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Furry Chat => Rants and Advice => Topic started by: maggintons on July 12, 2012, 10:53:05 AM
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yea so today i confessed to my mum that i was bi ...but there's a problem
she said because i aint attracted to anyone she knew of that i am not what i think i am and here's the problem ....the only way of explaining why would be to mention the dreaded Y word.... do you know any other ways of proving it?
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Why is it necessary for her to believe you? If you know you're bi, and you've tried telling her, whatever she wants to believe is up to her. It's not like her opinion is going to make you any less bi. You don't need to prove anything to her. It's who you are, and maybe she just needs time to get used to the idea. Let her figure it out the day you find a boyfriend. She can't say you didn't try to talk to her about it.
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I agree with zeph here.
But I also realise from experience that sometimes you want your parents to know, simply so you can feel that they accept you and that you can have some weight off your back. If that is the case and you do want to prove to her somehow that you're bi, you could, well, simply say that you are attracted to men, sexually. I wouldn't give her an example of such an attraction haha, but if she says "no your not" you could say "That's weird, I could of sworn I was, you know, with all the men I've been finding attractive" XD
I honestly don't get how someone can discredit someone else's sexuality. It's like, how could you possibly know better then the person actually having it? XD
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As someone who has been out for over a decade I'd have to say that I agree with Zeph here, and depending SOLELY on your relationship with your Mom that you may react the way Anoni suggested. I definitely wouldn't bring up the Y word with her, because that's hard enough to explain in itself, but anyway, give it time.
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I'm inclined to agree with Jovi, and to hold out that "Y" is something to be avoided, or at least witheld (because that'll be one hell of a conversation, let me tell you) until a later date.
But sometimes its hard for someone to see a person in a different role than is expected, especially in relation to sexuality. See it from her point of view, she thinks one thing for many years, considering that to be right and normal. Then, without warning, you upset that view. I'd recommend just giving her time, to let her aclimate.
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ok then ill do what you all say it seems like the best thing