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Furry Chat => Rants and Advice => Topic started by: Cecilia Peromi on September 23, 2015, 11:31:22 PM
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You guys here are my only friends, and I hate that because I get the see so little of you. My aunt puts huge restrictions on anything electronic. Everyday I only get to be on for an hour and others not at all. There are no furries where I live because all of the hicks have probably ran them off. When I'm not online I'm just lonely. I dont expect you to have a solution for me since Lord knows ive tried to come up with one. I'm just... fed up...
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*hugs cecil*
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I'm sorry about that, but have you tried getting out more?
I don't have any furry friends in real life as well, and none online either. My real friends however, despite not being a furry, are great. Sadly, we can't always have perfect friends.
I'm here if you need anything. :)
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Sorry to hear that, the only thing that I could say is if you have a smartphone you could use it without you aunt's knowledge.
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I do that alot. It's always a risk, because if I'm caught once, it's all over.
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I'm sorry about that, but have you tried getting out more?
I don't have any furry friends in real life as well, and none online either. My real friends however, despite not being a furry, are great. Sadly, we can't always have perfect friends.
I'm here if you need anything. :)
Thanks for the advice. I have someone I talk to at school during lunch, but that's pretty much it. I've even explained my furryness to him and he was cool about it.
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Try to talk about it with your parents and make them let you use internet slightly more/longer.
Our use your phone.
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One option is to try and get your aunt into something online. Once she gets hooked she might be more open-minded. Maybe Pintrest? ;)
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She has a facebook, and she can be on itvas ling as she wants. But me? I can only be online for as long as I've been outside, and because of a thing called weather I can't be outside every day.
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She has a facebook, and she can be on itvas ling as she wants. But me? I can only be online for as long as I've been outside, and because of a thing called weather I can't be outside every day.
That sounds like she's being a complete douche towards you
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She just has this notion that all I care about is video games. Every time I happen to make some kind of mistake she relates it to that.
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Ugh!
My son, if I let him, would play video games 24/7, but not my daughter. She needs to see yo for you, not as a token of your generation.
Old people! *rolls eyes*
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The worst part though is that she hates the idea of online forums and chat rooms. If she knew I had account here... It's really unthinkable what would happen... I just know that if she takes this away my life is pretty much over.
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I'd ask her what's wrong with meeting new people. >.> She needs to be concious that it's not harmful.
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Maybe you could acknowledge her fears and tell her what safety precautions you have.
Some things are hard to get your head around as a parent or guardian. For example I use Youtube for music and occasionally how to vids, whereas my cubs think of it the way I thought about TV at the same age. So I've had to change the way I think about what they are doing and compromise, but they have had to understand that regardless of what activity it is (chatting with friends, watching stuff, playing games etc) the total time on devices is also and issue.
But the main thing is I know it feels like your life would be over and I don't doubt it would totally suck, but I promise, looking back in a few years, it won't seem as significant. So hang in there ;)
Do you mind if I ask how it is that your aunt is in charge? People taking on a parental role for another family member can often overcompensate in protectiveness.
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Not at all, but it's a long story.
I've actually lived with her before when I was 7, I stayed with her in Tennessee for three years before I moved back to my mom and dad's house in oklahoma. That didn't last long because my dad was abusive towards my mom, to escape, me my little brother and my mom went to live with my grandparents. Life was ok then, I lived there for about five years. Then my mom died due to a drug overdose. That was only a year ago, me and my brother went back to our aunt because our grandparents were getting too old to take care of us.
Now don't get me wrong, I love my aunt and I know she loves me, there are just some things I don't understand about her way of parenting.
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Awwh dude! D= That's so awful *hugs*
Does she have any biological children? Also, how old is she?
Sorry to interrogate but... well, as an older fur, maybe I can help you guys see each others pov.
I have a friend who is WAY too overprotective of her kids because she was molested as a child. And I totally get that, because I was too, but if you live in fear the terrorists win. And she KNOWS she is too overprotective but she can't bring herself to change and nobody else will force the issue with her.
If it didn't affect them I wouldn't care but the kids are missing out doing kids' stuff.
Time and time again the outcome from over-protectiveness is that the children don't learn the skills they need and as soon as the parent isn't watching they get pregnant or date-raped or buy One Direction albums.
Maybe an appeal to her to help you learn skills to keep cyber-safe might resonate?
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Yes, I have cousins one 21 and the other 23. One is still in college and the other finished and works at Tyson. My aunt is in her late 40s. My aunt is married and my uncle us in the military so I don't see much of him.
I know what you mean about overprotectiveness. I've lived a pretty sheltered life and that hasn't been a good thing for my development. I WANT to be independent, I WANT to make mistakes because I know I'll learn from them. I want to do all of these things, but I just can't because I'm too young.
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Hmmm, with all due respect to your aunt, maybe you should talk to your uncle when you get a chance.
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The worst part though is that she hates the idea of online forums and chat rooms. If she knew I had account here... It's really unthinkable what would happen... I just know that if she takes this away my life is pretty much over.
Your aunt his beyond hope, and you must spend a probably overkill amount of time planning a routine covert forum session when she can't monitor you. I've been on almost every night, and my parents don't even know I know what a forum is.
If you do this right, you could play you aunt to the **censor** nines and be free from social confinement, but fail, and it's all over.
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Well it's been awhile. I can't really explain, it but it seems like she's been a lot more lenient when it comes to my game/forum time. Of course she still has no idea about my account, but maybe she'll understand...
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EDIT:
I'm feeling very anxious about this. Feels like this has gone on for too long. I've been doing this for several months without any problems, but I've just been lucky. I can't help but think that my luck is about to run out. Maybe I should just get out before it's too late.