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Furry Chat => Rants and Advice => Topic started by: juliet on October 20, 2015, 05:45:01 PM
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So I have a kind of question, but its more advice than anything, is revenge worth it?
If someone has hurt you so badly, is it worth it to hit them where is hurts? Hurt them on purpose because they made you feel worthless? Or is it petty?
I was at first, flirting with this boy. (for a whole semester,) he flirted back, even came to my house once. I thought we might end up together, but instead he did the diddley do with his Ex. Then told me. So I just, backed off like any normal gal would. Then he stood me up at a dance, and showed up with another girl, and embarrassed me to death. So I became even more estranged, and he hit the final straw when he began flirting with me friend directly after a bad break up, with her boyfriend of a year, who had cheated on her. He jumped at the opportunity to hit on her. (I found this incredibly insensitive. ) so, with this friend, we were talking and decided to pull a prank on him. We did this simply by saying we had began to date, and now, he is acting incredibly hurt. While at first I felt a sense of justice, not only for me, but for my friend who will now be left alone.
However after contemplating it, I somewhat feel guilty, because I knew that it would hurt him. Exactly the way that he hurt me... When I could have just wanted it out, as I always have...
Did I make a bad decision? Should I continue this?
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An eye for an eye never works out, but I do understand why you would do this. However I do reomend that you shouldn't resort to revenge if emoshion cuases to blind you.
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No you dint make a bad decision, revenge is the only true justice in this world. It would seem to me he was intentionally hurt you anyways, you simply gave him what he had been giving you. For that you need congratulations not guilt. The world will give you no justice you need to take it for yourself. Me personally, I would have kicked his nuts into his chest
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An eye for an eye makes the whole world blind.
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If someone takes an eye than they deserve to lose an eye
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But, if they do then both lose. It is better to forgive and remeber that they hurt you so you will know that the garbege they are, and you can grow as a person.
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If someone takes an eye than they deserve to lose an eye
If you take my eye, then I take your eye, because you deserved to lose your eye because you took my eye.
If I take your eye, then you take my eye, because I deserved to lose my eye because I took your eye?
Besides, if vengeance is taken, it isn't like the person who receives said vengeance is suddenly going to say, "okay, we're good now." You're probably just going to feed mutual animosity and poke eyes ad nauseum until one of the two of you either leaves or dies.
Love is hard to create and easy to destroy. Hate is easy to create and hard to destroy.
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To qoute ras al ghoul
If someone stands in the way of true justice you simply walk up behind them and stab them in the heart
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To qoute ras al ghoul
If someone stands in the way of true justice you simply walk up behind them and stab them in the heart
I don't intend to kill him.
And I should have been the bigger person. So Im going to own up to it. Even though my friend helped me, im going to tell him its completely my fault.
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Their you go. Ok thats good to hear.
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I wound rather thank him for disillusioning you.
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I wound rather thank him for disillusioning you.
What do you mean?
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You can't take relationship as an absolute thing. I'm not saying his actions were right ones, it's not for me to decide, but all he's doing is living his life and you have to live your own. Revenge might give that sick pleasure when emotions are still high, but later you will only feel guilt.
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Like Hammurabi's Code states "An eye for an eye, a tooth for a tooth". I follow this rule mostly because to me it seems fair, unless somehow, it was an accident. So normally I would've also got my revenge, but...I don't want to inspire any bad so you might as well apologize then talk to him about what he did was wrong.
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Well that's a touchy subject. Revenge is an yes and a no answer for the sole reason it might backfire. If you continue what you are doing, eventually it will catch up with you and you might get revenge thrown back to you, on the other hand, if you do nothing, anger will build up and that's never a good thing. What I would do is give him what he deserves, an eye for an eye, just be careful.
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The best revenge is to ignore.
If you spend time pursuing to hurt someone it shows to them that they are important to you, that what they have done has a real impact and that they are better than you cause they had the capacity to destroy you.
But if you succeed, do better then them at everything they can do and when their name comes up you just go "Who? Oh yeah that guy, forgot about him", that shows they are nothing compared to you.
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The best revenge is to ignore.
If you spend time pursuing to hurt someone it shows to them that they are important to you, that what they have done has a real impact and that they are better than you cause they had the capacity to destroy you.
But if you succeed, do better then them at everything they can do and when their name comes up you just go "Who? Oh yeah that guy, forgot about him", that shows they are nothing compared to you.
I like that much better. Thank you Anoni.
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I've wanted revenge on many people as well. It can be worth it, if you get the OK. ESPECIALLY IF THIS PERSON IS YOUR ENEMY. DO IT. DO IT. DO IT. YOU SHALL FEEL BETTER. Surry-nut-surry...