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Furry Chat => Rants and Advice => Topic started by: Vulpatrino on November 06, 2013, 11:54:24 PM
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Hey, TFF!
Recently, I've been realising I have a low self-esteem. I get embarrassed easily, I don't say much in conversations, and there are a lot of things I'd want to do, but for some reason can't bring myself to.
I'm pretty comfortable with myself otherwise; it's not like I'm trying to change my personality. I'd just like to be able to express myself better.
Any tips on building self-esteem?
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Know for the fact that you yourself have nearly every right, if not every right to be where you are, and do what you are doing.
Also, it should be known, that you have friends in RL and online who support you in what you do, and we'll be there to back you up :3.
Along with this, know that you are worth it; you are an amazing, unique person, and if anyone tries to tell you that you're weird or something else derogatory, or anything else that says other wise, they're probably ignorant about you or what's going on, and probably dead wrong. No need to insult them, but they more than likely aren't cookie cutter products either (By that I mean 'normal, and have no right to judge other people XP )
But most of all, just go and do things to have fun; don't be reckless about it, but if what you want to go do is something you love, and really want to take part in, don't care what other people think!
(Again; don' be reckless, and find yourself doing something that could label you as don't want to be (i.e. rob a bank, unless you want to be a thief... which... uh.... o.o....)
Seriously; go in with a big bright smile, and if you even have the slightest doubt you'll regret missing out, go and jump in! 8D
Hope this helps XD
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While I have no doubt that you're an extraordinary person with a lot to offer the world, I know that sounds ridiculous coming from someone who only knows you from a single post.
If you're worried that people dwell upon your mistakes and remember that embarrassing thing you said/did who-knows-when: they don't. Everyone is too caught up in their own mistakes and insecurities to think much about yours.
Where you may see a collection of social gaffes and missteps, others see a decent, if shy, person they might like to get to know better. Give them a chance to! Not everyone will like you, but so long as you like you - and you rightly seem to! - you will find others who do as well.
It's a cliche, but life really is shorter than you'd think. Do the things you want to do, and the right people will appreciate you for them.
I promise.
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It really depends on where I'm at to be honest.
If I know many people and know them well I'm much more open...
I guess I have low self esteem among people I don't know which makes it kind of hard to make friends.
When I do make friends its easy to hang around them like I'm super open and much more confident.