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Furry Chat => Rants and Advice => Topic started by: Taco <3 on February 27, 2013, 07:46:27 PM
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I feel like crap whenever someone talks about my weight. -_- Yesterday, in the hallway, someone called me......a very mean thing that can not be repeated here. What do I do? I'm working on losing weight, but in the meantime I have no clue.
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Yes, it's normal. Lots of people feel self conscious. That doesn't mean you can't work on not feeling self conscious though. It requires learning how to love yourself and being confident in yourself. Focus on the things that you like best about yourself, and let go of the negative things people say about you because what they say doesn't matter. You can't control what other people will say or do, but you can control how you feel about it. It's not an easy process, and you have to keep working at it, but you'll feel a lot better in the end.
Keep up a regular exercise routine. Not only does exercise help keep off some extra pounds, but it gives you a "natural high" to boost your emotions. Find a type of exercise that is fun so that you'll be more inclined to keep up with it.
Try to project an attitude of self confidence wherever you go, even if you don't feel that way on the inside. Stand/sit up straight, speak loudly and clearly when you talk, and laugh things off when people try to mock you.
Sometimes it helps just to look in the mirror after you wake up in the morning and just stare yourself straight in the face and tell yourself how awesome you are.
Whatever works. :P
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yes
getting around it is simple though
your options are
1) ignore them
2) accept the criticism and use it to improve yourself
3) understand that you are perfect as who you are and you are loved for who you are and there is not anyone who can take that away from you or change you.
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Heightened self consciousness is considered idealistic by plenty but to find negativity in that means that you most likely have a warped view of yourself.
You can either change yourself if you want to suit expectations, find more in-generally accepting persons or ignore them and realise that there is plenty of people like you in the world and everyone is unique in some respect anyway (nonetheless, we all have some form of "mutuality"). I agree with WingedZephyr on the expression of confidence but try to make sure you compromise this as you can also feel a little awkward if you start to act against your own personality especially if its a sharp change from what others recognise you as normally. I wouldn't recommend laughing what they say off too much, either, it can convey false apathy in my experience which can trigger passive anxiety and the illusion of ignorance and sarcasm to the situation. It'd actually be better to ignore completely while you can and since, say, "bullies" (or just highly-opinionated persons) like to get out an emotional response that means if you give them no response they will start disregarding you completely and while that may sound negative it's for the best because that means you can then keep to your friends and/or go ahead making new acquaintances/friends instead of among people who don't like you or some aspect of you just to get a sense of respect, a "niche" if you will. How you are on the inside is also a big player, you only usually get what you give, as long as it's in regards to those who aren't just taking materialistic advantage of you, you got to present yourself as a character (not necessarily through being out-going or making oneself strongly obvious, just your own sense of personality) that people would miss even if you don't share mutual appearance or interests with everyone.