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Furry Chat => Rants and Advice => Topic started by: Keinai on October 13, 2015, 08:17:22 PM
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While I was looking around DeviantArt for stamps to put on my profile and checking Tumblr occasionally, I see this: someone admitting they have some kind of personal problem or illness, and then either being praised for being brave enough to admit it or called an attention-whore.
Yes, people DO lie on the Internet for attention because they're sick bastards who treat peoples' childhoods, lifestyles, mental situations, and habits as copy-and-paste, five-minutes-of-fame status updates. But just as you can't prove they aren't lying, you can't prove that they are, either. Besides, how to you establish the probability of someone lying for attention, if you can't prove that they are in the first place? I guess you could prove an image of DSH a person claims as theirs came from Google Images, but that's about as far as you could go, and what do you do if they don't have visible proof?
The people who claim that everyone is an attention-seeker are the reason I can't speak up against the people who are bullying me, or tell anyone anything else that is troubling me. Whenever I tell anyone IRL, they say 'they're just kids' or 'I'll talk to them later' and they never do. And I never feel comfortable telling anyone online because they're just as un-supportive as the 'authority figures'.
Then there's the argument that 'if you're a white, middle-class American with a functional family you have no reason to be depressed or to cut'.
Last time I checked depression doesn't care about your race, gender, religion, or economic status. It can affect anyone and everyone.
There are no 'requirements' you have to meet.
I'm so sick of being treated like shit and called an attention-seeker, the same people calling me those things are the same ones wondering why so many teenagers are still committing suicide each year.
I know this rant is kind of choppy but I have bad English when I get angry. I really just want to scream.
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So what are you trying to say? Everyone has problems. No one has a perfect life, even happy people. The thing is they just dont make misery out of it
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What I'm trying to say is that don't assume everyone who says they are depressed or had a bad childhood/life are lying for attention.
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I try to never assume things like this, but I can't honestly stand when people use these issues as an excuse pr crutch for things they do.
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Without a doubt there are people who tell the truth, but I dont see any other reason for doing it other than attention seeking.
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I don't know, maybe because no one, not even their family, will believe them or provide the medical and emotional support they need?
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So then you are basically living someones else live, not your own.
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Some people can't afford a therapist or medication, or are old enough to obtain prescription medication without adult consent.
I'm sorry if it seems I'm 'living someone else's life' but I can't help my situation because of reasons, not excuses.
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Please do share them, I'm sure this great community can help you out.
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I can't tell if you're being facetious, and you're pulling me off-topic. I wrote this to blow off steam, not to share my life story.[size=78%] [/size]
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This is not DeviantArt. This is not tumblr. Blaming people here isn't going to help.
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I'm serious, I'm just trying to help you, that's it.
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I'm not blaming anyone on TFF. I'm only stating my experience and feelings with the subject at hand.
And it's not just online, I've heard those things being said IRL as well.
I feel like I need to stop posting on this thread since it seems I'm being unclear with what I'm trying to say. I apologize for misunderstanding your statement, Traum.
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No need to apologize ;) Have a good day. I'm going to bed *whoosh*
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I think the title is what's throwing people off, cause you say "you are the reason I ...." which implies whoever is reading the title.
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Sadly that's just the way of things. We're all about "me, me, me!" And lose our quiet dignity in doing so.
I have depression, have dealt with it and social anxiety for a number of years. If you want help or to talk/vent feel free to message.
I know how stifling and frustrating it can be, especially when there are those who take advantage of illness and when it seems like
all help is a million miles away.
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Well, some just want attention, some actually have issues. Its the world. I don't do this stuff for attention, but people say I do all the time. I'm not an attention-girl.