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Furry Chat => Rants and Advice => Topic started by: WolvenDogma on December 28, 2013, 09:10:39 PM
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Well, I'll begin by saying I am a closeted bisexual. My ex boyfriend and I were talking awhile ago and we began to kind of fall for eachother. Although I never asked him out yet, I have thought a lot about it. But I don't know, maybe it's commitment issues. I don't know. At the same time I don't know if I should look for a female mate. I know I'm bi but I don't know who I should be with... I really could use some help on this matter. Any replies are appreciated.
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Whoever you have actual feelings for. As far as I know, you don't find the love of your life by walking up to someone like "Hey, wanna mate?". If you end up with a female, then good for you, you can reproduce. That's the only difference I'd say. Just be honest with yourself.
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I know what you mean, I like him but I think my issue is. What if he isn't the one I want to stay with for my life? What if I like him and I don't LOVE him :c
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Then hang out more and see what it's like! You don't have to marry him right away or anything! XD
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That's another problem. We barley ever get to hang out in school and were both in the closet so. Theres not a lot of time for us to hang out together. And if we did go out then it would be very hard to maintain it considering that we don't want people to know about our sexualities. I live in a very homophobic area... :<
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So do I. How tall are you?
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about six foot, why you ask? :3
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It is a little random, eh? I just figure a large stature probably helps deter aggressive bigots a little bit.
Anyway, I don't think you should have to keep this under wraps, it's not fair. I'm not sure exactly how bad your area is, and this is not my decision to make, but I think you should just act natural about this. It's not like you have to go up to everyone and be like "I hope my horrible gay-ness doesn't bother you (http://i1003.photobucket.com/albums/af160/ariellezisme/Picture7.png)", XD just be yourselves and don't lie about it.
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Hahaha, well. I'll put it this way. I constantly hear people rambling about how homosexuality is a sin and gays go to hell. My family does not approve of it either which makes it very difficult.
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I don't know what you can do about that then...I know folks who have gone through some pretty horrible stuff because of this. I'm sure there are other people on here you could ask, I'm out of ideas.
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Hahaha, well. I'll put it this way. I constantly hear people rambling about how homosexuality is a sin and gays go to hell. My family does not approve of it either which makes it very difficult.
I can step in here: My family kicked me out for being gay when I was 16, so for 3 years I have been livung in the woods living off the land. But thanks to this site I have found the support group I needed and even have found my perfect mate. <3
Now for your relationship: I would say if you dont find the feeling of love you can still go for it... (practice makes perfect) I can say just take life slow and learn from your mistakes.
PS: If you need anymore advice or just want to talk, please Message me
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Yeah but the thing is, I'd date him if I could but if we get caught then it would be OVER for me :C I wanna try but I don't know if it's worth the risk.
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If I were you, I would take the risk, but I'm not you, so... XP
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I dunno, I feel like that the spark I felt with the mate that let me... She felt like the absolute perfect one, there was a feeling with her that was incomparable to anything else. But that's a whole nother story... But anyways that spark, I dunno if it's there. I feel like that someone is still out there that I can feel like that for.
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*Pats On back*
I know your feelz, bro.
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What happened? :C
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*Shoots a random PM reply*
It is HARD to not fall into stereotypes.
All Kinds...
Oh, you look big and muscular, so GO PLAY FOOTBALL
YOur Tall and thin and wear glasses? YOUR A COMPUTER NERD!
You wear a tail/ears? YOUR A STUPID ANIMAL PERSON
Your Fat? NOONE CARES ABOUT YOU!
You wear a game t-shirt? NERDNERDNERDNERD!
I Wish stereotypes never existed. Wish.
And so things like this can affect who you are, and make it very different from what you look like and who you actually are. I've had lots of people think i'm something i'm not.
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I guess what you do depends on your situation. If there are ways that you two can ever be alone- at each others houses, online, the park- then maybe you could date and just not show it around other people. I know my mate and I have decided we aren't going to show affection in public because we don't feel it is fair to those who aren't mated.
Perhaps you could date and show it to each other in subtle ways, but to the public you simply look like friends.
It sounds like you like this person but you worried about making a mistake- mistakes happen, it's how you learn in life! If you think he MIGHT be the one then it's a good idea to hang in there and see how things go, whether you make it official or not (:
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Wow, your pretty much totally right. But I dunno, I can't stop thinking about him... I think I might like him a lot. :P I've thought about maybe having him over to my house to see what happened. We've talked a lot about it like cuddling and stuff, nothing TOO far :P
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(sent you a PM as well)
Go with what you feel dude.
In the end, if you really like him, go be with him. It doesn't mean you have to bring him home, but you'll eventually have to tell your family what's up or they'll probably put it together on their own if you bring him around enough.
You shouldn't live your life according to what your family sees as right and wrong, it's who you are and it's what makes you happy.
Love is impossible to describe, but I know what it feels like to love someone and like them. I've been there and done that. Love is what kills you everyday you're not with the person you belong with (especially when they don't feel the same way). I know that feeling all too well.
When I like someone, it's not the same feeling. It's more of a physical/mental connection as opposed to an emotional one. I used to like some girls in high school, but it wasn't like the LOVE I actually shared with my ex-girlfriend of 4 years who I depended on for ALL of my emotional support. She accepted me and loved me no matter what and I'm afraid I'll never meet someone like that again. But I digress...
Trust your gut and follow your heart to where it wants to be. I can no longer do that, but you can. You will eventually learn the difference between love and liking someone. It'll probably hurt you when you realize it, but it's part of the dating game.
You can do it brooo