their heads.
Over all it's their loss, and I'm sorry for your turmoil.
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Well I'm sorry to hear that your parents are like that, it's quite sad how many people cling to the archaic beliefs of Christianity or Catholicism, I can't offer much advice, how-ever I can show you this video and if you believe that it will help, show it to your parents as well.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=12eCFhXNwpM (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=12eCFhXNwpM)
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If music helps you get through things I just remembered this song.
https://youtu.be/vYoapICIfeE